how to not get bored in a relationship????/
By peachmom2369
@peachmom2369 (131)
United States
November 5, 2010 10:01pm CST
Me and my husband have been married for only a little over a year now and we have a 2 yr old and a 4 month old together so we are always tired and constantly on the go with little together time. I am only 20 and he is 21 so we still like to have fun but when we do get alone time we just sit on seperate sides of the living room and watch tv. it seems to me that are relationship has gotten kind bored of each other and now we act as if we are an old married couple. How do you keep your marriage interesting even tho you dont have much time for each other???????
5 responses
@cyrri_ako (461)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
dont think that having a baby would mean lesser time with one another. yes, it could be tiring but try to involve kids in your activities.
@peachmom2369 (131)
• United States
6 Nov 10
it makes it very hard since they are so young and require all my attention thanks for the comment
@tritthart15 (1)
• United States
6 Nov 10
You are very young to be in a rut in your marriage. In situations like yours, you both have to be creative. Have you tried writing on the bathroom mirror with your finger so that when your husband gets out of the shower it will show from the steam? Or, you could leave each other notes in your lunches? Or, you could leave notes in the car? Sometimes it does not take much to brighten each other's day. It may just take saying, "I love you and always will." When the kids go to bed, try planning an activity that will start a conversation without using much energy. You may even like to make a rule that as soon as the kids go to bed you will talk for at least 30 minutes about your day to each other. From that, you should each feel closer to other. Family outtings to the zoo or fishing may provide you with time to talk since the kids should be interested in what is going on around them. However, you may have to wait awhile on this since the one child is only 4 months old. Do what ever it takes to keep your marriage healthy and happy! Best wishes to your family!
@peachmom2369 (131)
• United States
6 Nov 10
thanks those are great ideas ive thought about things like that but hes not into things like that so im not sure he would aprreciate it but will defenitely try it out.
@thuynhu (661)
• United States
6 Nov 10
My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and I'm not sure how I could explain keeping our marriage alive. He's been deployed so it's always exciting to see him or to talk with him. When he came home the first time, we just spent alot of time together going out to eat and going to the movies. I guess we just enjoyed the little quality time together. I know we've gone to the pool hall cause we like to shoot pool, but with you having to kids I see it kind of hard to do that unless you have a reliable babysitter. We've even gone bowling. I know we had searched for somewhere to do paintball, but then I found out I was pregnant. And now I'm not sure how things are going to be once he returns from being deployed since now we have our daughter. But if you care enough and love him as much I love my husband you figure something out, especially being so young. Cause my husband and I are both 23 and still got time to have fun as well. Good luck, I'm sorry I didn't have more to tell you.
@peachmom2369 (131)
• United States
6 Nov 10
thanks for your story and good luck with your husband being deployed my Brother in law is also in the army and gone alot he already did 15 months in iraq couple years ago and will be going back soon so i know how you feel from how my sister deals with her husband gone
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
7 Nov 10
i see that you and your hubby have small babies thats why you feel like that with each other bcs you are always busy taking care of them. but you cant forget romance in your relation^^ why dont you sometimes ask your parents or his parents to take care of the kids? only sometimes for you to go dinner together or something^^ so it can bring romance again for your marriage^^ it really needs a spark again^^ if you have time for only you and him will go all ok like before :) 
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
6 Nov 10
simple things stimulates excitement and interest. it was those small things that makes us smile. admit it or not, we really do have those sweet moments before, so just keep it coming again. Be creative, and add some sweetness despite the stress and pressures of being a new young couple.
And it's always good to communicate. Always communicate your love to your partner, communication is very crucial to relationships. It keeps the relationship working, and always wear a smile despite the stress... if you're partner don't initiate the communication, start it. Be the starter, dare to be!
