top five qualities for a man
@cookieduster16 (134)
United States
November 1, 2010 7:48am CST
Ladies, I am sure that all of you are well aware of the fact that we men have no clue about what makes you ladies tick, so please oblige us men and let us know what are the top five qualities you look for in a man that you are considering for a long term relationship.
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@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Five qualities I would have to have in a man
1. Lives a christian life
2. Doesn't judge others for who or what they are or have
3. Gives to others because of compassion
4. Shows respect for his wife in private and in public
5. Has health insurance and some money
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Oh. Oh. Oh. I just read the others and I left some things out. I just assumed the being attracted in every way was understood already, so that too.
But yes! I've absolutely always had relationships with people who made me laugh. Got to have that!
@cookieduster16 (134)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Great answers, though I count seven. I really like that you put Christianity first, and your next four on the list directly relate to Christianity. All the responses from you ladies are really good, but we could all learn that God is the most important part of any relationship.
@celticeagle (168171)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov 10
Men have no idea only because they don't take time to listen or dealve into the real psyche of a woman. I think the most important thing for a man to be is approachable. Don't intimidate. Then being honest. Funny is important. Intelligent. And affectionate. I think that about sums it up.
@cookieduster16 (134)
• United States
2 Nov 10
That is so very true, that men do not take the time to listen to and learn about women. The qualities you list are very interesting, much can be learned from what you say.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Here are mine: (in no particular order):
1.) Kindness (Some of my friends are with total and complete jerks, and I could never understand this.)
2.) Down to earth/Sense of humor (I am seriously attracted to guys who aren't afraid to make a joke here or there.)
3.) Chemistry (there has to be chemistry between us!)
4.) Financial security (I am NOT NOT NOT a gold digger, I just think the idea of a steady, full-time job would be a lot less stressful than someone in between jobs or someone who can't hold one. Not saying I wouldn't date anyone who didn't have a job, but it's a serious factor).
5.) Someone who doesn't like shady-ness and doesn't like to play games.
Well, there you have it!~
@cookieduster16 (134)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Very good, and don't apologize for wanting financial security. Money is like oxygen, no one can breathe without it. You sound very practical, and I mean that in the good sense, as a compliment.
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
hello cookiebusters!
i'd say the top 5 qualities i would look for in a man i want to spend my lifetime with is, he must be responsible, passionate, faithful, has a sense of humor and he must love me as much as i love him or more than i love him, if its possible. I say responsible because i don't want my man to just leave me with raising our kids and the family just because he's not up to the responsibility when time comes. When a person is responsible, even if gets astray by temptations and other distractions, he will never ever leave his family because of his responsibilities. Passionate, well, i am passionate and i don't want to be like making love to a wall, one who cannot even equate my feelings. The man must have a sense of humor to help us through rough times. and he must love me or else, i would not want to be spending my life with him.
@cookieduster16 (134)
• United States
1 Nov 10
Thanks, very informative. I am wondering, though, if money ever plays a role in this equation, and if so, how much of a role does it play?
@cookieduster16 (134)
• United States
2 Nov 10
You hit on a very important aspect of relationship here, responsibility, and it seems to me you imply a very forgiving attitude on your part. If a man gives a woman security, she can forgive him much. You don't seem to demand too much, and you insist on passion, which is sorely lacking in many relationships. I applaud you for putting so much emphasis on children and family, as would any mature man.
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
The Top five qualities I look for a man are:
1. Faithful - this means honesty as well
2. Responsible - You have a future with him, a hardworking man and thinks about having a good future for himself and for the people he loves
3. Respectful - this is important because she'll see how proper you are and this can be applied in different situations though (like being a gentleman, being polite etc.)
4. Sweet/Loving - being sweet is relevant with being thoughtful, I'm not saying that you have to give her expensive stuffs but a short letter saying how much she means to you will make her feel loved. A compliment, saying that she looks beautiful never fails.
5. Sense of Humor - every girl wants a guy who will make them laugh or smile :)