single or married?

At this point in my life, I completely agree with you. I have no desire to be married or have children. I think that as long as you are happy, there is no reason that someone should have to be married. It is a great commitment, but it isn't for everyone. People are perfectly capable of living fulfilling lives on their own. Not being married doesn't mean that people can't have good close friends and interact that way. I believe it would be a horrible idea to get married simply due to a parent's wish. If anything, such pressure would lead to a dysfunctional, hostile and loveless marriage. If you don't have a problem with living by yourself, don't let anyone make you feel bad about not getting married. There are plenty of things a person can do in life that will bring them happiness, besides marriage. Keeping strong connections with friends and doing the things you love (sports, work, charity) until old age will assure that you're never lonely or depressed. Have fun living your life, and don't worry what people say! :)

I myself want to get married sometime too. But I think what you want to do is so much better and meaningful. If you are helping many people and charities you can be like Mother Teresa, you'll never be alone since the people you are helping are already your family... Good Luck

well it's your decision and i respect that... but my friend your parents are right,they are concern about your own happiness.,maybe you can say that thing because your young at the moment but as you have said old age cannot be controlled so it is better for us people to find someone to be our companion for the rest of our life,it is happy to have a family of your own... maybe just try to experience to be with other people and try to live your life the way it should be in a way that can give benefits to you as well. and don't stick in your mind that it is good to be alone for the rest of your life.,we have life to enjoy,enjoy it with somebody,no man is an island my friend,...for sure time will come that you will need to have your own behalf.

I don't know if your decision is already final or you will change your mind soon. All I know for sure is that marriage is done out of real emotions. It shouldn't be done just for personal gain whatever it may be. If you really don't have a valid or right reason to get married, then why would you? Why push yourself on something you don't really want? Even if your parents or other people say you have to or you should, they don't control your life. You should decide for yourself. Marriage without love at all would oftentimes fail, it's also unhealthy. You will just contribute to the number of broken families especially when you have a child or children. If you will be single by choice, it's also up to you to make it work. True enough that it's scary to grow old alone, but I think it is better than exchange vows or be in a longtime commitment full of lies. Although it's different from having a real family, if it's something you really want, stand up for it. There are ways or options to address the problems of old age when you're alone. You can prepare for it by saving money to be alloted for all your needs. It's good to have financial resources when you get old alone. You can use this to be in a private facility for old people, there are beautiful facilities now where you will be taken cared of, meet new people same as your age, offer lots of activities suited for you. You can also adopt, if you don't want to get married maybe you would still like to have children. If you don't want these things too, you can still be alone as long as you have substantial savings/investments, long-term care insurance, etc. as part of your retirement plan so you would somehow be secured when old age arrives. I think it's best to think hard and think wise before you make any decisions especially the ones that will truly affect your whole life. Whatever your decision/s will be, stay true to what you really want and don't let others dictate your future. =)

I prefer to get married. because you wouldnt find happiness like you family give, your wive and your children.

first of all i appreciate your decision to help poor people. in my point of you if get married it will be good as your parents said because if you get married you have life partner and you full filled your parents desire they feel happy. if you don't marry also u can survive in your life because your attitude is that helping poor people these type of social works won't leave you alone so you will always have some ideas about helping them and you have some relationship them. so that is also good.

Personally I think it is better for you to do what you feel is right for your life. I know several people that didn't get married until later on in life as they were loving the single life, until that special someone came into their lives...which could very well happen to you. You just never know. I can tell you that I am married and happily at that. I can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I have ever made, but marriage is not necessarily for everyone. When you get older, you will be taken care of. Either by friends, family, retirement home, or possibly that someone that you might fall in love with. So, like I said before, I would do what you feel is right for your life as you will be the one living with the decision, not your parents.

For those capable of being single and happy, life can be fulfilling without the need for intimate relationships. They find life's balance within themselves, and in their associations with the people with whom they share their existence. It sn't that they aren't open to intimacy, but they are less likely to sacrifice personal standards for the sake of an unhealthy union. For them, it's more important to surround themselves with others who are genuinely happy, than to be in a relationship and be unhappy.

Staying single has it's advantages and disadvantages. Married life also has it's advantages and disadvantages. Many people want to be single and still live a happy and fascinating life. When you are single, you set your own boundaries. You only work to make you happy and satisfy you. You have so much freedom and no limits. You don't have to worry about the ups and downs that comes with the relationship package. And most of all, you never have to worry about the different emotions that come about while being involved in a relationship.

I think it is entirely up to you if you want to get married or not. It's great that you have a set agenda in life and that you want to work and earn money, so don't feel guilty about it. On the other hand I do understand what you are saying about growing old alone, but you must not get married just because your parents want you to. I am sure that while you are working on your career that someone will come along with who you may fall in love with, but until that time comes, just get on with the things you want to do.

Marriage is one of those things that cannot be forced. Perhaps in a few years you might meet the perfect person for you and think about getting married then. I don't think you should let your parents bully or guilt you into marrying if you do not want to, you'll only be unhappy. As for being alone in old age, there are retrement homes and I'm sure you'll have friends. Have a great day!

The marriage is only the correct solution if you love a person and you want to be with her.. because the marriage it's difficult already... from other part i wouldn't know to be alone, to every way i think it as your parents.

I am also planning on being alone myself. I believe that I don't have to worry about being alone during my old age because by that time I would have a lot of nieces and nephews. It would be fine to stay with them.

you are saying that because you haven't meet the girl for you. but once you met her, your whole life will change. And you will find yourself marryig the girl.