is your lover your priority? ^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
Portugal
November 3, 2010 6:03pm CST
hi guys^^
is your lover your priority? for me my bf was my priority. but right now i dont know anymore. i need to help my mum paying bills also. i would love that my bf was near me but he is too far and things are not great now. he always is busy. but he is my priority but shouldnt be. but i love him. i do but i dont know how much longer we will be together. i wish it can happen. if he cares much :))
what about you guys? is your lover your priority? please share^^
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14 responses
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
4 Nov 10
Yes, off-course my love is my priority and but when it comes to future then I think future for both of us is same, if I want my bright future this doesn't mean that I am not giving priority to my love, because my bright future is related to her and she should be happy with this. there are certain things happen in our life which I think contradict with our love life this does not mean we dont love or not giving priorities, because these things effect both of us, so I think giving priority to your bright future is just like you are looking for bright future of your love...:))
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
yes^^ you mean that your gf is your priority but now you are prioritizing your future that will be her future also^^ and sure that will affect both of you^^ im happy that you care about your future and that you are including your gf on it^^ im sure that she be very happy that you do that for her :) thats great really. you are a good guy
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
i thought that you had a gf already^^ the way you talked seemed that you had. dont worry im sure that you can find it soon. you deserve that. you are a sweet and romantic guy. it isnt a lot of guys like you. so im sure that you will find a great girl that will love you^^ by the way you can call me cat^^ is good that you will take care of your future for your gf :)
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
4 Nov 10
My wife and kids are my priority because i care for them just like my wife cares for me when i'm at home. I go to work and earn money for us all to live on so they will always be my priority. I do like earning for my family though as it gives me pride.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
4 Nov 10
Well I work for us all but my main reason why I try to increase my hours as much as possible is so that I can afford to buy them things and do family activities. Thanks for the kind words :)
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
you work many hours to buy them things and do things in family? thats great really^^ but be careful with your health also. you should take care of yourself^^ is cute that you worry with your family but you also matter. and you need rest and not work all the time. if feel tired stop working so much ok?^^ dont need to thank me^^ i say the truth only^^
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
you work for them?^^ thats very sweet of you. i see that you are the one that work for provide for your wife and your kids. you are a great man worrying with them. you sure have reasons to feel proud of yourself. im very happy that they are your priority and im sure that they love you a lot too^^ you really are an awesome guy^^ all guys should learn with you^^ those that are not so caring.
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@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
4 Nov 10
I don't have a boyfriend now, but I think even if I had one, I would not take him as my priority. There are so many people and things in my life that I care about a lot, such as my parents, my job. So it's kind of difficult to decide which one should be given priority. Besides, things are changing everyday. What's important today may not be equally important tomorrow. You know, we need to make some changes in accordance with the situation. If I have to decide my priority, then I prefer to say they're my parents and my job. Bf is not really a significant person to me before we get married. Nobody can be sure that we'll end up getting married.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
4 Nov 10
I do care about him, but I don't think he should be given the first priority before marriage takes place. Even after marriage, I still will not take him as my first priority though he is one of my priorities in life. I mean there are other things that should be put in the first place. For example, you can't quit your job simply because your bf or hubby wants you to do so. You have your own objectives to pursue in life.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
yes i understand what you mean^^ even bf is important it isnt the main thing in your life. you also have other goals in your life. im happy that he will be one of your priorities soon^^ i know that you also want to care for your own future. you also need your own things is it? and sure you cant quit job just bcs your hubby or bf wants. he needs to respect you also.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
i understand^^ so for you your priority is your job and your parents^^ yes i understand so if things go wrong with your bf at least you have a good career and your parents to comfort you^^ yes i understand^^ just for me love is always the most important thing^^ is like without love im not happy you know. but right now my bf never gives me attention so i really should start caring about my future on my own also. find a good job that can help my mum paying bills and save for my future. i wanted save for see him but if im not his priority he shouldnt also be mine. love is mutual and not only one person trying to make things work.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
I noticed lately that most of my decisions are revolving around my boyfriend, but I thought that was wrong, I, myself, should be the center of all my decisions, and my principle as to not being just somebody's girl will not change.
