The Lack of Wanting the " right thing"

yup! and i must say that in this very moment that is exactly what is happening in my life now...and i think that also giving up in this life,and i do felt that this life is being so unfair in me... and it is very difficult and heartbreaking to think that there is many ways to get out in this set up but no i can't,because of many things to consider... and now i am stuck in a situation of just doing it even though i don't want but need to be...my mind is very much tired of thinking so many things even i don't want to think for it coz it bring to much headache for me,but then again i can't help it but to think...and now i am truly depressed coz of this situation... i wanna go out but i can't!

Although I realize that there is nothing wrong with not wanting the 'right thing', I also know that I could never afford that for myself, for now. I know what you mean with this discussion sarah, and I respect you for that. Sometimes I even envy you for finding your own bliss. But for me, with young kids around, I know I should still be pushing for the right thing. The difference is, this 'right thing' may not be for myself anymore, but for the kids.

No...only go with what your heart desires....if you have goals...then go for them the way you want to...like Frank sang.....do it your way!

I always heard such thing some family even non-family always dictate it to me as if they know what would happen to me if i never done such thing or never try since they pity single person if remain unmarried. So as per see as normal the society influence is very strong but as a respect the final decision need to come from the person involve and not come from other opinion. So if one fail to follow what the other people see as the normal things to do the person is seen as disobedient or hard headed since the person persist to stand on her own decision without bothering to worry about what other people have to say. I think the constant reminder is annoying and it just like other people would be force to pity itself as some mention it is hard to remain single or without a child as no one would bother to care and one would live in misery, alone and lonely. many gives lot of advice which become a sources of confusion or pressure. So some need to think many times before trying to follow it if the situation does not fall right into place the decision to follow them could be a wrong move. As following them when one is not happy should not be an obligation as man have free will to choose or decide which he or she feel right..

You don't have to give up on life in order to prove something. That's a losing bet. Instead, figure out what you want and focus on that. You don't have to act on expectations of others. Otherwise, you won't realize what you really want.

Wanting something you don't want will only make you unhappy and regret many things. do what your heart desires and not because of what others are telling you to do so. It's your life to rule and you should only make choices that can satisfy you and not to satisfy the people around you. Yes I have been in that same situation where my family is telling me what i should do in my life even if it is against my will. And I regret many things in the past because I listen to them thinking it is what's best for me and will make me happy. Now I'm trying to do things my way. And if it won't result to no good, I can say that at least I tried it and it is my choice anyway. So there is no one to blame but myself alone.

The things you refer to are external shoulds,things other people believe are the right things to do. I believe that only internal ie your own, shoulds warrant you attention. Living to someone else's plan is unlikely to lead to happiness.