is a wife must be a baby maker?
By ever_purple
@ever_purple (522)
Philippines
November 4, 2010 9:24am CST
i agree that part of being a wife is to give her husband his offspring. but what if a wife cant bear a child, would it be a valid reason for her husband leave her and find other woman who can give her a child? not judging all men, but if you will marry a woman,regardless of the fact that she can or she cant give you a child you must be there for her no matter what. i know not all men do this but for me of you will marry a girl marry her because you love her not because she can give you someone who can carry your surname!i do believe thats unfair! im not yet married and dont have yet plans pf being married but i sympathized with other owman who are enduring this kind of abuse from their spouses. i believe that children strengthen a marriage but if this is the reason why will it be destroyed , i guess the union was a mistake on the first place!!
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17 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Nov 10
A wife should be seen as a life partner to her husband. she shouldn;t be seen and thought of as just someone to make babies.Only a woman can bring children into the world, but she shouldn't be seen as just a baby machine.1 person likes this
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
4 Nov 10
Absolutely NOT! I think there is nothing more disgusting than the belief that a woman is solely defined by her ability or willingness to procreate. A woman is a person and an individual first and foremost. If she is able or willing to bear children, that is only an added facet to who she is. No one is EVER obligated by ANY means to bear a child if she can't or doesn't want to. If the man wanted children, then they should have figured that out BEFORE they got married.
I for one refuse to have children and I would never, ever be with a man who would try to force me to do so.
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@akari77 (123)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
They should talk about it as not to hurt the wife's feelings. It is hard for both of them but the wife is more hurtful in this scenario. There are lots of children who were abandoned or relative's children who can't be raised by their parents. They can fill the emptiness both of them are feeling and this will just be possible if they really love each other. Hope they can resolve this issue. :)
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
i agree..its better for them to do that. and besides its their relative and its not a stranger at all..=)
@crimiloilo123 (77)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
Yes you are right absolutely,that we should love a girl not just for having a child.Being a man,I believed that my feeling to my special girl will not and shall not affects my relationship if ever she will not give me a child.It is kind a unfair to her,on the other side,we can still adopt a child if possible.
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
i am glad that you think that way. your girl is so blessed to have you.God bless to both of you=)
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
yes your right..its better than degrading the dignity of the wife just adopt.for me its horrible to know the fact that your husband slept for other woman just to have his child cause you cant give him his..
@Galena (9110)
•
4 Nov 10
I absolutely disagree that part of being a wife it to have children.
do you have no romance? no love?
do you not choose to marry someone purely and simply because you can't imagine the rest of your life without them by your side?
children may or may not result from that. dependent on the choices and biology of the couple involved.
I don't ever WANT a child. but that doesn't make me any less of a good wife. that's not what I got married for. I married because I love my husband, and we belong together.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
6 Nov 10
This is not an issue for me, because I have never wanted kids anyway. However, I guess this would be a big issue for some people.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
It is wrong to put it in such a way that a wife/women must be a baby maker. Yes every man dreams of having kids from the woman they marry but women or wives should not be name plated as just baby makers. We play an important role in this earth and we should not just be that. There is indeed a lot of women out there that has difficulties being one but that does not stop them from marrying or having kids. Of course before marrying the woman of your dreams, in order to get into marriage they should know beforehand what they other person has in store for them. Or the marriage will just end sooner than they have expected.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 10
Hi,
I totally disagree that a wife is like machine to produce baby for family.
Being a wife, of course, we have responsibility to be a good wife to our husband
and also bear a child for family,so that It will make a complete family.
But it does not necessary that have to bear a child,then only can be
categorized as happy family.
SOme people do get married,but don't plan to have any child and they still
can live happily. Therefore,it is basically depend on individuals
thinking on how to lead their own life.
FOr me, as long as I play my part being a good wife and good mother at home,
I believe I am doing the best part in this family.
@libramie (562)
• Philippines
5 Nov 10
A wife is a partner of a husband. A wife can be a mother or can't and only God can grant it of being a mother. If a wife can't bear a baby its not her fault not to have and if a couple have a good foundation of love in their union, no child is not a hindrance to strengthen their marriage.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
4 Nov 10
One of my friend has no children. she has some problems. The man loves her very much. they are a good lovers. they like birds. i like the way they live together. i love the way the husband accept his wife as she is.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 10
This is the commitment in between the husband and the wife.
Some wife agree her husband to have second wife for giving birth. But some of them don't.
It is depend on the way they think. Some wife loves her husband very much. As what you said, the wife want her husband to have next generation.Then the wife herself arrange for the second wife. It is true.
It is hard to justify fair or unfair.
@okkypratama (39)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 10
it is a big moment that a wife be a mother, so use that moment for give all you have for your children. And you and your husband treat your children together.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
4 Nov 10
I think its wrong to leave someone you love because they can't give you children... you should love them for who they are not for something they can give you. Although me and my wife already have children... if we didn't and she couldn't have any.. i wouldn't leave her because i love her and married her because of that and because i want to spend the rest of my life with her with or without children. I'm very happy we have 2 children though.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
4 Nov 10
babys are gifts from god, if someone has that particular idea, have a really good frying pan near by lol ;) just kidding. just don't let him treat you like you are nothing important. women and men are made the same way. one or the other is not a babymaker
@josendo (20)
• Philippines
4 Nov 10
As for me, children should not be a must in a relationship. Well, having an offspring makes a relationship more complete. But then, if a wife cannot give or bear a child,it should not be the reason for a future divorce. Because first and foremost, before marriage, it was being stated that a couple must be together for richer and poorer, for better for worst a couple with or without children.
