favoritism about your children...

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I have two sons and my mom's favorite is the eldest because she took care of him when I was working before...I did not say that he did not love my youngest but he is favorable to the eldest one, when I decided to resign to my work and took care of my kids, I noticed that I kept blaming my eldest son every time my youngest is crying, I always tell him that his brother is only 3 years old and the way he treated him is not right because he is almost boy he is 7 years old now, and every time they're playing one of them will cry and still I scolded the eldest I keep telling him that he is the eldest so make a way to his baby brother, my cousin and mom told me that I am always in favor of the youngest but for me I'm only doing what I know the best thing like make my eldest understand how young the youngest and how old he is he is the big brother and he will be the one who taking care of his baby bro, but suddenly people around me are keep telling me you have favoritism and that is not a good thing because my eldest will make some drama just to make me more annoying on him, but still my eldest asking me why do i always in my youngest side while I always scolded him.. I tell him no its not like that its just your baby brother needs us the most because he did not know what to do or if he move if he will hurt himself or not unlike you you can play alone without our eyes on you while your baby bro cannot play without anyone is taking care of him...well maybe i just don't see that I am more favorable to my youngest because the main fact of he is still a baby for me, my eldest is in 1st grade and I am the one in charge of taking him and picking him up in school and the one whose in charge of his studies and everything...stuff like cooking for them and fixing his uniform is my moms duties...while bathing, feeding, playing, sleeping with them is on my hand we still have a bonding moment the 3 of us, while my husband is working abroad I am the mom and dad of child right now...I still have a doubt that maybe I have a favoritism between my sons.