Who Are The Most Trusted People In Your Life?

@jujunme (2501)
United States
October 31, 2010 11:49am CST
Trust is one of the most important factors in any relationship.but,can we ever be really sure that the person or people we confide in are loyal and trustworthy individuals who will stand up for us,? support us? be there for us no matter what? Do you know of one or a few people in your life that no matter what, you are positive will meet those expectations? i can say i have a few friends and family members that fit this category , but i also know that to be "too" trusting of anyone can be very risky and hurtful to us.
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@vijay12 (1642)
• India
31 Oct 10
My well-wishers are most trusted by me,and there are many.Generally trust and its worth vary with age.Siblings are generally trustful,but later in life,as we move on with our lives,this seems to get lessened.While,100% of anything in Life is very rarely true,a certain amount of trust is needed.It will be really a pity,if a person has nobody,on whom, to trust.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
31 Oct 10
I totally agree that one needs to have a certain amount of trust in someone especially those who are close to us and have proven through time they can be trusted.But as you mentioned no one can ever be 100% sure of "anything" in life, sad but true.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Nov 10
There are only a very rare few ppl in my life that I actually trust, some more than others. I tend to keep things to myself and lean on myself. I don't tell ppl things that I don't intend for everyone to know. I find it's just easier that way. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Nov 10
That sounds just like me...it's nice to know I'm not the only one like that. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
2 Nov 10
YW, and by the way, love your cat photo,so adorable, seems we're both kitty lovers!
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
I find that i am the same way.Most things, i do keep to myself and if i do trust anyone, i would have to know them for a long time, such as family or very close friends, but even with these people, i'm very careful of what i will share with them.
@narayan2006 (2954)
• India
31 Oct 10
In to-days world of growing complexity and uncertainty,finding a loyal and trustworthy person is extremely difficult.People have become more self-centred,egoistic,complex and indifferent. People who are found trustworthy at one point of time fail to remain committed and loyal as time passes. Some people who behave as trustworthy,carry some personal hidden agenda and plan to fulfill.However, some degree of trust exists among people in close family circle. Thanks.
• India
16 Dec 10
Thanks for awarding me the best response. Have a nice day!!
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
31 Oct 10
Absolutley.It seems as time goes by, it becomes much more difficult to find complete loyalty and trust in any one person,with maybe as you mentioned the exception being very close family members.it seems that any argument or misunderstanding can cause a once trusted friend or acquaintnace to break a trust with a mere word or deed.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
1 Nov 10
I trust my husband, my kids,and a few dear friends. I also feel that trust is a hard thing to earn and yet, it can be lost so easily. I try to not be too trusting of anyone and yet, I try to allow everyone the benefit of being turstworthy.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
2 Nov 10
I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt as well and would like to believe most people i come in contact with can be trusted.But i'm also a very cautious person and that's why my husband comes the closest to who i will put my trust in the most. Knowing someone for a good length of time gives you the added benefit of knowing just how much you can rely and trust in them, in other words they have proven themselves trustworthy and the more they do, the more trust you put into them.
• United States
2 Nov 10
There are several people among my family and friends that I know, without any doubts, I can trust.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Family and close friends seems to be the winners when it comes to who people trust the most, at least as far as this discussion goes and in a lot of ways,i feel that's how it should be.it tells me, the ones we know the longest,are the ones we trust the most.
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
2 Nov 10
To be honest, I don't really know if we can actually trust anyone in this world. We think we can and then BOOM! I had a friend for many years and lately for some unknown reason he seems to have become the friend from hell. I was married once and 14 years later I was betrayed and she tried to hide it from me as if nothing had happened. I lend someone $600 dollars and he has now disappeared. I don't know, I just don't know!
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Due to the very sad and disturbing experiences you've had i can truly understand how difficult it must be for you to trust "anyone".especially since the people who let you down, were those very close to you.People are so hard to figure out sometimes and they can change at the drop of a hat.and your guess is as good as mine as to "why" they do.All i can add to this is,life itself is a gamble, risky and lot's of times very disappointing and even though we should never trust everyone we meet, i do hope you at least have, or can find 1 or 2 people you can trust and rely on. Count yourself very lucky if you do.
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
5 Nov 10
I have found two that I can trust completely, God and Jesus. All the other ones, you trust them to a certain point but I am always prepared that they can betray me. It's a fact of life. Even Jesus was betrayed by one of his close friends. So these kind of things happen to everyone.
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
1 Nov 10
There are degrees of trusting. You can trust people with certain things, but not with everything. You cannot expect 100% trust with anyone. Not even your own mother.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
"There are degrees of trusting".You can trust people with certain things , but not with everything"/ So true, you make a very good point here. You can never be 100% sure of anything or anyone.I would add that in comparison to others a mother would be more trustworthy than anyone else, but i also agree that in any relationship, things happen misunderstandings, arguments, etc. Having good instincts and knowing a person for a good length of time is very helpful in knowing woh you can and cannot trust.
