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I have always been an idealist when it comes to relationships. I have always denied being so but I guess it's high time for me to admit that I am an idealist. Last week has proven to be an experience where I could say 'I never dreamed of doing ever in my life' but dared to do so for 'love'. Anyhow, I'm not going to talk about what happened to me last week. I'd like to ponder more on the realizations I have seen from the people around me. I have always played 'matchmaker' even if it was only in my mind. I was always negative when it came to relationships - most especially when I thought that two people weren't really a 'match'. Laughed behind their backs because they looked awkward with their partners (I know I'm bad) and sadly have often thought 'they are not going to make it far'. With my failed relationship I have realized that there's no such thing as a 'perfect match'. You can never really be sure who you're going to end up with and regardless how bad you want someone, you can't really force the two of you to be together when all the forces of the universe would be against it. Looking back at the life of my good friend. He too has always been an idealist. He had the exact type of a woman who he'd like to marry in his mind. Now about more than 5years down the road, he got married to someone who I bet wasn't listed in his 'ideals'. I don't know what he saw in her that made him decide to marry her, but I guess there's some unexplainable something that motivates someone to commit. I am now at the crossroads of my life. I have a strong feeling I have found my 'match' but am not pushing the issue too much for fear of failed expectations. I just wish there was some type of a sign or signal that would make me know because the feeling is bugging me big time - mostly when I'm idle. So, here are my questions for you my dear mylotters. How do you know you have found your match? When did you realize that you did want to get married with the person you are with today? If you didn't marry, why didn't you accept the proposal? Have you ever regretted not accepting the proposal for marriage? What signals or signs did you see or feel that opted you to feel that you'd like to marry her? I know it's quite odd really. I am a woman and I have to wait for his decision. However, I would just want to know if he feels that he'd want to marry me soon or if it's all just an 'experience' without any future in it.