Why I am so shy?

Firstly I would reccomend that you do not be so hard on yourself, always keeping in mind to be yourself at all times. Building confidence takes a great deal of effort. But one that with time you certainly can achieve it. I would say everyday tell yourself you have absolutely nothing to lose and prior to meeting the person and or people you continue to say to yourself, it will not hurt to greet and be friendly at that. You may not get responded to each and every time. So remain calm and tell yourself I do not any problems as people truly have many different personalities. So be yourself, relax and make sure you do not change how you are.

You need a class on social confidence, or you need to just set your fears aside and talk to her. You are never going to get anywhere unless you start talking to people. I am one year older than you are, and I have a boyfriend, and how I got said boyfriend was by talking to him. When I first saw him, I knew he was the one, and I knew that if I didn't start talking to him, that I would never have him. For the record, my boyfriend was shy as well. He told me that he loved me in a cryptic message, that he and I both could not figure out. He eventually just spilled the beans and so did I, and when we did, that began our three year relationship. You just have to talk to her. Start with small talk if you have to. Just say "hello" to her. Then ask her a few basic questions about her, "What is her favorite type of music?", "What does she like to do for fun?" If you see something on her that she likes say, "I notice that you like (blank)," and then say a) "I like that too" or b) "So, what is your fascination with (blank)?" I am telling you that it is not as tough as you think it is. Again, just start out with small talk and a small conversation. Nothing big, it's just a small conversation.

not just you, me too. i think many people like you, who shy to girl he want include me. but if you don't try to get that girl, she will be left, and maybe you will regret it in a whole your life. just express it, try don't thinking what will happen next, i know that's will be so hard..

Hi,koAebryant! What are you talking about?The worst person,are you serious?I'm telling you,you are completely not.And I actually think these kinds of guys are kinda cute.Hehe.Why let it bother you?You are not bad.Many people in this world are shy.So don't scold yourself.All you need is some confidence. Well,psychologists say that if you repeat one action for 21 days,you will develop a habit.And if you repeat it for 90 days,you will get completely changed and it will become a part of your life.So talk to a girl every day,or just talk to some strangers every day,maybe at first you would get very embarrassed,but believe me,you would soon get used to it.And at last,you will be confident enough. I was shy when I was very young.But then I became the leader of the English Corner when I was in high school.I didn't expect it coming so I was so shy that I could barely talk.But then I realized that I could not continue this way or all the members of our club would run away.I opened myself up gradually.Now I am in university,and I again become the boss of the English Corner.We even have foreign teachers here now.But I'm not shy any more.I can just talk to random people in the English Corner in English.And I still remember that once the foreign teachers were late and the students were waiting,so I just began to form them into one group and started talking with them,complete strangers.And just a couple of weeks ago,I was standing on the stage being a hostess.I really can't believe my changes sometimes. So,really,it's not hard.If you really want to change yourself,you can do it. Just have some confidence.Good luck to you!

You are the kind of person that doesn't like PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION based on my analysis..well i think she might be not the right girl yet..when the right girl comes you will not be shy..you will be surprise that you feel comfortable with her :)

O my young shy boy, put all these shyness on one side, go and start some conversation with her, then make friendship with her in this way you both ll come close to each other, in one month you ll be able to post over here that at last I found my love.... Never shy in this respect, just go and take your action, otherwise just sit back and see who is coming to take her... Be happy and be the reason of happiness in others life....

You have absolutely no reason to feel you are the worst person in the world just because you are a shy kind of person. I am like that too; I am 49 years old and I still blush like a school girl! I have gotten a lot better over the years and one of the things that helped me was feeling the fear and doing it anyway! It does get a little easier over time. In this situation I would ask the girl for her phone number myself and start from there; don’t worry about what your friends say!

On this issue you mentioned is normal, when we were young, will have this phenomenon. feel nervous, heart rate, flushing, feeling shy, afraid of your favorite people express their feelings. Faced with this situation, you have to overcome their psychological, do not be afraid to express himself like the words to express.

