love as a friend
By coollady9
@coollady9 (143)
Indonesia
November 5, 2010 9:44pm CST
sometimes, You can not deny, there are some people who really like you more than friends. It's so confusing. I always get this situation any where. I try to do the best to keep in touch with all my friends. But some already have been jealous. I call this love as a friend. But my friend sometimes refuses to be my friend only. Some want to be more and want to be more special than each other. I try to be wise, but still they don't understand. What should we do?
3 responses
@tuamora (79)
• United States
6 Nov 10
I ave this issue all of that time as well. I have had one recently. I have known my friend Jay Jay for over 12 years. We live over 3,000 miles away from one another and speak to each other over the phone and through Facebook. He knows that I have a boyfriend. One day I received a text message from him stating. "If you and I lived in California and you were not with someone. Do you think you and I would have a chance."
What I did was allow some time to go by, so that he didn't think that I was excited to get that text. I then told him, if he valued me as a person, he would never disrespect me like that again. I told him it was highly inappropriate of him to send a text to me in that manner knowing that I am with someone. I further stated that my boyfriend easily could have been the recipient of his text message, since we use the same phone. Believe it or not he apologized for being so callous to my feelings.
My suggestion is to tell these persons the truth. You do not wish to have a relationship. If they cannot respect that you have to let them go even as a friend. Believe me, if they value you as a person, they will make the right decision. Hold to your boundaries.