If everything is equal, do you choose the bad boy (or girl) or...

For some odd reason women are attracted to bad guys. I think it's the thrill and excitement of it. Safe guys are sort of boring.. no drama. Many women like drama and are drawn to it. I've had the bad guys.. it was no picnic. It was a lot of tears and pain. He was a sweet talker, so that's what kept me drawn to him. He'd hurt me, then when he felt like having me back he'd sweet talk me into giving in and keeping him around.. until the next time he felt like hurting me so bad. All the while I had a friend who was the safe type. Did what he said and said what he meant. I kept telling myself that's what I needed but for some reason I wasn't drawn to him at first. It actually took about 6 months after I broke up with the bad boy finally before I started to see everything the safe guy had done for me and really start to appreciate how much he cared even though he wasn't smooth, romantic, or a sweet talker. Needless to say, he's the one I ended up marrying. The only problem I have is sometimes I long for the sweet talking. I constantly remind myself that those sweet talkers usually have a reason for needing to be so smooth... like they're drawing other women in while they're supposedly commited to you. So the fact that mine can't sweet talk to save his life should be reassuring for me.. but I still miss it once in awhile.

It's not the good or bad per say for me it's more the funny one! regardless of looks or situation humour always seems to get me. Looks can fade and you can dig yourself in or out of a hole (bad situation) but if you have humour you can get through it. Thats what i think anyways it's not something I consciously do but I always find myself attracted to someone who makes me laugh regardless of anything else about them.

I think there is something sexy about the bad boy there is a part of us that want to tame him. Like you said sometimes they do have potential. Before I met my husband I dated a couple of bad boys but when I saw they had no potential it was bye bye baby, I did not want to fall for a loser. I actually mostly went out with the guys who had a lot of potential. Most of my boyfriends were good boys with good grades etc. The bad ones never made it more than a week with me. A guy had to have potential to be with me.

Though there was a time in his life that my husband would have been considered to have been the bad boy, by the time that I met him he was one of the few people that I had met that was actually going somewhere in his life. So, I think that if I really thought about it, for me there would be an equal chance of me picking the bad boy as there would be a chance that I would pick the person that was going somewhere with their life. However, I couldn't be happier than the choice that I made.

Honestly speaking, I like both of them, but I ended falling in love to a "bad boy". Maybe the reason is that I understand what he feels. I didn't fall in love because he's "bad", I fall in love because of what he feels inside his heart where no one can sees through him, because anyone sees him as a "bad boy" and they didn't give him the chance to understand the "true person" inside of him. I believe that he's good even if majority sees him as a "bad boy". Yes, I believe that if I choose the "good" one, my life would be better-- but for me, we could stay as friends, we could have the same interests because we're already "both" good--- I think, "common repel"--- we're already satisfied and contented to each other-- I mean, how could I fall in love to a "good" guy if there's no challenge and if everything is perfect? So, I've realized that even if I choose a "good" guy, I never ended falling in love with them. Based on my experience, even I tried to choose the "good guy", I still ended up falling in love with the "bad boy"-- Maybe, "opposites attract"? ...no one "understand" the "bad boy" but only me who could understand him because no one sees through him, but only me.

i think that not always girls choose the bad boy. we cant choose who we will feel attracted to^^ if he is a good boy and feels that girls wont like him bcs of that he is wrong^^ is like you say sometimes they are bad bcs got hurt in the past^^ and some show that they are cold but inside they are not^^ its only their style^^ your friend shouldnt think that girls wont choose him bcs he is a good guy^^ girls have different tastes^^ like you say people feel attracted to different things^^ just maybe he didnt find the right girl yet. but for sure he will find^^ comfort him^^

I think we as woman love to be the one to tame and change the bad boy. it's in our nature to fix things. Bad boys are cool, but i would take a good guy over a bad boy any day.

Nonsense, I haven't ever gone for a bad boy. Not yet anyway. :D

In my younger days, I was always attracted to the bad boy simply because he was exciting!!! However, when the time came to settle down, I went with the good guy!!!! Thinking back, I think the bad guy was unpredictable & gave me the excuse to take care of him (nurturing side kicks in). When the time came to get serious, I needed the soft loving side of the good guy!!! I think it is hard to find a bad guy with qualities that equal the good guy!!!! So, I don't believe that you can find an "everything equal" to find out the answer to your question. All I can tell you is the good guy won out in the end with me!!!!

Though the bad boys are intriguing for multiple reasons (they're like forbidden fruit, you think you can help/"save" them, they seem more exciting) I believe that I will choose a good guy every time. I might flirt with the bad boy, but I will stay with the good guy because most of the time its the good guys that will make you happy in the long run.

I'm... Well if I'm to choose between a "bad" boy and a "good" guy, I'd go for the good one. Sometimes, there are people who are really bad and hard to change. Also, it depends on how "bad" they are.. Maybe they're just a little naughty and I think that's fine but if they are... you know, like criminals, NAH!!! I won't let myself be in trouble with such persons. Another thing, maybe your friend just wanted someone who turned out to like someone his opposite. Like if your friend is good, the girl chose the bad one. Just tell him what one likes is different from what other likes.