Shyness is a psychological disorder that involves millions of people everyday. It is characterized by excessive self consciousness and the fright of embarrassment. Individuals who experience from this illness feel that they are being examine at all times. Their daily life is rough when it comes to interpersonal situations. The first step to conquer shyness is admittance. One should come to terms with what they have.This can be done through counseling or another form of support. Being open to the truth is the best way to begin the expedition to a better life.

There are many of us who are shy. So don't be depressed. Try to mix with others and also try to take an active part in any discussion, may be in your family or with your friends or at the place of your job. Slowly you will feel that you have gained the power to express yourself to some extent.

Shy is the character of girls and not the boys. Be open minded. If you really like that girl, don't get delay to talk with her. If you can't tell, depend your friend ask him to act as a mediator for you. Convey your love directly or indirectly. Otherwise you will lose her.

So shy is not a good thing in life because living this world most of time need to sell your face, I have met a boy he is shy enough even he stomach pain in office he don't like others know that still to faint. but now he try his best to change this feeling of shy. he will call loudly when at KTV, and speak english no matter its right or not...now, he is very confidence. shy real not a good thing. if we market in most of people you will be at the last, but the cheeky others will get more and more money than you.

It's normal that you get shy and it's because you like this girl. Just try to be yourself and relax. Try to conquer your fears. The reason you're shy / nervous is because you're afraid that it might turn out bad. well, It's still good to try, right?

Don't think that you are the worst people in the world. Every person has a unique personality. In your case, that's normal because you are inlove with someone but u can't tell your feelings for her. Yes you are old enough and you should learn not to behave that way. making friends with others will help to develope your personality.

First you are not the worse type of person! I was shy , Painfully shy . The only way I got over it was by seeing that the person I was about to talk to Wanted to listen. The more I remembered that they Want to hear me , the more I spoke. Being shy isn't a curse. And it is normal to feel shy around a beautiful girl. Just take it slow. The first thing is to say hello when you see her , everytime you see her , Just say hello, how is your day going. Now if she doesn't respond, then She is the one that is being rude and then yuo have t ask yourself, do you want a rude girlfriend. That's another post! Just try it for a few days. Just say hello to her. I know you will fel like your heart will burst out of your chest it is beating so hard but you Have to try. Let me know how it went. I'm rooting for you. You Can do this. Take Care.

Well i use to have that problem, maybe not so extreme but very similar. How i got rid of it was to get a girl who wasnt so pretty but who i could live with. I stayed with her and while staying with her i look other girl. I would have more confidence in myself then because i am saying to myself that it doesnt matter if this girl shame me or refuse me because i have my real girl still. After a bit of practice i started to had it down. When i see a girl i like and really want to talk to her even though i am still a bit shy i would just try walk my foot over to her and then ask her something. I have no way to know if this method can work for you because i am alot younger than you so i dont know if it will have the same effect.

Note: You are the worst person. But honestly speaking, i have that attitude too. Being shy to crowd, talking to girls. To be honest, i cannot look eye to eye when I am speaking to a girl or other people who i don't know. I am 20 years old also. Cheers for us! But i think its a disorder to the people like us. Its a symptom but I am not sure of it. Just search for it. Again, cheers for us!.

Dont too worry about your shy character. Some girls like shy boy as well. Just have confidence to send a message to her.If you make friends,you will have chance to express your emotion. Good luck! So many lotters support you.

no sweetie there is nothing wrong with you :) you are just shy. thats cute^^ im sure that your friends can ask her number^^ dont think you are the worst person in the world. thats not true. me also some time ago had a crush on a chinese guy that i was seeing all the time and could never ask his number. my friend asked me if i wanted but i never told her i had crush on him ahah i was shy that she would tease me or even talk with him :) you were more brave than me that even asked your friend to ask her number ^^ dont feel bad really you are just trying. also im sure the girl wont mind to talk with you :) if need advises im here ^^

hello friend. first of all don't worry about this problem . this is the experience that what we should experience in all our life. and i think that if you have enough friends. and have enough experience in your life. then you will feel that its nothing for us to do sth . shy is unneccessary . best wishes.