You are getting too fat/ too thin.

If they were getting a bit too thin I would mention it....but not if they had gained a bunch of weight. They know that....and are very touchy about weight gain...I supposed those who are too thin probably know it too...it's a touchy subject...and I would be very careful whom I said anything to.

Not really, unless you see a lot of disordered (eating & exercising) behavior coming out of him/her. Weight gain and weight loss is a part of life! And it's not like if I gained 50 pounds after I had a baby (this is pretend, I'm being hypothetical, I have no children and no intention of them in the near future), and I couldn't seem to lose it - I would hope that my friends would NOT "confront" me because I was then "fat". That doesn't make sense. Perhaps if I had an obvious over-eating problem, or the alternate: I didn't eat or ate and threw up on a continual basis. I've never had an "intervention" for any of my friends (I just watch the show), so I couldn't really tell you, I guess.

Of course i would. If it was a close friends then i would tell them because that would mean i care with their health. The same way that i would tell themi hope they would tell me. Because everybody knows that sometimes we can see what is wrong with ourselves.

If he or she, is a close friend, then I would. And I would define a close friend as someone who knows you inside-out, and could speak whatever is in the mind. It may not work fully, but at least it would wake himself/herself up. Also not sure on how to phrase it, but at least it would be enough to wake him or her up.

I have said something to a friend in the past. She appreciated it, and we started walking a few times a week. It took a long time for her to get back to a healthy weight. The losing weight is harder to comment on. I have a hard time judging where it is healthy or not healthy when it is on the low end.

Well I guess I'm one of those lucky people because I have weighed the samething I ahve since high school. No matter what I eat I'll not gain a pound and I eat a ton of junk so I don't think a invention would work for me!lol

I really don't know. I would assume that my friend would know that they they have gained or lost a lot of weight. If they choose not to talk to me about it then it would be very awkward for me to bring it up. I have had friends that have lost tons of weight and I do question them out of concern and just to make sure it is deliberate and not a health problem. When a friend gains weight..that is a lot more awkward to bring up. It would have to be a very very close friend for me to feel right bringing it up. I would hope that any of my very close friends would be comfortable talking to me and this would not be an issue.

Hi Sarah, Yes, definitely I would be telling my friend about the weight gain or weight loss because I am sure that there is something wrong here - maybe an health issue. This is what has happened with me - I am losing weight due to my illness and I assume that losing such amounts or weight are mostly due to health issues. I would also suggest him/her to have a consultation with some doctors and go for checkups. I believe that is what friends are about - being honest and caring! Cheers, theSids.

Yes, I will tell them so. Being a friend of theirs, I want the best for them, be it in appearance or for their health. If they are not my close friends, I will let them know about my intentions but not in a direct way for fear of losing fhe friendship or they think I'm despising them because of them being too skinny/fat. Everybody deserves the truth. We can tell them what we see and feel while it's up to them to rake it and take action upon it.

Yes, definitely, I ll tell him but s/he already would know this. for me i some time gain weight some times loose, so it is ok for me but I have kept a threshhold that ll never go above this or ll never come below this, so I follow my thresh hold Have a nice day...

you should be true to your self, and tell how you feel about what you can say :) it shows that you care or you are a true friend. :D I usually do this, even though I was a little with my bestfriend, but we are what we are. we usually get annoying with each other which we love :) Just tell them what you can say, but don't be harsh.