If you aren't going to comment back to responses, then don't start discussions
@rosekiss (30414)
Eugene, Oregon
November 1, 2010 12:09pm CST
Hi everyone:
I have seen so many users in here especially new ones, that just won't follow through with the discussions they start. Those that just start one discussion after another to me are here for only one thing, and that is the money. When they don't get earnings, then they complain about it, but it really is their fault as they just think that starting discussions is all they need to do and not do anything else. Well, I am here to tell those that do that, you are just wasting your time even starting discussions. When I see one discussion after another started by the same user, I will maybe respond to one or tow of them and leave the rest go, as I know they certainly aren't going to comment back, so why bother? Pleas, don't just start one discussion after another and not follow through, as you are only hurting yourself, and you won't earn for just posting and not taking the time to keep your discussions going. I don't start all that many discussions as I want to be able to comment back to the ones I do have, as you can be assured that one you respond to my discussions, as I want to keep them going, and besides, I am here to learn as well as earn, which isn't all that important anyway. Everyone have a very good day, and happy mylotting. 
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
1 Nov 10
Well said! 
I wonder if many realise the meaning of the word 'discussion' when I see so many topics with no comments back. If they start conversations like that offline and don't respond to those who join in then I wonder if they then complain that no-one listens to them 
I don't start many at all and especially when I know that I will not be around to continue the topic and participate in it.
I wonder if many realise the meaning of the word 'discussion' when I see so many topics with no comments back. If they start conversations like that offline and don't respond to those who join in then I wonder if they then complain that no-one listens to them
I don't start many at all and especially when I know that I will not be around to continue the topic and participate in it.2 people like this
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
1 Nov 10
Well put, me also-I don't usually start one unless I have something interesting that I want feedback on :) I think a lot of people that come to mylot get confused-they think quantity-not quality..and by starting a lot of discussions on basically the same topic-they will earn payout faster than others.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
1 Nov 10
Those are usually the same Lotters who then complain that the earnings are low too. I only they would get involved in their discussions, or even in their response boxes on discussions started by others, then they would understand what it is all about.
Happy Lotting to you too! 
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
1 Nov 10
Yep, if they took the time to follow through, then they would soon realize that they could earn more than leaving them go. I would sure like to see the look on their faces when they realize they won't earn for starting one and not commenting to any responses. In that situation, they didn't read the faq's and guidelines like they should have before even to start posting in the first place. In the meantime I will contimue to help those that need it.
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
1 Nov 10
Amen! I've had this happen a few times already in the past few months. I comment to a discussion and never get a response. So I get to thinking-What do they think the purpose of mylot is? Discussions..but you can't have a one way discussion, now can you? 
I always go right to it, read them and respond..but there has been several times where I came up with several responses that were quite offensive and I wasn't sure how to respond-and as the good saying goes-"if you don't have anything nice to say-then don't say anything at all"...so I left the rude, nasty commentors to themselves...responding wasn't worth my time-or money-in their case.
I always go right to it, read them and respond..but there has been several times where I came up with several responses that were quite offensive and I wasn't sure how to respond-and as the good saying goes-"if you don't have anything nice to say-then don't say anything at all"...so I left the rude, nasty commentors to themselves...responding wasn't worth my time-or money-in their case.@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
1 Nov 10
I wouldn't comment or respond back to those that are rude and obnoxious either. I have noticed at different times where discussions either didn't have responses, or if they did, then the stated left it go and didn't comment back to any of them. I feel that a discussions is one where everyone participates, the ones that started it and the ones that responded. We all need to work together to keep mylot what it is, a very good site. Thank you for your response, and happy mylotting.
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
2 Nov 10
When rosekiss complains, one has to take the charge seriously.In all these years I have only seen positive comments from you, and when you complain, I can understand how annoyed you must have been with the new members who start a discussion, but do not even bother to visit that discussion once again.
Well what to do, we just have to grin and bear it.
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@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
2 Nov 10
Rosekiss, you have certainly not offended me. I love you. You are one of the regular responder to my discussions. I did not mean to advice you, I just mentioned that when a senior and jolly members who has given only positive responses to all discussions starts a serious discussion, people have to really make a note of it.
Have a nice day.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
You are so right, and yes I have decided not to go there again. I didn't mean to complain, it is just that I want others to be made aware of what mylot is all about, so that they know what they really should do in here. Now it is totally up to them if they do it or not, and really, if they don't want to earn, then it is on them. I hope I didn't offend you here, but I was just trying to make a point. I do appreciate your candor though, and I will take it under advise. You have helped so much, and thank you and have a very good day.
