Pink believes in Spanking!

yeah. aside that we have fear from our father (a policeman), we were spanked right away as soon as we committed a grave mistake. but we were taught like what is wrong will always be wrong. yet we were told of white lies when we were grown ups. at least we better understand the situations why are such. i spank our child some time before and she seems to have absorbed the message of being good and getting a punishment when being bad.

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I agree, plus a parent should never spank when they are angry. I spanked my son, but rarely and now I can't remember the last time I spanked him. At 8, I can explain right and wrong and take away games or the computer for punishment if he refuses to obey..

I only remember one spanking in my life. I usually tried to please my parents. Mom used alternative methods like taking away privileges whenever she could--her parents never spanked her and she thought it was barbaric and cruel. I think I spanked my two boys once apiece and they're very well adjusted, responsible adults. I don't think punishment of any kind is the way to raise a child, it's consistency that does it. Kids are so bad now partly because of the segment of society that assigns them all the rights of adults (and they have no idea what to do with those rights!) and partly because of inconsistent and unattached parents who let the child raise itself, for the most part. There are a LOT of good parents, don't get me wrong. But there are also a lot of children who see their parents only an hour or so a day if they're lucky. Those are the ones we should worry about, no matter what type of discipline is used. I say discipline because it teaches. Punishment just causes resentment and teaches nothing about proper behavior.

I think spanking is acceptable as long as parents don't get carried away into abuse. Here in Arizona a child murdered his father with a shotgun. The child said he kept a log of how many times he got spanked and he said if he got spanked 1,000 times he would shoot his dad. So yeah, getting spanked 1,000 times is extremely excessive. Most people I know do a swat or two on the butt. Most of the time it is just the threat of getting a spanking and kids will listen. Sure one too many people take punishing their children way too far. I don't ever want to spank my kids unless they are getting out of control. I hate the kids in store who are just running around screaming and trashing the store and their parents are either standing right there pretending they don't see or they aren't even within sight! Its crazy. I got swatted on the butt and spanked so it works. I was only slapped once ever and I hated it and I would never ever slap my children in the face. Also I had my mouth washed out with soap once, it was unpleasant but it didn't teach me anything, I don't even remember what I did to deserve it. So to me the only physical punishment should be butt spankings. And not beating them either you don't need to hit them for a long time but a few pops on the butt is fine. And spanking with a belt is terrible I still hate my dad for that and no one should get hit with anything but a hand. If it hurts your hand to spank your child on the butt you are most likely hitting them way too hard.

I would agree but as a survivor of child abuse that I am I have to say that some parents do not know when to draw the line. The problem here with the kids of today is that parents resort to beatings way too late. The kids should never be beat at this point the parents are so stressed and frustrate they find they have no other choices. When all while if they had stressed and emphasized consistency with right and wrong while the child was growing up. See some parents say no, and later say maybe and then change it again to a just this time. Which the child then knows exactly how they can get around things in their lives. So I am raised two kids and thank God I never resorted to spankings with my kids, as I perhaps with my past would not have been able to differentiate the difference between a spanking versus abuse. So with all the hype and media today on how parents are not allowed to touch the kids it becomes even a more reason for that child that never learned the difference from good versus bad behavior to simply listen to their parents. I am simply voicing from my own experience and what I see with other parents today.

my mother disciplined me with understanding. she gaves me some example if someone or me did something wrong. she never hit me at, but she gave me a big warn if i did something bad

Hiya lelin, One thing I will say even though I was hit various times in my childhood it did not influence me very much. More than that it was the cruel words used I think they can bite deeper than all the rest of it. Don´t want to go into it any further than that. My kids have been bought up right I did not hit out at them but I did put them restrictions.and even though they might have thought the opposite today I know that they really realize the restrictions I put on them was for their own good. I was brought up more or less with a Rod of Iron but I have a resistance to this kind of treatment it never made me any different to what I was. I never misbehaved much just got all that my Brothers should have got instead seeing as I was looking after them (grin).