How you can use your pain for someone else's gain !!!!!!

Dear Jotomy, it seems that your friend has learned to handle the pain in a smart way. Good for her!!!

I am very happy to read the good changes in your friend. Actually I have no experience like this. Recovering from an agony is a must. One should learn to protect his/her own mental health. I have a habit. When I go to bed in the night, I just imagine that I am leaning my head on the shoulder of Jesus Christ. This imagination helps me a lot to have relaxation. It gives me much strength to bear the difficulties.

I sounds as if the counseling really helped her! I have also been in an abusive situation and it is a very difficult thing to have happen to a person. The feelings of loneliness, frustration and fear linger around you for a very long time. In my situation I still struggle with my attitude and speak very defensively to some people. I am seeing a counselor which is what I recommend to anybody in this kind of situation, they are worth it!

Hi Jo, Husband and other family members are supposed to protect her and support her. Instead they gave disturbance so we can’t blame her. I think it is natural if she showed her frustration on some others. I am glad to know that now she recovered from the bad feelings and doing well. Hope you are doing fine. Happy Diwali to you

Faith is believing on things that you cannot see. We believe that there is a real God and He is kind, good and would remove our pains. Believing gives us hope... believing helps us to love and love despite pains. And if you start believing, the pain becomes insignificant and we learn to be happy what we have. It is a better feeling. Watch The Old Path and you will know what I mean.

Hello Jotomy, I don't have experiences like this and fortunately, your friend is in good hands now, with God Almightly 100% she is safe with Him. Being closer to God made her free from all her anger, bitterness, depression, frustrations, etc. I heard also the same story as yours, from radio news. A wife was hurt by her family too, she wasn't able to use phone or any communication materials from the outside where she can ask help from her friends, the sad part is the family are ones who will be the first one to help her, she was down and very depressed for her family even the one who hurts her. For this case, she was able to see the world one time and ask help from neighbors, and then she was saved. God is really a true Savior, and helps us in every way. ^_^

half of my response got chopped off tor some reason . I was saying she needed to get to a battered women's shelter. but I see she did get help and I am so glad for her. It is tough to be an abused woman and love someone who never was good for her, but now she has started on a great path and I am so glad for her.God is looking our for her now and she has learned about God too.yes this is a great sin against the pain she bore.My heart aches for the many who stay and do not have te funds or courage to get away. But it seems she has got counseling and hlep so now shes on the right path and with God;s help and her working to help others she will soon blossom into a very nice young lady independent and happy.God Bless her and keep her safe.

I agree that the more you have suffered in your life the more opportunity you have to share your experiences with others and help them deal with their pain which is a really great way to use what has happened to you in a positive way. No one can offer the understanding of one who has been through the same hurt. I’m glad your friend used her bad experience in a way she can help others. That is part of what life is all about, I think.

Hello Jo, It's easier for someone to understand someone's situation if you've been there already. Experience is the best teacher,if,you learned from it. But not all people learned from their life experiences or,not everyone is able to draw positive lines within their bad experiences as well. I admire people who picked up all the pieces from their past,whether it is good or bad,and applied it to their day to day life. Making the bad experience as a good lesson to learn and inspiration to moved on. People who were able to fight life struggle are good motivators to the same kind. They can easily relate to them,they empathize genuinely because they've been through it. Surely they can share their pain and someone who is in same situation gain motivation from them. Have a good day always dear

It may not be the happiest thought that we have but we can use our pain to help others. We can take a painful experience in our lives and share it with someone else. It may be something to encourage their lives. Something good can result from something bad.

I am so happy and blessed for your friend. She has truly found comfort and peace from GOD. HE alone can release us from all forms of pain because HE already took all our pains and sorrows on HIMSELF. In my everyday life, i experience different kinds of pain caused by people around us and at times physical pain. When people hurt us it grieves our emotions and there's no cure or medicine to that. Medical science can only offer temporary cure to this. But GOD alone can turn our pain into joy.

It is a very intense situation to be in any abusive environment, but one that can be overcome with time alongside assistance and encouragement. I remember my days of living with my ex were so painful. Although I never received counseling for them, I have placed my faith on God. The power of prayer allows us to believe that life can be sweeter.