Was I Wrong?

is this a second relationship? sometimes we really make mistakes out of love. we feel blinded by being so in love. we can't do anything but let those things happen to us,allow ourselves to get hurt...but dear, if this things is bothering you and you feel that this will not change anything, why don't you move on with your life? i know there are better things for you than letting these things make you feel disappointed and discouraged. sometimes these things happened because God wanted us to be a better person, God is teaching us to be stronger in this times of hardship. don't let his mistakes take over your life.if you'll be harboring all the anger everyday, nothing will change in your life. but forever you'll be harvesting anger and hatred because he made a mistake. move on with your life. God has better things stored for you.God bless and have a great day.

sounds familiar... you can just admit to yourself. you dont need to explain to people as they will only push their opinions on you and will only confuse you. dont think of it as making the wrong decision, rather you were just given a preparation to be stronger for a new relationship. the experience may have hurt you a lot but you cant deny the fact that it made you happy and your fighting for the relationship proves you felt so much love in return that you chose to do that. admit but dont regret.

Hi eureka! I won't say that if somebody has taken this kind of decision and s/he faces the type of situation, which you have narrated, should be termed as having done some 'wrong'. At the time of taking decision, s/he was sure and confident that s/he was taking the right decision, later, if s/he finds that decision turned out to be an incorrect one, s/he should not blame himself/herself. S/he may console himself/herself that it was her/his fate and try to adjust with the given situation. I know it is easier said than done.

i am responding .. just by reading your lines, and not after reading the different comments and responses that other friends and mylotters have tried .. either through judging the scenario, or from experiences. (It is because, I don't want to be influenced by them). Now, friend.. IF one is not able to convince the parents about the love on some new-person, .. if the love could not be shared with siblings, parents, neighbors, ... and others with whom the life is intricately entwined, ... HOW is one to believe that it is LOVE and relationship with this new-person! .. hence, i think, the primary assumption about love is a FAILURE and FAULT from the start itself. having spent so many years, or even kids and family do not matter. Now that 'cat is out of the bag' .... and the issue FORGIVEN, ... try sharing UNIVERSAL and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! .... IT HELPS! --------------------------- sorry about being philosophical, but... that is what I would do!

Hi sweetie. You know, we cannot tell our hearts what to do or whom to love. If you love, then that is it. No matter if the family is against it or that the person have children or not. We can only make a relationship work, when both really give love and attention to it. To blame one self for the other one's wrong doing is not fair at all. We are never wrong for fighting for love. That you always have to remember. TATA.

i dont know as ive never been in the situation

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved. They say this and I believe it is true. We all need love in our lives. Don't regret your decision and don't let others say "I told you so". Live life for yourself and let it be a valuable lesson.

Fighting for love, doing what you thought was right for you Isn't wrong. It was just the wrong guy. Now you have to ask yourself , what is more important, pride or happines? If you feel you Have to stay to prove Everyone wrong , then pride is what you care about most. But if you now see the lationship isn't working and you did all that you could to make things work and you are Still unhappy , leave. That means happiness is what you care about most. Don't let Anyone stick it to you by saying. I told you so. It was your decesion not theirs. You Thought he was someone you could love and not an a$$hole. It is he who messed up , not you . You followed your heart and that takes courage to do. So do what i best for you and try not to close your heart. This guy doesn't sound like MR right but that does not mean MR Right isn't out there. Follow your bliss.

yes...sometimes we are wrong and we don't accept it easily....and to prove that you are right you go on hiding the faults of that person and you suffer a lot...better wake up at right time and save rest of your life...rest in peace and also let others live like that....

I know a girl who spent 3 years with a man. Everyone warned her she was making a mistake. Later it turned out he was married, and she was not the only girl he had on the side. She never admitted making a mistake, and as a result ended up with another horrible abusive guy. Pride will ruin you. The best thing you can do is admit your errors, learn from them, and move on. Refusing to do that, results in you end up in the same problem again.

For me maybe but it is your choice so be it.

~This is life, we follow with our hearts, my mum has thought badly of some of my ex's but has always been nice to them and never rubbed it in that they were right. We act at the time on how we feel, people know people differently and see people differently, it is life, it will haunt you and sometimes is hard to move on from this, hope you can, look forwards not backwards.

Indeed you were wrong and it's time to move on. How could you keep on fighting for that kind of love when you're not even respected a single bit? Respect and trust are the two most important ingredients of love. Without these, it would never work out at all. I always try to listen to my parents' opinions regarding the person i am with because parents have instincts. If your parents don't have any motive at all in choosing the right one for you and they have an open mind, their instincts are always correct. Time to move on girl and find yourself once more. You deserve to be happy. And there's nothing wrong in admitting your mistakes. Just learn from it and try your best not commit the same thing all over again.

Making decisions when you are happy will never be wrong so don't think that you made a mistake. It was not your fault, afterall. Now that reality comes that what everyone's is telling has been proven, then it's time for you to decide righteously. What do i mean? Ask yourself. Are you still happy with what's happening? Is it righteous that he is cheating you and disrespecting you? Is the relationship still based on love and faithfulness? If your answer is no, definitely you have to decide to put yourself together and stand for what is right. Always remember that love has sacrifices but never sufferings. Don't be afraid to give up on the relationship, just lift up everything to God and He will direct your life to happiness.

When you don't admit that you're wrong means you're being hard headed. If you don't admit that you're wrong means that you're not accepting defeat. If you don't accept that you're defeated then you can never learn from that defeat and can't make the right move. Simply speaking, you're in denial and you're living life in your own bubble. Learn to accept defeat, be humble and stop wishing for some miracles to happen to make things better for you. You're in the best position to change things for the better. Shallow you're pride since it is the one that's keeping you into looking at things more clearly. Just remember that we all make mistakes.

i think that we must not regret the decision that we have made in our lives because it made us the person that we are at the present...yes, that decision may not turned out to be the best choice that you made in your life...yes, that decision may cause you painful memories and even hurt the people who cares a lot for you...however, that decision has made you happy for quite some time...and that decision will surely give you lessons that will hone you to be a better person in the future...yes, you can admit that it may not be the best choice, but there's no use looking back, so instead of being pessimistic and looking down on yourself for a failed decision, pick up the pieces together, throw away the bad ones, and keep all the things that you may use as a weapon to create a better future out of a broken past...

maybe you have failed again for the second time around and you need to admit that you did a wrong decision for fighting for your love, it will helps you lessen the burden that you have inside. But you need not to blame your self for what happen as long that you knew that you did your best to have a smooth and to remain that the relationship intact and don't hesitate to fall in love and experience being love again but be wish.

i can relate to your situation. we tend to be blinded when we feel we're important to that person.did you say you had kids from a previous relationship that didn't work out and you're referring to a different person now?or he's the same person? if he's different, i think you should move on with you're life.if he will always be doing this to you, do you think you will be happy for the rest of your life? if he's disrespecting you i don't think there is love left for you. the hardest thing is to forget about the past.but if you will always be hanging on the past mistakes you can never move on.face each day like a new day, live each day and be happy. if we always hold on to that mistakes , yes it will forever haunt you.and forever you will be living with those mistakes and it will not change your life. forget about it, there is a better future for you. God gave you that insident to make you more stronger and and a better person. God bless and take care.