How do you manage your temper?

Feel Better by Controlling Your Temper..... You may think that throwing a flood of insults to others may relieve your tension. On the contrary this attitude can make you feel depressed, stupidly loose your energy and increase your adrenaline. Getting to control your aggressiveness, like any hard-won victory, increases your pride and you can regain self-esteem which in return will make you feel better. You have everything to gain, particularly because long-term aggression often has adverse consequences, whether in friendship, at work or in love and my eventually cause a rejection from others. The "big mouths" are not always appreciated! Eliminate the poor reflexes Do not defend yourself by attacking! Learn to manage yourself when you are in conflict with others. Learn to focus on dialogue instead of attacking. This is an attitude that requires you not to scream at the offender but to listen to the person you have in front of you. Try to understand his attitude or his claims, even if you sometimes feel embarrassed or a coward. Take the opportunity to give events their fair value. If a gentleman has just taken your parking space just under your nose, do not frown, get angry and insult, but learn to express your feelings clearly and without getting nervous. Remember that if you blame the behaviour of other people you must respect the individual and do not undermine him. Try to learn how to master your volume in keeping it low. When confronted with howls from your partner gradually slow down you speech speed and volume and without knowing your partner will do the same without even realizing it! Keeping your volume low will help you resolve your conflicts better! Being overwhelmed by aggressive energy The triggers of aggression are usually stress, dissatisfaction, frustration and worries. In personal life, everyone is faced with the dual role of the attacker and the attacked. Sometimes when being overcome by shock the least thing would act like a cherry on the cake or the tip of the iceberg! To manage better your stress and channel your energy, practice martial arts as karate, which combines a concern for mastery and self-knowledge and respect for others. Ideally, to calm deep anxiety practicing a sport like running, squash, swimming and cycling is the best way to release tension.

Temper Management is all about getting not too emotional with any incident or event. Adding up to the above suggestions.Just think what is the effect of the event or situation on you. Is it effecting your social life? Is it effecting your financial roots ? Is it effecting your job or career ? and the list goes on.... Is the effect temporary or permanent ? What is to be done to get out of the situation. If you start thinking logically your temperament is under control. Hope this helps, It is helping me.

I try to relax and take deep breaths when I know I have a bad temper or am getting mad about something. I also take a few medicines that help me manage my stress and temper. I talk to my doctor about it and he gives to some advice on how to cope. I am getting better but not there yet.

My parents were very strict about losing your temper and acting out when my siblings and I were growing up so that taught me how to control mine. I also count to ten before speaking if I'm very angry and I have sometimes walked away from a conversation that was getting out of hand.

Yes you right managing our temper is too difficult, sometimes you done something bad before you realize the mistakes. To me if I realize it before happen I stop and go outside the house and walk and walk. But you know every time I encounter like this question related to ourself, I always says the biggest and worst enemy of ourself is none other than "ourself"..... see you around

I also control my temper by taking deep breaths. I also just close my eyes for a moment and try to ignore the thing that annoyed me. I also take this time to compose my thoughts so that IF I do speak, I don't say anything that I might regret later on.

I don't :(. Currently my temper manages me more than I manage it. I want to rectify this situation and do it fast. I am planning to starting to practise Yoga to help me in the process. I do a bit of Pranayam at times which is a soothing exercise which allows you to cool off your temper a bit. Cheers! Ram

Hello. How are you ? That is an excellent posting and helpful. One of the ways I have been practising when I feel disturbed is "meditation", trying to keep the mind calm and stable. In fact, I have been practising "Yoga" meditation for some years now, and I find that very helpful for mental calmness and stability. So, when I feel disturbed, I would immediately meditate, even if for just a few minutes. That certainly very much helps.

It really is true that it is not always easy to control our temper. It is certainly something that I have had to deal with. One of the things that I really use, which you mention, is trying to do breathing exercises, relaxation, and exercises to the same effect. It does help me control my anger. I still have a problem controlling it, but it is better than it used to be.