it's easyer to walk away or stay with a partner that's violent?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
November 2, 2010 1:55pm CST
what do you think it's easyer? to walk away or stay in a relationship with a partner that's violent?
remember that I'm not asking you what would you do if you had a partner like that...but what it's easyer to do from your point of view?
2 responses
@rarrimalion (674)
• United States
3 Nov 10
I think it is easier to stay. I say that with a grain a salt because I know abused women (and men) are struggling mentally and emotionally with what is happening to them. I'm not saying those that stay have an "easy" time. I think it's harder to leave though because change is hard. It's HARD to put plans in place to actually leave, it's scary for a woman who has never been a breadwinner to suddenly have to og out and work to support herself and kids, it's hard to find a place to live, it's hard to take the wrath for leaving, it's hard to close the door on a chapter of your life. It's easier to stay with the status quo and not have things change, even if by doing that you are being hurt and abused.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Nov 10
I agree with you..most of us are afraid of change especially if you've been in a logn term relationship with that guy. leaving him would put you in the situation of facing the unknown and the fear of staying single might make us stay in the relationship aldo we shouldn't. another factor pretty important are kids. but this it's not a reason to stand an abusive husband. believe it or not the child feels if his parents don't have a good relationship. it true that he needs both of his parents but he doesn't need a father who beats his mother and maybe who beats him two
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
2 Nov 10
walk away^^ how can you be with a guy that beats you? that i guess would make you hate him so i guess you couldnt stay with him. sure maybe you think wouldnt be easy but i guess you would want to leave a guy like that. why would you be with a guy that doesnt respect you? that wouldnt be worth it^^ stay would just detroy your life and make you feel worse.
