How are you going to handle with your Past?
By ezyan10
@ezyan10 (38)
Philippines
November 3, 2010 12:26am CST
These means past relationships. How are you going handle with it? If you have already a husband/wife? Are you still going to have a communication with her/him? Will you hide it to your spouse? What it the best way to do it? Share your opinions on this.
2 responses
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
3 Nov 10
In my opinion, the only time people need to be in contact with an ex is when a mutual child is involved. Other than that, if you have moved on to another relationship, especially a marriage, why would the ex be a part of your life anymore? If you did choose to have some sort of relationship/friendship with an ex, the absolute worst thing to do would be to hide it from your spouse. That would only bring about a whole slew of problems later on.
In my case, my husband and I both have children with exes. His ex is a bigger part of our live than either of mine are, and she is not a huge part. We do not try to hide things from each other when it comes down to it though. If he happens to call her, he is always sure to tell me, and I have even had a few conversations with her that have little to do with the kids. It is an open and honest situation, that way, there are no problems, no distrust, and no hurt feelings.
@ezyan10 (38)
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
Thanks for you opinion. Actually this post it related to my dad. I don't know why he hides information about his ex gf. maybe they have unclosure relationship before.It bothers me because me as his son he should focus on his family right. And why does he need to hide it to my mom? Is there something wrong or they are doing something bad.