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
As a respondent I truly hope or much I say expect that the discussion poster will reply or react on my response.It gives me a feeling that I have shared something with sense.lol.Since I only answer discussions that really interests me.But you are true there are some that are just poster happy.?Like trigger happy.Just post discussion for the sake of just posting and leave.
I seldom start my own discussion.I only post when something spark in my mind that Im really interested to dig and learn.So giving a response will make a discussion alive and sensible.
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@jujunme (2501)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I will literally go through someones discussion to see if they took the time to respond to their responders and if i see there are no responses, i will close out the discussion , no matter how intersting i may have found it to be. i don't see the point in starting a discussion, asking for an opinion getting people to respond and then leaving your own discussion alone.it tells me this person is "not" interested in my opinion , so therefore why should i take the time to respond? i just won't.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
7 Nov 10
I can certainly agree as when you respond to someone you do expect them to at least acknowledge that you even responded at all. It does seem there are those that really don't care and that is a shame, as to me it is wasting everyone's time asking for responses, get them, and then just not follow through. It seems like they don't answer even one on their discussions, and that is sad. In time they will realize that they won't earn unless they can comment back. Thank you for responding and happy mylotting.
@annejhealyne (18)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
hi rosekiss.
many people start discussion even if it doesn't make sense at all. maybe that's why they don't respond to the discussion they started. isn't it awful?
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
5 Nov 10
When I first joined myLot I only responded to discussions. I never started my own. Slowly, I began to start my own discussions.
About 4 days ago I started about 10 discussions (my first time starting so many discussions all at once) and I always make sure I respond to everyone even if it's only to say 'thanks for responding'.
What I don't appreciate is when those who start discussions don't respond to the ones who commented on the discussion in the first place because they know they won't be getting 'paid' for responding to a comment. That is pure selfishness to me because it's not all about making money here. It's also about interacting with others, finding things in common and making friends.
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
5 Nov 10
I do agree with you and that is why I started this discussion, is because I have seen one discussion after another, with responses, but no comments back to any of them. Now, I am not saying they need to comment back to them all, as it is their preference, but not commenting back to any is being rude, as the discussion starter probably never even went back to check to see if they had any response to comment back on. You are right, they are here just for the money, but they don't realize that they won't get paid for the responses they receive, unless they take the time to comment back to some of them. I think it is wrong to just let the discussion go and not follow up. Thank you for taking the time to respond and happy mylotting.
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
2 Nov 10
That is a good point. There are a few people who just start 10-12 discussions in a row. I am not sure how they think of so much topics.
Apart from certain discussions, I do not expect the discussion starter to respond. Most of the time I myself do not check back to see if the author has responded. This is usually when there is no need to check. Or I simply forget that I responded to a particular discussion.
Apart from certain discussions, I do not expect the discussion starter to respond. Most of the time I myself do not check back to see if the author has responded. This is usually when there is no need to check. Or I simply forget that I responded to a particular discussion.1 person likes this
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
Sometimes I forget which ones I have responded to as well, until I start posting and realize that I had already given a response, so I just move on. When it comes to those that start so many discussions in a row, I will invariably ignore them and maybe just respond to one or so, as I know that they wouldn't comment back to any of the respondents, so it would be a waste of time for me to even stop there in the first place. I would rather respond to discussions that I know will continue on, as those are the ones that I really get the most benefit from. Thank you for taking the time to respond, and have a very good day.
@millertime (1394)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I agree with you Rose but I don't think it will ever change. There will always be "opportunity seekers" who join only for making money. A lot of them will be the flash in the pan type who will show a flurry of activity and then when they don't get rich for a few minutes work, will move on to the next get rich quick scheme. Pretty funny actually. Even funnier are the ones that join and then never do anything. I see that with referrals in all of the programs I am in. I really can't figure out that behavior though.
I don't really start many discussions myself. I keep busy enough just responding to everyone else's discussions. If there is a topic that I'm genuinely interested in getting a lot of opinions and feedback on, I will start one, but that's about the only time. I may not respond to every post, especially if it doesn't really bring anything to the discussion, but I definitely read them all and respond to most.
Have a good day and, uh, you don't need to respond to this if you don't want to... lol. 
