He is the father ! So Now what?

well sarah i dont know that show^^ but i think you are right^^ if they are hoping they are not the father is bcs they are not interested in the girl. is bcs they dont want to be around her anymore. anyway doesnt mean they cant be good fathers. maybe when the baby is born or when they know is also their responsability they become more happy^^ but you are right that they shouldnt be with the girl as a couple. if there is no love doesnt make sense. i agree that they should help with money bcs raising a baby alone must be hard but dont need to be together as couple. also even if they dont like to be the father they have to accept it and help^^ besides a baby is always a good thing^^ isnt baby's fault what happened. so they should accept it and love it^^

I hope that even if the man didn't believe that he was the father when he finds out that he is he steps up and takes care of his kid even if he has nothing to do with the mother anymore. Interesting enough I was watching this show for a minute when I was waiting for my blood to get drawn until both the nurse and I said it was too stupid to watch and changed the channel to The View. Small world isn't it?

I think that there is a chance that a guy can turn around and be a good dad to the kid. It would be hard but I really think that the guy is not mad at the kid but mad at the kids mother for sleeping around with other men. I cant believe all of the guys that are tested sometime with 1 lady. I guess I dont know anyone who sleeps around so much. Maybe it is just where I live or who I hand around with. I truly hope that the guys do step up and become good fathers.

Sometimes I wonder if the guy steps up or not. Occasionally they have the update shows that show if the guy stepped up or not. Some do and some don't. Sometimes though it seems like the couples that come on the show are acting. Like they really know who the father is but they are going for the money and their 15 minutes of fame. Some girls I can't believe have the guts to go on the show and parade around the fact that they've slept with over 6 guys in the time period in question and they don't know who the father is. I think one girl I had seen had tested over 6 and none of them were the father.

I hope people aren't actually LIKE how they are portrayed on that show. I want to give the most of them the benefit of the doubt, because I do believe that people are asked to over-dramatize for publicity sake and whatnot.. At least I think so. I certainly hope so. Because they have so many trashy, misbehaving people on that show - even the mothers - I'm thinking - because they're bringing their kid into this world without knowing who the father is? And fighting with the fathers, and so on? It just makes me sad for everyone involved (although especially the kid).

You can only take watching these types of shows for so long. they all seem to turn out the same. We wait to see if the person brought on the show is the father. Sometimes you cheer for the mother. Other times you are rooting for the father to be the real father.

If someone doesn't want to be a father I don't think it should be forced on him...there are two people that make a child...and the woman should be at least halfway responsible for bringing someone into this world. It's not just the man's fault. If they kept their legs closed and paid attention to what was going on there wouldn't be the problem in the first place...I don't think they would necessarily be a bad father though. Sometimes when a situation occurs like this they step up to the plate.

Do people really change when they realize that they are the father of a baby? I know that it's all 'for show' but I guess it's better than not knowing at all (for the part of the women). I don't think they're really expecting the guy to be emotionally supportive (as well as financially) but I think they just want to prove to themselves and these men that they were telling the truth. However, I am a little bit worried about these mothers because they are putting themselves in a lot of humiliation and after everything - they would just go back to ground zero and the guy they supposedly 'love' just treats them just the same. It's sad. But I guess this is just how it is these days. Lucky are those who find love and that love bonds them together to make them a family.

I have heard that people are made to lie and over react to things so I really dont know. I think sometimes the guys are just in shock so they walk off to think. Hopefully once they get home they have thought it over and decide they want to be in the childs life.

I never watch that trash. You never know how much is actually "real" or faked and even if it is real...it doesn't deserved to be aired on tv. Especially if a child is involved. Two adults, they make their own decisions, and deserve what crap they get for being so stupid and self righteous, but a child...they don't deserve to be born into the hell their parents create because they are idiots and don't give a rats you-know-what about the child. If they did, they wouldn't be there

A DNA/Paternity test does not make a father. It only proves that he's the donor. So, if he's already spent so much time denying it, I don't think he'll ever change just because of a test result. I feel sad for the babies. But wait! Wait until the baby grows up to be somebody famous or rich, and these daddies would come running!

Its not about the men being "fathers". Its all about the woman being able to bring the man to court so she can collect monthly child support payments.