If you don't feel he is trustable any more, should you stay with him?
By maggiewinner
@maggiewinner (106)
Canada
November 3, 2010 9:47pm CST
If your boyfriend has done plenty of things to hurt your feeling, should you stay with him? He may have promised you that he would change..........but since he'S hurt you too many times, you don't feel you can trust him as before any more.......should you leave or stay with him?
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7 responses
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Nov 10
many times we reqalise that he/she isn't going to change but we can't accept that.love it is what makes us hope that in the end the person we love is going to change. and we go on with this... but let me tell you something, it's hard if not impossible to change someone because you wnat it. if that person doesn't really want to change ( and not for you but because he/she realises that the way she/he's acting is wrong) than he's NEVER GOING TO CGANGE
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Nov 10
so I guess you shouldn't stay in the relationship. you should probably try to leave him and move on. but the thing isn't about what you should/shouldn't do but about what you could/couldn't do because sometimes when we're in love we do silly things and if you love that person it would be pretty hard for you to leave him
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Nov 10
Everyone is deserving of a second chance. if there is a pattern of mistrust, it may be a wise decision to see what you really want out of the relaationship. Moving on might be better for both of you if the doubt continues.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
4 Nov 10
If there is not trust there is no love and if there is no love there mise well not be a relationship.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
4 Nov 10
Been there, done that, twice. Then I met this guy who's dedicated as I. We've been married 27 years. Does that answer your question?
Take your time. Love yourself, love your life. Everything else will come if you want it to.
@Gargi2010 (638)
• India
4 Nov 10
Hi
first of all i try to know that he really loves or not if he really loves then i try change his life style with my love and if he not really loves me then i will leave him.
Regards
@applejoy (145)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
How can you stay in a relationship that is full of lies and pain? This guy caused too much pain to you and you don't trust him anymore. Do you think that he'll ever change again? he did it a lot of times. There's no way you can get your trust back to him. You better leave him, if he really loves you, he won't do anything that will hurt you on and on.
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
Hi maggiewinner. It is natural for us to give other people a chance to redeem themselves specially if it is the one we love or someone close to us.
But if that person continues to fail you again and again. Then you might want to think what's wrong? If the boyfriend also always ends up hurting the girl in physically not only emotionally then I think the girl should leave him. If he loves her then he should prove it to her that he has really changed before she could accept him back in her life.
