Mind Your Own Bussiness

Yeah, I know what you mean. I am a grand mother, but remember the day! I think it is just a conversation thing. Kind of like when you see someone like as you check out at the cash register...they say "hi, how are you?" They could care less how you are, they don't even know you! But they say it as it is just the given introduction when you have to say something but have no reason to say anything. New moms, just have to deal with this ...everyone else always knows better than you do. Had I been then as I am now...and someone said something insulting to my intelligence of being a mom or just to common sense...I'd a said something short right back like "oh, really? I thought you were supposed to just let the kid have the bottle till they reach high school!" FYI - many time, since it annoys me so much, if someone does say to me "hi, how are you"...I will tell them..."I am fed up with having to wait in this line" or "I have a cold and feel crappy, you?" The looks are hilarious and just brighten my day! I was standing in line at the bank recently for 15 minutes, they only had 3 tellers open, one of course has a problem person and that person will be there for 15 minutes, so you can't count that teller, the second teller is helping the line and the third teller is not taking people, but doing something else so for usable purposes...there is one teller for 10 or more people in line... I stand there for 15 minutes...and as I am get to be the first in line...an employee comes to me and says "And what brings you to Chase today?" I was so tired of standing there for so long just cause they don't want to hire appropriate help, that I said "Banking business". She looked rudely at me and walked to the next person in line and asked the same question and that person sais "making a deposit" and the lady moved to the next person in line.... I mean, come on...we are standing in line a t a bank...what the heck do you think brought us here?

I was very surprised by this as well when I first had my oldest daughter. And I took it all to heart wondering if I was doing everything wrong. I have since learned than I and I alone know my children best and what truly works for our family. I am a good mom, and I may not do things exactly as someone else would, but I am good at being a mom to my girls. Eventually you will learn to ignore it. My favorite is when people who don't have children try to tell you how to raise your kids, to this I politely say that when they have kids I would be glad to have the conversation again...lol. I don't get why everyone thinks this is an okay subject to constantly berate people about, when it is one of the most personal relationships a person will ever have.

i find that people just love to give advice and they think you are doing you a favour.

I think people today are more vigilant because of things like child abuse, for one thing. There are a lot of "well meaning" butt-inskies who haven't got a clue; often they don't even have children, but boy they can raise anybody's child better than the parents can, to hear them talk. You're right, no one should judge. If you don't want someone's advice, you have the right to ignore it, and also to tell them to keep their advice to themselves. Best of luck.

hi bred, I am a mother of two boys too...and you know what you're right some other people might have a different kind of experience about how they do such things, sometimes sharing experiences are not that good especially we have different kinds of system, natures and everything...but its one of the traits of most people who just judge without knowing everything...they just know what they see...what they see is what they judge so nothing more like possible to have a very good day if somebody is making us feel where not doing the right thing and they are...I don't know but it sound pathetic to me...sorry but I also hate someone who just feel they are better than anyone else.

i have a 5 month old little girl and its my first child and people are always tryin to give me advice and and i always here people talking about the way someone does something even though sometimes i agree with what that person has done or has not done right but i mean really why talk about that person. i cant understand why they have to do that. they dont know what is going on in that persons life or why they feel they should do it maybe they got advice to take the bottle away at that time or maybe they were told that right now is when they should start eating who knows. in my defense its is none of our business so we have no right to but in or talk about them.. we can only give advice if they want it..

I think people always made their thoughts very casually and don't bother about how it can make serious effect on other sensitive people.So please don't take their opinions and advices too seriously.Their criticism is as false as their praises.if you want that to stop make effect of these criticism or advices to you hen stop taking their praises seriously also.

You will find in common practice amongst the parents that have troubled kids. For some odd reason they cannot handle their own and have the need to advise others, as if they knew it all. Do not allow these people to irritate you, simply say thank you and walk away and do your own thing as if you feel you need help you will be responsible enough to seek it directly.

I always wondered this myself. Although I'm a guy, I have had a few friends that after they had babies they where constantly given advice from everyone around them on how to raise the child. I mean there where even people who didn't have kids saying things like "you should do this" or "that's not how you do that". What gives the people the right and how is a person suppose to learn with constantly being critized by others. I say let them be if they aren't harming the child. After all that's how most mothers learn is by experience not books and advice although it helps sometimes!

maybe they are just giving you advise on how to babysitt your child.

I think people do need to mind their own buisness. It seems everyone has no life, and all they worry about it other people's lives. Tell them to not worry about your son, he's yours! Try not to worry about it. People tend to judge a lot.