once a cheater always a cheater??

It all 'depended' on your terms of friendship. I stumbled into two friends discussions on 'girlfriendships' in some parts of the world. One said in America, probably the environment where he lived in America, the idea of boyfriend/girlfriend does not necessarily mean bedfriends. It is principally your soul mender - somebody who can comfort you, advise you, reason together with you whenever you are in trouble. The person who can seek advise from you when they are in need and so on. While the other one said nowadays in several parts of Africa girlfriend/boyfriend relationship is simply bedmets. Anyway, should you live in that kind of relationship for THREE YEARS, what stopped you people from marrying yourselves and settle down for one united loving family. I assume you have not trusted yourselves all this while. Definitely, if you have not discussed your marriage for three years, it means your boyfriend has somebody somewhere who is giving him much more convincing promises or better still, he may have noticed/discovered you have somebody who he suspected you are much more clinged to. So I suggest you get much more serious in your relationship and give him a fixed date. SamShima

If someone cheats in a relationship once, they are likely to repeat the action. It doeesn't always have to be so. A cheater could never slip again. It all depends on how committed they are to the relationship they are in. People should not be judged by what they did in their past. Their present actions are what is important.

my mother forgave my father who was cheated on her. she gave my father a chance to change. but what happen is, my father then has more affair with other women. and has another child with other women. so i believe that once a cheater always a cheater. but i cant tell in your situation. i dont know exaclty how is your boyfriend. so, i cant tell. you re the only one who knew him better. dont lie to your self. if you felt that there is something wrong. dont lie to your self that there is nothing happen. you have to be honest to your self and ask your self what's really going on now. because when your relation ship is only 3 years, and he was already cheated on you. what will happen next when you marrying him? marriage for me is once in a life time. if he's already cheated on you now. what do you think will be happen to you, when you were married for a long time. 5-10 years maybe. would he do the "cheating" again? would your marriage end and divorce is the choices? you should think about it deeply, my friend

From what you've told me. I can't say. I'd have to know you're boyfriend to be able to make that kind of judgement. That's a tough situation though. Things happen. People drink/get high and do things they regret. He may mean what he say. He may be a w***e. That's on you.

Best advice I can give: I've seen friends of mine who have been like this, they don't know what to do. If he's given any grief to you in the past, like huge arguments, ignoring you, etc, then yes, you should split up with him, if this is just a one-off and whatever, you shouldn't split up with someone that makes you happy. No one can make the decision for you, they can only give you advice and guide you. You, have to make the decisions for yourself.