What will you do if your children dont want you to to to work?

This is really sad but nothing new for all moms. It's hard to decide on which avenue to take. Either care for their needs now or take care of their needs later. I am now 62 and had only one son. I'd give my eye teeth if I'd stayed home with him and played in the sand with his trucks and knocked over blocks. I'd love to sit at a table and have lunch with him and have kool aid, fish sticks and a grape pop sicle and lay down with him for his naps. We do tend to miss a lot by worrying about their later years. Do take time to reflect on the NOWS of life.............. Surely when the kids are older , life will still be an option.......take care of today for it is all we have. Do think about what you might be able to do without NOW in order to get your precious little ones on into life. Maybe life today WITH our kids is more important??? Do think about it.

You have to do what is right for your family. It may not be pleasing to them, but if you need to ork, then you must. Letting your family see this in a positive way is a good step we can take in understanding.

My children don't like it when i go to work but they are more bothered if my wife needs to go to the shop or anywhere without them as they are very attached to her. It took her years to get use to having to go places without them as it upset her when they were upset. She doesn't like leaving them with me to go to the shop but is now use to it and the kids are slowly getting there too.

When my children were that ages i had to work i was a single parent. The option wasnt there. If i had the option i would have granted their wish till they got older. They did used to ask me to stay home too.

When my daughter was small, I did work outside the house. However, since my son was born four years ago, I haven't worked outside the house. There have been a few times that I've talked about getting a job outside the house, but neither of my children want me to go back to work. I think that they are both afraid that would mean that I wasn't very available to them anymore. Therefore, I won't be working outside the house until my son starts school.

Same here...when my kids were still at that age. They are still longing for your care , that's why and even if you explain to them why you have to work, they cannot fully understand it at their age. If you really didn't ave choice but really to work, then make sure at weekends you give your full time to them. Bring them to park or eat them out. Them sooner as they grow up, they will learn and understand why you have to work.

Hi Nice, Oh I remember those days so well when my kids all wanted me to stay home and not work. I'm a single mom and so it was not an option. I would have loved to stay home with them but we needed the income and also I felt I had to set an example to them. It was hard leaving them but I also think it helped me to appreciate the time that I did have with them even more. Oh and another thing, they do reach a point where they are ok with you being gone and that feels bad too.

i have practiced my daughter that every time i step out of the house to go to work, i would always tell her that i won't be long as mommy needs to go to work for better living.

Hi, Just wondering you started working recently or have been working after you give birth to your 2 kids? If they were with baby sitter since they are young,they should be very independent now and not stick to you all the time. Never mind,they just want your attention and try to spend more time with them after work or during your off-day. Since your first child is 4 years old now, you may consider to send her to school for pre-kindergarten class.At least,she has more friends there and have chance to interact with other kids. Do explain to them that at this moment,you really need to work to earn money for life,so that you will have money to buy them clothes,milk formula and toys for them. Last time my son used to cry when he saw his daddy go to work and I used this trick to tell him, it works at last.

It's so hard when they're young..you don't want to leave them but sometimes you have to...and in the end-I think it's healthier..they understand that everyone needs to work to survive and I think they appreciate you. but when they're young-they just want to be close. My son had colic really bad when he was a baby, and my sitter fired us LOL, so I found a way to have the best of both worlds-I took on a newspaper route. I threw papers 8 hours a night with him in the backseat sleeping. It worked out for a year..and then the colic passed and I put him in preschool.

growing up. i can't remember ever telling my mother not to go to work. i'll ask her when she gets home. how she handled this situation. i'm not a mother, but i can understand what you are going through. i would just sit down and explain why you must work to your children. the more they understand it for the better for the family. the easier it would be. but than again. its not much a 2 year old can understand. so thats an option. or miss work until they start school. good luck!

Maybe they just don't like their baby sister.If the problem is this,you can look for another one who is liked by your children.

i would look at them An say good idea and give them the keys to the car and put all my bills in there name and say they can work then lolololo

just stay with your childre a while,when they are get slept just go. anyway it means that your children love you so much.try to find the job that worked at home,like internet or online business

I remembered my conversation with my son just this morning when i saw your discussion, it was still early this morning around 6 in the morning when i woke and i saw that my 3 year old son was also awake. we were both watching cartoons on disney children, still lounging on the bed, and he asked me if i am going to work today since yesterday was holiday he was expecting that it was still holiday. I told yes i have to work and he was like do you have to work mama? and i know that he is on the verge of throwing tantrums again when work is mentioned. i gently told him that yes i have to work and we have to earn money for our needs. and i guess he finally understand me after all those days of him crying, he told me so we would have money to buy my milk? lol it got me laughing! my son finally understood, and i told him yes and please do not cry because mama will be back. i finally understood them too, they miss us when we are at work and having time with me will make them realize that even though we are at work we still love them and we are doing it for them.it will be hard and they will go through a lot of crying but they will finally understand soon, just keep on explaining and they will eventually see

ok, than leave your job.. just concentrate in mylot, earning more just from your home. hahaha..