what do you do when you are jealous?

Gez your girlfriend Ex is like stoker, how he keep know your girl number after she change it. I think he making friend with one of your girlfriend friend or family so he got updated every time she change number. I thing you don't need to jealous because she is your girl know and its obvious she choose you over his EX. By jealous you just show your insecurities.

My goodness, don't we have a room of amatuers!! I personally think jealousy is stupidity. Jealousy derives from lack of communication btwn couples and not fully trusting ur partner and nothing infuriates me more than bf's/gf's who spy on each other's phones. Thats completely silly!! If you love and trust your partner fully, and they are aware of your trust then there is no need to be jealous as jealousy is childish, immature and just plain stupid. All my friends are guys, and when I met my man I told him that and he accepted it and he trusts me fully thats why he doesnt go nuts if one of my guy friends call me. Same as me, if his girl pals call him, I have no prblem with it at all because I know he wont run off with one of them or do something stupid because we're both open and honest with one another.

If you trust her you should have no reason to be jealous. Has she given you any reason? I too would question why they keep getting her number.

Well, first of all jealousy is not good if this is over. It's not bad if the jealous is a kind of showing love. But the jealous always is not a kind of showing it is a kind of selfish... What I did was just hiding when I felt jealous. I don't reveal it and not showing it...

I'm not a jealous person, but then I have no reason to be. I must admit that, in the past, when I found that there was more than texting going on I ended the relationship. Short of changing telephone number I guess that there is always the likelihood of continued contact, so I suppose that it depends upon the degree. I think that you would be right to voice concern if it became an issue for you, but, similarly, running through her phone messages shows that you might distrust her.

Well, if about your stories about your gf...if me, i will really jealous too. (So, please feel better that you are not different ) But when I feel jealous I always trying to away from my bf, do some thing else and will not interesting on him for while, like a not call, not talking much like before or go out with friends more often than before. For me if I broke up with some one, I will not contact him any more, specially if I already have new bf!

I am a Scorpio and they are very passionate and caring people. They are also very jealous. When I was younger (just turned 59 today)i saw green BIG TIME!! Now I still feel it but I am less apt to react now days. I think it subsides with age as self esteem takes over and such. It sounds like your gf still wants to stay in contact with her ex bfs. It could be very innocent and they just still have a friendship and it could be something else. I would just ask her about it. If she acts weird then you know something is up. Jealousy can run some people off so I would be careful. Don't jump to conclusions. Be tactful in talking to her and not accusitory until you know the facts.

Hey mark! I kind of know how you feel. My bf won't let me near his cell phone. And sometimes when it rings and I'm there and he let's it go to voicemail and I ask him who it is, he tells me it's "non-ya" meaning-"none of my business" and that really makes me angry!I know that his ex-gfs call him and he has other "friends" that are females and I don't like it, but what can I do? We've been together for 3 years now! We will be living together 3 years in January! I just try to deal with it, but like I said I don't like it!

I am not a particularly jealous person; I’ve been married for fourteen years and I trust my husband very much and he has never given me reason to feel jealous. I believe that extreme jealousy can be very damaging because it makes the other person feel trapped and controlled. I would be careful of excessive suspicion because people have lost their beloved due to the green eyed monster!

First, the root of Jealousy is thinking you have a right to something, that is not yours. Your girl friend is not 'yours'. She has chosen to be with you, and can chose otherwise. You do not demand gifts, nor do you have a right to a gift. Her love and friendship, is a gift to you, not a right or a demand. So the first thing is you understand your position. She's not yours. You do not own her, nor control her, nor have any right whatsoever to her, except that she offers herself as a gift. A gift you can lose the right to at any time. However.... having said that, your feelings about her ex boy friend are real, and valid. Not one thing I said above, makes her interactions with a former boy friend, any less real or painful. If I were you, I would say exactly that to her. Tell her very specifically that her talking and chatting with her ex, hurts you. And then she has a choice. Does she continue to do things that hurt you, or does she give up an old boyfriend for the one she really cares about now. Then, you find out what she really is like. If she refuses to give up her old boyfriend, then that tells you what she really thinks of you. Or if she does give him up, then you go from there. For me, if my girlfriend refused to give up her old boyfriend for me, then I'd move on. She clearly isn't ready for a real relationship, or she is still in love with the prior guy. In either case, I'm wasting my time.

Definitely jealous with my partner's ex's. I don't like them to communicate with her nor exchange hi and hello though we formally meet and become good friends. The thought of they have history and they've been together makes me so insecure and paranoid on how they take care each other before. When there name mentioned i feel sudden change of my mood, i want to burst! Though i am the longest relationship she had i am still insecure of their past. No matter how my partner love me the anger are still there, maybe in time it will fade but for now i can't avoid to be jealous.

Hi markleob: When I'm jealous, first I think if there's a good reason to be that way. If not I simply try to ignore it but if there's something that make me feel insecure about my relationship, like in your case, where there's a good reason to feel jealous I would talk to her and I would express my feelings. You can control your girlfriend so you have to trust in her. If she really loves you she won't do anything to hurt you I think but you need to understand that, the only thing you can do is to express how you feel to her and to trust on her and on her criteria. Thanks for sharing with us this problem. Have a nice day. ALVARO

i am also a jealous person. but i think i've already controlled it now and tried to be confident and trustful to my partner.. he's a real charmer and he doesn't know that many girls even gays adore him so much.. but i just shrug it as long as he's honest and tells me everything... but the worst that i did i guess was to confront the girls... that's it.. i just sent them messages to keep their distance since its not gonna be good for them as well as our relationship.. i make sure that they know he's already taken and i'm not gonna sit here and wait for them to bait him.

Me too. When my ex and I were still together, he has a lot of textmates. I got angry with him because he was so sweet with them compared to how he treats me. I got angry with him. That's one of the reasons he broke up with me. So sad. That's why, tell her deeply that you don't feel comfortable that her Ex is texting her. Tell her that before you'll end up like me.

It is one thing to be well informed that jealousy is bad for a relationship and for self-development, it is another to not yield to it. Jealousy is a widely misunderstood feeling, many believe it to be negative and think it ruins lives and relations. Jealousy can be deal with easily through acknowledgement, confrontation, and reinforcement.

i have and i have hit out before. This is not the answer. It is always best to communicate, it is hard being jealous and it can cause problems, you mainly need to trust your partner. If she is getting texts then is it her giving them the number? If not then try and ask her to find out who is doing this, if she has changed her number a few times then it has to be one of the people she trusts with her new number. Also i would have a word with the ex's. Ask them why they are texting her, you may not always like what you find out though as it may be your partner staying in contact with them.

I was never jealous in this particular situation. From the beginning of my relationship with my husband now, I told him I don't want to be lied to and I don't want any secrets between us. I'm not bothered if his ex would communicate with him as long as I knew about it. I want to keep that trust between us because it is the best foundation in a relationship. If that bothers you a lot why don't you ask your girlfriend. Tell her how you feel but don't argue or fight with her. Be honest and she will be too.

As a man I am sure i am jealous? especially the some as you for my loving girl. I don't want my loveing girl together with others and play with others and smile alot with others. I hate My loving girl with another boy go on the street and speak some whisper that make me jealous and want go to die. but when Iove a girl she will try her best to make me feel jealous and this may be let her feel good. so I leaning to keep myself calm and try not to be jealous too much. that kind of feeling really to be bad.

you are not jealous.This is possesiveness towards your love.I also will feel the same in case i was you.

When im jealous i kick myself in the face and then poke myself in the eye with my big toe . It really helps me calm down :D