Has anyone else have a Teenage daughter who's outta control?

Well I'm sorry to have no advice for you but I'm going through something kind of similar with my 15 year old stepson. He has been caught twice starting a fire in the house, failing school and is just ignorant to us. Our hands are tied as well and have no idea with him because he is going to burn the house down eventually and kill someone. So all I can say is hopefully things turn around for you and i hope all works out.

I would think there would be alot of things you could because she is only 14 and is still a minor.When you called the polic they didnt go get her?I would think if she left your house she would be considered a runaway.But to change her mind I would consider maybe to go to your local juvenile center and maybe take a little tour of there.

i don't have a kid yet but i have a niece who's kind of outta control. my parents are affected because people asks them about their granddaughter. she drinks and smokes at the age of 13 i guess.. she got boyfriends one after another. she sometimes sleep at someone's house without telling her parents or asking them prior. really sad and bad.. we sometimes get mad though we're supposed to keep our cool and just advise her..

I think this can happen if she has too many friends at school, in person and or online. And also, you might have gradually let her have too much and then she thought wow Im fine on my own. Maybe talk with her and bother her to the point in that she will want to come home. Don't leave her!

Daughters are blessings of God and some times these blessings turns our life to hell. I dnot have such experience but I think in this case sit with your daughter listen to her very calmly and note every thing that she wants. There ll be some conflicts, some rules that she would not like ask her why these rules are not good for her, why she is not obeying those rules, there may be some thing for which she is right, be positive and open minded to her, when you talk to her put yourself at her situation and think what would you be thinking at that time, this world is like this, give some and get some, give some room to her, listen to her and very politely tell her what is her benefit in obeying this rule, dont be harsh to her, if you are harsh then she ll never listen to you, girls are like a new stick which bends in what ever way you want, but when it become rigid then if you want to bend it, it ll break, So I think sit with her and talk to her very politely this is the only way to solve this problem... Have a nice day...

Some teens just grow up like that due to certain factors like influence of peers, the environment they grew up, the "in" thing they see around them... Also, many parents forget to shape their children while they were very young and still can be shaped the way parents want to. I'm not saying you've not been responsible enough. Sometimes, no matter what parents do to give their children everything, the child just wants to do what she wants. You should be strong and talk to your child about this matter. Tell her what results she will have leading this kind of life. And show her that if she has realized her mistakes, she can always come back to you and you'll accept her. Don't shout when talking to her. It also makes her more angry and more rebellious. Give her a good environment at the house too. Maybe the atmosphere inside the home is not so good and she is trying to find a better one. Spend some time talking to her heart to heart, not shouting, and try to encourage her to speak out what is in her heart. That way you'll know why she is doing this thing and be able to work things out to help improve your relationship with her.

There should be plenty you can do. For a start, your daughter is a minor and therefore under your jurisdiction as a parent. If you are not happy about where she has moved out to and feel that she is at risk, you can and should contact Social Services. She does, it is true, have some "rights" but I would be 99% certain that she doesn't know what they are and is trying to make out that they are far more than they are. A good social worker ought to be able to 'talk her down' and realise what she is entitled to do and what not. Difficult teenagers are nothing new, unfortunately: it is part of growing up and finding their feet as responsible adults. They need good guidance and also to learn what is acceptable and what is not ... and WHY! They rarely get that by running away from home! Your concern, of course, is for her safety and there are times when we have to enlist the help of others. The police, doubtless, are not interested, apparently, because she hasn't committed a crime (yet) and, of course, you don't want that to happen. They should, at least, be able to advise you on where you can go for help - and they will probably give you the address of the Social Services, if you don't already have it.

Hi Stacy, I had a daughter who was once pretty out of control. She was a little older than yours when it started. If memory serves, she was closer to 16. You are right...the police are of little help. In fact, it is probably best not to involve them. When she threatens to move out let her. I KNOW how hard but stand tough. Let her know that you have rules and if she wants to live in your home then she has to do the rules and that's it. Where does she think she is going to stay? There are rules in every home and she will soon find out that no one will put up with her behavior for long and it isn't to her benefit to keep acting out. Is she going to school regularly? You are not alone.