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I recently broke up with my boyfriend. The reason for the break-up at the time was he was verbally abusive and completely and totally insane. Now, rewind back a few years ago to an incident that happened.....He started going to a bar and told me I was not allowed in there becuase it was a place where he and his buddies hung out. First of all, I never go to this bar anyway but the principal is, he has no right to tell me where I can and cannot go seeing as how it is a public place that is open to anyone. In the weeks that followed, he started going there more and would be out until the sun came up and would tell me he was just hanging out with the boys. He than removed his relationship status with me on facebook to make it look like he was single and used the excuse that he did it so that he could protect me from some not so savory characters he thought were after him and didnt want them to know he was going out with me. At the same time he added a female bartender taht works at the bar to his facebook (right after he removed me!) I saw this and questioned him about it and he said she was just a bartender who chatted with him sometimes when he was buying drinks and nothing else. My intuition told me the opposite and even my friends and family told me that he was cheating. I didnt say anything more until I sent him a request to add me back to his facebook and he flipped out and yelled and shoved me and told me I was psycho, insane and untrusting. Fast forward to a few weeks ago....after we broke up, I started dating again. He found out I was dating and accused me of "getting over him to fast" and was "hurt" that I was dating again already. Something was just not right about this and my curiosity finally got to the better of me and I had to find out what had been going on between him and this bartender if anything. I did the unthinkable. I hacked into his facebook. I know it is wrong and an invasion of privacy but I had to find out what had been going on. He was always making me feel like I was the villain and I was psycho and he ruined my self;f esteem by making me think that I was these things....anyway, it turns out that he did cheat with the bartender while I was with him and there are emails in is inbox to prove it. He told her he loved her since the moment he saw her and all this BS. It does not bother me now that this happened.....what bothers me is I stayed with him and believed him when he was saying I was all those nasty things for not trusting him and I wasted over two years with him when I could have moved on and found someone better if I had of known than that he was cheating. He ruined my life. The other thing that bothers me is that he was accusing me of dating too soon after we broke up but yet he was over me years ago while he was still dating me!!! Does this sound like someone who is sane?? My question now is.....did I do wrong to hack into his facebook and find out what I should have been aware of years ago? What is your take on people logging into someone elses facebook or email if something bad is suspected....I feel bad about doing this but I also feel that I should of did it long ago so I could have moved on with my life. What do you all think of this situation??