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
7 Nov 10
I certainly agree with you on everything you said. I do believe that some give up to easily as they just aren't making enough to suit them. They don't realize that mylot isn't a get rich site, so they aren't going to make all that much. They start poting without reading first what they need to do, and decide if it is something they really want to do. I knew when I first started here, that I wasn't going to get rich either, but just making a little here and a little there does add up in the end. I don't start all that many discussions either, as I just find it difficult to come up with a good topic of discussion, one that others will interested in responding to. I find it much easier to just respond. Thank you for taking the time to respond, and happy mylotting.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
That's tough. I seldom comment back to the responses I get to my discussions because my time is spent in responding to people's discussions. I do sometimes make some comments, but not always. I hope I have lots of time to do everything here. Anyway, I do not start plenty of discussions.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
I don't start all that many discussions either, as I would rather respond to other discussions. I only start a discussion when I get an idea and I got the idea for this discussion after I had responded to another discussion. I am glad I did respond, as that way, I was able to come up something. Now, I do other sites as well as mylot, but once I start a discussion, I want to get my comments out of the way first and then do the other sites, that way I am not neglecting the users in here. After all, they took the time to respond, so I want to take the time to give a comment back. Thank you for reading my discussion and giving a response. Have a very good day, and happy mylotting.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
2 Nov 10
Yes, I agree. I have came across some members who just keep starting new posts but rarely comment back to their respondents. Some of them can start up to 10post a day, after which they disappear for a week or so only to be back for more. Nevertheless, I'm still responding to them because I'm earning. I don't care if they are earning or not. Since they are the ones trying to take advantage of respondents, not wanting to work hard, well then, let them pay for their laziness.
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
You are so right, as they are just being lazy, and they really don't care at all, and to me that is a very negative attitude. They need to take at least a little time, to read the responses, and decide if they will comment back or not. Yes, by us responding we are earning, and you are right, if they don't want to keep their discussion going then it is their loss, and no one elses. Thank you for takeing the time to respond, and happy mylotting.
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@mrclay90210 (77)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Well, it just shows their interest to the site. It seems that their only concern is money and posting is just one of their way to earn. They don't know how fulfilling it is that someone responds to their post. I am new here so I hope we can become friends. Is is okay? THanks!
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
Of course, we can, and I am so appreciate you taking the time to respond. Welcome to mylot, and I hope you find this site a lot of fun as it really is, and I am glad I am part of it. You are right that they are missing out, but that is them, and if they want to miss out, then they will be the ones to lose out in the end. Take care, and have a very good day.
@mhypie03 (683)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I hardly notice that until you've opened this up. I am also a new user but I don't start new discussions pretty much as I want to post something unique that I know everyone will find very interesting that could keep the thread longer not for money but for a healthy exchange of ideas and opinions. But I have more to say on existing discussions like this so I am more of a repondent rather than a starter. LOL!
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
Since I have been here, I haven't started all that many discussions, as I would rather respond to others as well. I am like you in that I want to think up a topic that will get others interested enough to want to respond to. I have had some that didn't do as well as I thought they would, and others I did much better, so it just depends. I am here to learn and by posting this discussion, I am not also sharing m views, but I am learning from those responding as well. Thank you for responding and have a very good day.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 10
I agree with you, there are a lot of people whos work is just to start discussion, I have seen them that they ll never respond to their discussion and complaining about their earnings, what you have written is very true and ground realities, we should follow these things
But my concern for this is, we have lots of friends in our friend list over here, I know there are few friends who follow my discussion and I comment back to them and when I see discussion from other friend I forgot whether this friend ever responded to my discussion, I cannot differentiate between them, as to me, I think these are my initial days and when time ll pass I ll be able to differentiate. But now a days I am only giving comments, I did not started discussions from couple of days, I think it is good, start quality discussion and comment back on quality discussion. But even still some one gave me negative rate, I dont know why, a lot of negatives, may be I am not following rules...
Happy day...
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
I don't know who really responds to my discussions and who doesn't as I don't really pay attention. I am just glad I do get responses. What I will do from time to time though, is go to my friends on my list and I will respond to a discussion of theirs in case I had missed it when they posted it. That happens a lot since there are a lot of categories, I just don't get to all of them. I am like you though, that I want to respond to my friends discussions since they took the time to repond to mine as well. By the way, welcome to mylot and I hope that you are enjoying your time here and thank you for responding.
