If your boyfriend is depressed and agressive.....what will you do?
By maggiewinner
@maggiewinner (106)
Canada
November 3, 2010 9:42pm CST
The boyfriend of my best friend is quite agressive to my friend Lucy. Lucy told me that he almost shouted to her every day, no matter how peaceful that day should be. Every time when Lucy tells her boyfriend, she wants to end this relationship, but she can't accept his daily agressive and angry attitude about everything in the life. Her boyfriend always begs her to stay and tell her that he doesn't mean to be rude.......he is always angry , unhappy and feel negative about the things, because he has depression problem.........But my friend Lucy is really tired of his agressive and negative personality......she feels tortured when he complaint to her day and night and shout to her whenever he feel negative..........yes, Lucy loves this guy.....but she doubts if the guy still loves her.......it's really due to his depression problem or he is just a jerk ??
Some people feel we should not leave our lover because they have depression problems.......but if your depressed lover becomes very agressive and angry against you every day............you really feel you can continue to live with a guy like this ?? You really don't feel sorry for your own life ? The boyfriend of Lucy has made millions times of promises to Lucy........but until recently he still keeps shouting to Lucy each day..........If you are Lucy, what will you do?
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4 responses
@tuamora (79)
• United States
4 Nov 10
You can't love someone else until you love yourself. If Lucy loves herself she would not allow anyone (anyone) to speak to her in a harsh manner, hurt her in any kind of way. She would expect her man to treat her like the princess that she is, just as she treats him with dignity and respect.
If the guy loved himself, he would never ever treat Lucy with disdain. No matter what was going on emotionally, he would place it aside to express his love for Lucy, not meanness. If he was depressed he would seek help.
People who are truly sorry help themselves, they don't speak about they "be about it".
Lucy needs to love herself and let this man go. If he really loves her, he will fix himself, really change, seek help, and pursue Lucy when he is better. There is no way that he is going to be able to sort through his personal issues, juggle work, and try to keep his relationship without him losing his head.
Lucy deserves happiness.
@johan143 (164)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
BREAK UP WITH HIM!!! because i don't want to suffer in the future...i believe that may parents took care of me and they don't want to see me suffer. My failure will also be their failure. i love my family and i don't believe that i was born to suffer the cruelty of somebody else.i deserve to be respected and i don't think i can endure his shouting at me every day of my life. there is a doctor for every sickness and i think he has to see one, it's his parents responsibilty to take care of him.your friend should also be tough in dealing with his boyfriend, even if she loves him that much, that love will one day disappear.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
4 Nov 10
I would tell him that I would only stay with him if he sought professional help for his anger and depression. He needs to admit his problem and do something about it or she shouldn't waste anymore of her time. One of these times it could be more than just shouting at her. These types of things to seem to progress.