1 Nov 10
I would say the people i trust the most are my wife and kids. But i obviously trust my mum alot too, i trust some of my friends too especially a few close ones. Its very important to trust some people otherwise when you really need someone to talk to you would not have anyone to. I find it hard to trust people though as i think people are going to let me down or just lose contact with them.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
Besides family, who i also put most of my trust in, i don't think it's wise to confide in a large amount of people, since as you mentioned, there's more of a chance they will let you down for various reasons, arguments, misunderstandings, jealously, whatever.Theres more forgiveness and loyalty when it comes to family members, even if you hurt thme or they hurt you, most of the time they will still be there for you.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
my doggie, dad, mom and bro but sometimes trust yourself. Ha...ha
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
Love your response, lol, pets are not only the best friends you can have but at times can be much more trustworthy than people and yes, and yes, actually the best person we can trust is ourselves, at least we can keep our own secrets, a secret.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
31 Oct 10
I have a good instinct for people I know that I can trust 100%. The people I trust 100% would be my parents, one sister, one brother and my significant other. I have learned in my 53 years of life that people are not always what they seem. I can pick up on it right away when meeting people. Years ago when I owned a two family home my brother-in-law and his family moved in. There was something about his wife that I didn't necessary trust and after a few years I found her putting a load of laundry over the fence to her mom (in the dark), she lived next door. She was washing their clothes in my basement using my electric, gas and water for I don't know how long. I went crazy and from that moment on never trusted or liked her. If you would do that what else would you do.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
31 Oct 10
I was also blessed with a preception and instinct for reading who i feel can be trusted or not.and you are 100% correct when you say "people are not always what they seem" as in the case of your brother-in-laws wife. a shame, that not only couldn'tshe be trusted which is bad enough in and of itself, but she also took advantage of your kindess in inviting her to move into your home. i have learned very well through the years, that if i am going to put my complete trust in anyoe, it will be those who are the closest to me and have proven through "time" they cna be trusted.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
The most trusted person i have in my life is my mother. There is no secret between me and my mom. She trusted me and i trusted her too. Then,next are my siblings we don't keep secrets to each other too. We even asks advice from each other. Though i am the eldest but i asks for their advice and we always consider each advices. They're the people i trusted with my whole life.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
31 Oct 10
If i had to pick one person i trusted the most, it would also be my Mom.Unfortunately, i lost her some years ago.She was my confidant and a true friend to me for a long time . It's nice to know you feel the same way about your Mom and having siblings you can trust and in turn trust you as well, is an added bonus.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
31 Oct 10
i trust family members the most in my life. they usually don't try to steer me wrong. i can't always say the same of anyone else.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
I would guess that most responders to this discussion would say their family members are the ones they trust the most and i would agree. Unfortunately when it comes to friends or aquaintances , you can never really be sure of thier loyalty, especially as time goes by and people change. in my opinion even though a family member may betray your trust, i don't believe this happens very often.
@msdivkar (23359)
• India
31 Oct 10
Trusting somebody, If I understood you correctly, means doing something for your close relatives or friends and expecting the similar favours from them on later date when you may be in need of it. But as far as I am concerned, I think when you do something for some body it should be done as your duty and should never expect anything in return for that, then the breach of trust does not arise. Ideally you should never try to breach somebody's trust but do not expect the same from others.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
31 Oct 10
Sorry you may have misunderstood what i meant by putting your trust in anyone.What you mentioned in your response, is a kindness or a favor done for someone, which i agree should be done with no expectations of being repaid for this.Basically,what i meant by "trust" is confiding in someone, sharing a personal secret or problem and trusting that this person or people will remain loyal and supportive of you, by respecrting your wishes.Someone you can rely on no matter what the circumstances.
@AnggaYP (18)
• Indonesia
1 Nov 10
actually..i dont have most trusted people in my life because people ever lie to me..so im not fully trusted to anybody..
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
1 Nov 10
That's really sad. Even if you could find 1 or 2 people in your life to trust it would be better than keeping everything to yourself. the fact that people lie to you has caused you to distrust people in general.But, i do understand the cruelty of certain people that can cause someone to become distrusting, i just hope for your sake, this can change in time and you may be able to find that there are people in this world you can rely on.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
1 Nov 10
Dear friend, I trust people according to the judgment I make on them. Moreover I trust almost many who have been trustworthy to me in their approach. Moreover when I do get some unpleasant behavior from others I would be careful or if I been cheated by someone I would be careful with them also. But mostly I see a positive side on others.
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
Friends of trusted friends are be most suspicious in our life. Think about it. How many times have you thrown a party, BBQ or little get together at your home and say to your friends "bring whoever you'd like". And they do. This isn't good, especially since the people they bring over are complete strangers, whom you already trust and respect simply because they are friends of your friends. While in your home they have the opportunity to view your photos, check out your artwork, watch TV on your plasma, etc. The next thing they have to do is ask you about your travels, ask where you like to go and how often. And you'll probably open right up, because after all, they are friends of your trusted friends.
@rautrahul (267)
• India
1 Nov 10
The most trusted person in my life are my parents, my family & my friends.
@gahoi1785 (121)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
hi jujunme, as for me, it is my family. they fail me sometimes but it is still them, that i still trust. but of course, it depends to what matter in hand. :-) speaking of exceptions. :-) happy mylotting.
@rinfour (250)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
Well, i must say that I am not a very trusting person. I only have a handful of friends whom I can trust my life with. In my family, I trust my parents and siblings the most.
1 Nov 10
Trust is something that grows by the experiences and problems that you have encountered together. The more challenges that you have encounter together and the more you have seen that that person have been by your side in both ups and downs, the more you trust that person.