Do you always prefer to be alone or to be with a group of people?

@mayrah (1144)
United States
November 2, 2010 2:37am CST
It's nice to be in a company of group of people specially if they are your family friends and love ones.But don't you ever feel that in a very busy world full of stress, you sometimes wanted to be alone confront yourself even for just one day in your life? Personally I wanted to have space sometimes. I wanted to unwind alone, with just me without anyone who will disturbed, no cellphone that will ring. Sometimes when I's stressed I wanted to go to place away from crowd. But unfortunately I don't have the courage to do that for now? How will I explain that I'm going away and where would I go? How about you? Did you experience that? Can you share us your opinion about this?
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Okay I prefer to stay inside my room after work and chat with my B, you know it is very stressful to be with someone I am also a kind of person that is loner sometimes... so I prefer this way to relax specially after a day that is very loaded with paper works and some kind of never ending computation and summarizing...
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
2 Nov 10
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Oh really, now I can say that like you I'm also a loner because mot of the time I got irritated with crowds noise specially when I want to concentrate alone in doing something.
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
most times i feel that i need more privacy. i have solitary moments in my room just listening to music. but i occasionally have to be with other people like my family, a few circle of friends or colleagues in workplace.
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Well that's great. You do want satisfies you at any moment you want
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Nov 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I will just prefer to be alone to enjoy my life to the fullest for most of my time. during my alone time, I can surf the Internet as I wish and do the work that I love most to enjoy our daily life alone. But sometimes, I think I will just enjoy the life with my friends together,which is so happy to play together. Have a nice day!
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Because we as human get bored with routine that's why sometimes we prefer being alone, while sometimes we prefer being in a group.Just like youI alway enjoy surfing in the net alone, one of the reason why bf told me I don't give him a lot of my times
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
2 Nov 10
Sometimes I prefer to be alone, to think, read and do other things that are more enjoyable without others around. But sometimes I prefer company, so it really depends on my mood and on what I want to be doing at that time.
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Your changing affect you a lot just like me, coz I'm very moody person
@funkykid (441)
• India
2 Nov 10
it depends on the situation.i would like to be a alone sometimes.loneliness is better in some situations.I only have one real friend though. I try to hang out with him every weekend, but I cannot always manage this, and in school he is very popular and I am not, so I would embarass him if I talked to him there. We have been friends for a very long time, mostly because we share the same interests. We both love to do anything related to computers, mostly. But I have no other friends at all, not even someone I say hello and talk to occasionally, and I like this. I always choose to work alone in school, rather than in groups. My parents and teachers tell me it is bad to be alone, but I like it. I find most people to rather dim, narrow-minded and petty, and some are openly hostile to me. I am happiest while doing something alone, such as working with computers or playing video games, but I also adore my two dogs. I have had no problems with being alone
@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Well maybe your just used to that, And it's good thing you still have mylot, an outlet where you can express your feelings. Personally like you I can also do my job best when I'm alone rather than in group. I just can concentrate when I'm alone.
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Well, spending a vacation alone is a good idea and will make your mind clear and be away from the people and all the noise of the city. Try to tell them that you want to have a retreat? You need to unwind and take a rest from all that's stressing you now. I think they would understand that. I, myself wanted to have a short vacation somewhere far from the city though I don't have the chance at the moment because I need to save money for that. It might be weird for other people but I guess it's one way of trying to relieve yourself from the stress and will also help you to reflect and think clearly.
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Well it amazing that there are other people like you who believe in having vacation alone. You opened up my mind about these things. I thought before it was just a silly idea.Thank you for sharing your views here
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Nov 10
There are times when being with a group of people is something that i enjiy. there are also other times when i like to be alone. being alone can give me the time i need for reflection and gainin perspective in my life. It all depends on my mood if i want people around me or not.
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Hello! Being a typical Cancerian, I guess, i preferred to be alone, at the comfort of our own homw. Im just like this even when i was young. I never get bored when im just inside our house and doing all sorts of house hold chores and relaxation like eating, sleeping, watching TV and reading. But I accepted the fact that I needed to socialize as well because its really a part of life, i love talking with friends and I enjoyed travels too, its just that, I will exchange night life and many other activities outside just to be in our home, especially when its raining because its so nice to sleep and eat during those days rather than soaking my feet into wet streets and face lots of traffics going to and from work. Good night!
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• Philippines
2 Nov 10
well for me it depends on my mood. yes there are times i want to do something alone but most of the time i want someone to accompany me especially if going to somewhere and other stuff!!=)
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• Philippines
2 Nov 10
i am too shy a person so without my usual friends, i am just often alone...its not that hard for me, since im use to it and i always have a new book with me.
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@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
i have that kind of problem to i always feel like i want to be alone but whenever i do that i just can't i don't know but being alone is not happy..yes i have to unwind by myself but it is not happy it is much better if i am with my friends:)
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• China
2 Nov 10
after a busy day,we had better have some time to be alone only whith ourselves,so we have time to reflect,to understand what we got and lost in the day.I aways do that when i am in bed night without disturbed.
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• Indonesia
2 Nov 10
there is a time when we need to be with people, and there is a time that we need to be alone. its depend the situation, but to be with a group of people is good to share something new. thats my own opinion about your nice question mayrah :).
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@calpro (930)
• India
2 Nov 10
Hey It depends on time at work I prefer to be with group,and when I am under pressure I prefer to be alone when I am with family I would love be alone with my family.But as a person I love long morning walk (not in crowded cities or parks) alone.and also some evenings i like to enjoy my drink alone.
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@Jane1171 (11)
• China
3 Nov 10
actually,i may choose stay together. because i like this lively atmosphere. Of course,SOMETIMES i AM FELLING DEPRESSION,I PREFER TO BE ALONE. I NEED SOME PRIVE PLACE AND TIME TO DEAL WITH IT. SO I WILL DIRECTLY TOLD MY MIND TO AVOID COMING UP UNHAPPY THINGS.
• Canada
3 Nov 10
people is a social animal.so you can't leave group absolutly.
@Loen210 (1540)
• United States
4 Nov 10
It depends on the situation. But for general things or day to day things, going out, I like going out one-to-one (totalling 2!), to be more open and comfortable. :o) If it's a gathering, then of course, groups are fun to have lots of fun.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
30 Oct 11
I am definitley a loner and I like it that way although sometimes it can be lonesome. I like to be by myself, like right now, my daughter is in her bedroom watching TV and whatever and I am in the livingroom working on the computer and watching TV. I like it that way because then I get to watch what I want and the volume doesn't get moved around, I am hard of hearing so I have to have the volume turned way up. Last night my daughter was going out to a halloween party with her girlfriend and it was already 9:30 and I wanted her to get going so I could have the house to myself. Not that I am doing anything that she couldn't be here for, I just like to be alone. All I did was lay on the couch and watch TV but it was still nice to be alone. Cheers and Happy Mylotting my friend, Chris
@Mat_keane (236)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 10
That i good question. For me it depend the situation. Sometime i'm like alone to refresh my mind. I must privacy. Sometime i need in group to forget my problem. Coz we cant life alone...
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
8 Nov 10
Sometimes you need to be alone. I prefer being alone to being with a crowd. Gain the courage to take a break. Yes, it is hard, but you are the only one who is in control of you. If you do not take care of yourself, no one else will.
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Being alone can help me meditate and I can think of what I really want in life.