You should help your mom, that should always be a must, prioritize your bf, but not all the time, weigh circumstances and situations, that is always the right thing to do.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
yes you should also prioritize yourself^^ yes you should be the center of your decisions :) sure you need also to have your own things and dont live just for your bf. if then things go wrong you end with nothing. yes i will help my mum. for now i will work also to help her. for my bf im not his priority so he shouldnt also be mine. love is about mutual feelings and isnt fair that i do all for him when he isnt doing the same.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
i see^^ you never forget about yourself. thats good. yes is very important that you have a good self esteem. i always forget about myself when i like a guy. and then i always get hurt. you can be happy with a guy if you are happy with yourself thats true^^ people say that if you trust yourself other people will also^^ like people say before love others love yourself :)
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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4 Nov 10
my priority is my son, he always will be. There is no greater bond or love than a parent and their child.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
thats cute that your son is your priority^^ yes i know that the love of a father for his son is very strong. and i know that you are a good father :) but i wish that when you have a gf that she also becomes your priority and that you can love her as much as you love your son :) is true that the love for kids is very big but the love for the one for us is very very strong^^
@yellowhipon (793)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
As you already know, I have a 1-month old baby. My hubby is one of my priorities, but not my ONLY priority. I have to put them both on top of my priority list. I have to take care of them and at the same time take care of myself.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
1 month old baby is so cute ^^ yes i remember your discussion. sure both need to be your priorities^^ im happy that you put both of them first^^ and yourself also^^ we cant forget about ourselves. sometimes we forget bcs we are so busy caring for that person that if they dont care as much as we do we feel sad and disappointed. im happy that you care much for them but also think about you^^
@personaave (598)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
I used to put my relationship with my boyfriend back then on the top of my priority list, but that relationship did not last long, nor did the others after him. However, now that I am older, and hopefully more mature when it comes to relationships and setting priorities, I know that I have to establish myself first. I love my boyfriend and he's also one of my priorities but right now, I have to focus on myself and re-establish my career to help my family and eventually our future family. I learned to think and be like because of my boyfriend. He's already successful and his future is secured at a young age because he's hardworking and focused on his goals in life, and I want to be like him. I know that it's never too late, that's why I'm already taking steps to refocus on my goals. In the long run, it will also be to our own benefit.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
yes i understand you^^ is good that now you are focusing also in yourself and not only on him. we girls take things more serious i guess. anyway for now i will just wait that he contacts me. is always me mostly so that ended already. im tired of being always me. im working here and in other sites trying to save money to see him and he is always busy with his family. i know inside of me that he could find even 5 minutes to talk with me. when we really want something we do the impossible to make that happen.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
For me yes but the most is Jehovah God because he knows how much your heart in him.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
i see. you prioritize god then. but you should prioritize your lover bcs god is like a father. and it was him that put your lover on your way to be happy^^ so is ok if you dont make god your first priority. anyway if its him is your choice sure. but i guess that you should put love as first. without love we are nothing. and even if god created us without love our life means nothing.
@asendud (318)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 10
actually no, but i don't know. because i always do and give what she want.
if i was you, I'll help my mother. because my mother has doing a lot for me, and I'll do what i can to help she. not only you who must make sacrifices, but your bf also.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
thats cute that you always do what she wants^^ that means that you really love her^^ yes i will help my mother :) my bf almost isnt talking with me. two days he didnt talk and today sent me a message. a little one only so i guess that i shouldnt make him my priority. he isnt putting me first. love is mutual^^ is true what you say i cant be the only one making sacrifices for us.
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
4 Nov 10
no she isn't well not really sometimes she gets mad when i say she is and sometimes she doesn't its just the type of person she is. but i am her's always was her priority she makes sure i take care of my self and she is the only reason i do so it depends.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
i see^^ so for you sometimes she is your priority and sometimes she isnt. it depends of what you have to do maybe?^^ anyway im happy that at least sometimes she is^^ im happy that she worries with you and want you to be fine^^ thats cute that you are her priority^^ but i guess that maybe her priority is also her studies right? bcs she is far away from you bcs of her studies and dont call you everyday bcs of that right? :)
@srinivas2036 (188)
• India
4 Nov 10
hi dear....
ofcourse... my gf is my priority... but more than her i love my parents... and so frankly speaking my mom and my first priority. Except my mom and dad my girl friend is my first priority. and iam ready to swim the pacific for her if she asks i can say...because i love my girlfriend a lot too as like my parents...
what do you say sweety...
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
thats cute that besides your parents your gf is your priority^^ swim the pacific for her? is she in other country? is very cute that you love her a lot and if she asks anything you will do that for her^^ i say that you are a very sweet and romantic guy and your gf is lucky to have you. my bf doesnt think like you and i wish he thought. i wish he also swim the ocean to see me :)
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
sorry for that. that happened with me also. bcs for me love is always the most important. but i see that i need to start prioritizing also myself and my future. i was working hard to go see my bf soon. but i just understood that maybe wont work. he is only helping his family always and me i only receive attention when his family dont need nothing from him. i would do anything for that guy but he is the one putting me away :(
@dayanan_bern25 (11)
•
4 Nov 10
there are so many things that i should prioritize at this point in my life. my family is one of my priority. but for me, i prioritize only the things that makes me happy. one of that is my gf and my family. I also consider my friends as my priority because without them i am not a better person today. i really thanks them for that. but to some up all of this, i love my gf so she is my priority right now because she inspired me a lot and makes me happy always.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
4 Nov 10
yes sure you should prioritize many things^^ and im happy that you prioritize your gf, your family and your friends^^ im sure that your friends help you much so is cute that you make them a priority too^^ im happy that you love your gf and that she is first in your life^^ all guys should be like you^^ im happy that she inspires you and makes you happy :) but you deserve that bcs you really seem a good guy^^ welcome to mylot and thanks for answer my discussion^^