@navi33 (113)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
Ouch. I feel guilty for i too don't respond on SOME of my discussions. But i just feel there's no need for it. Well... Sometimes i stop going to mylot for some reasons like study and i just forget or don't check if there's some reply on my discussion. But in the future i won't ignore my discussions. I just not good with words.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
I am not good with words either, but I must say you are doing quite well. It is different if you can't be here for one reason or another, but those that are here and can do it, just don't even try to comment back. You have a valid reason, since you have studying to do. I am not in here as much as I used to be either, but I am still somewhat active. I just have other things to do too, and now that winter will be coming on, I will be able to be here much more. Thank you for taking the time to respond, and happy mylotting.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
1 Nov 10
It's important for us to participate in our own discussions. We lose the meaning if we don't comment on our own discussions. there is not much point otherwise.1 person likes this
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
1 Nov 10
You know, I never thought of it like that, but you are right. It certainly is a wast of time to even start discussions if we aren't going to take the time to at least try to comment back to the responses we receive. I don't get all that man responses, but I sure do try to answer them all, or almost all of them anyway. Thank you for reading my discussion and responding. Have a very good day.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Nov 10
Yes! Yes! Finally someone is voicing it out loud. I see it too often and it never seizes to amaze me that some members spew out 10 -15 discussions and never ever reply back even when the respondent asks a question.
So I do not get it, why waste your time. I mean how many times in real life do gather with people and say a phrase then stare into space. Oh I don't know people like this in real life.
I see it too often and it never seizes to amaze me that some members spew out 10 -15 discussions and never ever reply back even when the respondent asks a question.
So I do not get it, why waste your time. I mean how many times in real life do gather with people and say a phrase then stare into space. Oh I don't know people like this in real life. 1 person likes this
@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
I always answer a friend or family member if they ask me something. I don't just state into space and not say anything. When push comes to shove, the ones strting all the discussions and not following up, sure wouldn't want to be left standing if they were to aks someone a question, and they all of a sudden walk away from them. That is basically what they are doing in here by not participating in their own discussions, at least for the most part anyway. A disucssion is only a discussion when it is discussed and not left hanging. Thank you for your response and happy mylotting.
@toniganzon (72532)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I definitely agree with you. This is a discussion forum and exchange of ideas should be made here through discussions. I've noticed the same thing to people here who start discussions but leave it at that without any response or comments at all. They think that it's easier to make money by starting a discussion but not returning a comment when a response is made. So what's the point in starting the discussion?
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
That is what I am talking about, as it is a big waste of time to start discussions when they aren't even going to take the time to tr to comment back. Now, there are some that can't because they have other things to do like school and work, but those that don't have anything to do besides be on their computer, should at least make an effort to comment back. They just don't realize that they won't earn fro the responses they get, as they are only paid for their own activity. I think if most would read the guidelines, they would see that is what mylot says. And besides, just starting one right after the other, wouldn't be quality either, as they are only out to see how much they can do to make money. Yhey will realize in time, that it just doesn't work that way. Thank you for taking the time to rad my discussion and responding, and happy mylotting.
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
I think you got a good point here. It's called discussion not just because you say something and expect others to say something about it and just like that. You make them respond and you respond to them too. I myself don't respond though to everyone in discussions I've started. Sometimes, some people just don't say too much thing and you just don't know that to say to that person. Anyways, I think everyone who starts a discussion must spend some time looking at what others say and commenting them especially if what they said is something that makes sense.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
You are so right as commenting helps us all to learn from each other, and when someone starts a discussion, they are doing it to learn what others have to say about it and be able to glean from the responses, exactly what they saying. I would never start a discussion, unless i could comment back, even it if isn't to every response. I do agree with you that if the response makes no sense, then it becomes quite difficult to comment back as it would be hard to figure out that they are trying to say. I haven't had that problem lately though. Thank you for responding and have a very good day.
@calpro (930)
• India
2 Nov 10
Hi Rosekiss,
I totally agree with you.Discussion means something which is discussed among people to share their opinions and views.One should be more interested to look what others think of it and should respond to that.
I am thinking in the same lines as you are thinking Iam here to have fun and and also earn.
Hope your post serves as an advice to new users.
Thank you.
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@rosekiss (30414)
• Eugene, Oregon
2 Nov 10
You know, the more that people respond to a discussion, I think that it gives the newbies in here the idea, of what mylot is all about, which is discussing. Being able to share with others, gives us the opportunity to learn from them, which we wouldn't have otherwise. Yes, it si all about learning, and the earnings are just a bonus anyway. Thank you taking the time to read my discussion and respond, and have a very good day.
