You treat me like dirt

Well... Yes it would to some extent. If you are married, then you are married. Until you are not married, you are still married. So, even if the relationship will end at some point in the future, in my book, you should still act like you are married to them... because... you are. Now if you are not married anymore. Then no, you are simply not acting like you are married anymore... because... you're not.

Treating someone like dirt is bad mouthing them infront of children, family friends, and strangers. Bad mouthing includes: sarcasm criticism telling off ordering about speaking rudely or disrespectfully other ways to treat someone like dirt: being mean not sharing ignoring (not saying hello or good bye)

Ok - since you asked - suppose there is something that hurts me, and humiliates me, and I have voiced it to you before - and since the relationship is ending, you start teasing me about it... you take the help of others to raise topics like that ... and tease me about it. Even when I repeatedly tell you it hurts... you just laugh it off saying its a joke... that hurts. That is when I will feel as if I am being treated like dirt, and invariably I will show the dirt colors.

Treating someone like dirt according to me, is giving them some good hell in life. Swearing at them and making sure they are miserable. What you are doing is not treating him like dirt at all. TATA.

No, I wouldn't consider these actions/thought/etc. "treating somebody like dirt". It's certainly not comfortable for either of you, I'm sure. I just hope the situation doesn't go to heck before the divorce becomes final. Do you have a time for the divorce yet?

i was treated like dirt by my ex and i now hate him and dont even want to be anywhere near him

No I do not, you are breaking up with the Person, the togetherness is not there any more You are preparing to lead your own Life without this Person, you do not want this Person to share your deepest Thoughts and that any more, so no that is not treating them like Dirt, they are aware that you are preparing for the Divorce and if they can not accept that and see what is happening, that is their Problem not yours, it is not treating them like Dirt at all

Of course not! When and if it's consciously done for the betterment of the two and all, I think that's just the right way to deal with it. Nothing's more important than being holding each other with respect and not letting go of each others self esteem. Some things in life never fix and when we get to realise that, respectful distancing is the only answer. That's how I feel dawny.

To me this comes under the "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" clause. If you are being treated this way just ignore it and step away, but if you are considering doing this, just DON'T.

Dearest Dawn, I´m afraid your only problem is that you have treated your husband TOO WELL!!!And because of that, it seems that he is not aware that you are going to divorce. Maybe he still hopes this is "just a phase". If that is so, he might feel you are treating him like dirt. You are not sleeping with him, you don´t cry on his chest. How long are you going to go on living together and how long are you going to sleep in the couch? How much longer are you going to act SO respectfully that he can still think you (his wife) are treating him like dirt? Legally you are married. It seems that in other senses you are divorced. Explain. Show. Act.Don´t treat him in any way. Bye, Adios. The end. John Wayne mounting on his horse and leaving forever.

This is definitely not treating someone like dirt. In fact, this is treating someone a lot better than people typically do when a relationship is coming to an end. I would think that treating someone like dirt would be putting them out on the street without any place to go. It would be having no communication at all whatsoever when it came to any of the affairs that the two of you once shared. It would be anything but what you are doing with your ex.

Why do you always have problems similar to these. Anyway i dont classify that treating someone like dirt. What i classify as treating someone like dirt is if you start to treat them bad, start to disrespect them or so but not if you leasve them out of a certain situation.

Well, couple should have openness in them. Improve your openness in one another. If he/she doesn't want to open his\her door to you. Then you should not force him\er to open it.

not all of it but ive seen a situation almost like yours and is the closest i can associate with treating someone like dirt. no more mentioning about finances in detail, authority is undermined (not only between the couple but with the children to their parent also), cheating but not deliberately, no confiding of feelings either. really mean and is lacking deep respect but at some point i came to understand that people have their own reasons for having to act so. with what i saw, boundaries have been pushed and there is no more room for chances as all the patience and understanding that have been long sown were all consumed. the whole act was the result of years of being treated badly and i dont blame this person for being so protective of herself now that she finally found the courage to live happily only with her kids. unless we are in their place or we live with them, we wouldnt understand fully what made them choose to treat someone like "dirt"

Look on the bright side, you are now freeeeeeeeeee like a bird. And to answer your question, I usually treat dirt by ignoring it. And brushing it off my feet. It really doesn't sound like that from your description.

Treating someone like dirt would mean talking down to the person, behaving rudely to them, taking them for granted, and manipulating them in other words showing that person no respect. I would not considering setting appropriate boundaries and not sharing the level of intimacy you once had as treating that person badly. It sounds to me like someone has not accepted the fact that the relationship is well and truly over and probably had been for a long time before the divorce papers were filed. What happens sometimes is one partner is completely reliant on the other and although he or she probably made no effort toward the relationship and took the other for granted when the time comes for the partnership to end, said person lives in complete denial because it is too difficult for he or she to come to terms that they are going to be on their own.

Noway that is treating someone like dirt. There are alot of people out there that have been taken for a ride during a divorce and that is not my definition of it. I think that treating someone like dirt would be to have been to take as much as could be taken. I also think that it is a fairly rare thing that someone lets the other "get used to the idea" of being apart. I think that is far from dirt.

Well, with a relationship that's ending, I would think it's just natural to start separating ways/things. The things you described, I wouldn't count that as treating someone like dirt. Treating like dirt - to me that means you intentionally treat them last rate - you just don't give a crap about them and your actions would show you could care less about them. Being respectful and courteous - at least that's showing "civil" care. The not sharing of feelings and dreams - or setting new boundaries - well, just a process of "letting go".

For me it is very bad thing to your life before you encounter it be honor your self so that you know how others honor you.

That is not treating someone like dirt at all. Instead this is doing the right and honest and amicable thing. To grab some distance which in time will be more is good, to keep them upto date on children and money shows your a good parent and your not wanting to take all the money, you don't try to create any problems, you want things to be a pleasent experience and you seem to be doing that. If you did the opposite of all of this then yes you will be treating them like dirt, but your not.