How do you reject a persistent suitor?

well, it is your life. do not allow others to run it. if you are not really attracted to the guy, no one must dictate. it is your life at stake, not theirs. as to the suitor, tell him to stop and that you do not like to receive anymore messages from him anymore or see him. or maybe a friendly note saying, it is sad that i do not feel the same, but it is the truth.

You have to be straight up with both your friend and this guy, Rinfour. First, tell your friend that you are absolutely not at all even remotely interested in this guy. Make sure she knows that you value your friendship with her and if she values yours equally then she will not push the matter. Obviously, she thought that the two of you would be good for each other and wanted to see you happy. Since you would not be happy seeing this guy then she would be wise to just respect your choice.If she doesn't then she isn't much of a friend really. You just can't force two people to be together..you just can't. As for the guy, you have to maybe be a little firmer and to the point of what you might consider rude or mean. You have told him that you are not interested and that should have been enough. Since he didn't get it then it is time for you to put a little more strength and conviction into that message. I would ignore the messages he sends and stop replying back and I would tell the friend why. You don't want to give him false hope or encourage him in any way to continue.

ahh do not worry too much. your friend will understand you if you do not entertain this person whom she has introduced you. besides it is just an initiative and it still is your choice. =) when i was in such a situation the trick that worked for me was the 'silent treatment'. he will eventually get tired of sending messages to someone who is not replying. =0

Try to discuss it first with your friend without mentioning the real reason. You can just tell your friend that you're not used of matching process when it comes to finding the right person. You're friend would certainly understand you, better it that way rather than giving false hope to both. That would seems more rude. Don't wait for the time that yoúr friend will tell you why did you prolong the wait for nothing, that would be more painful. So better inform them now.

I have been into this situation 3 years ago i guess. He's not just persistent,but also a stalker. Well,it was easy for me to get rid of of him because i almost filed a case against him for taking my pictures. Yes,he's been stalking me and took my pictures and posted in his social sites,then he will give me the site and asks me to open it. It was so desperate for me that time,and i feel scared too (thu he never attempt of getting near me. I met him from a training/seminar and got my info from the log in book. At first he is so friendly,well,during training you must befriended with your co-trainees. And i never had any conclusion that he likes me,because he is a single guy with good looks and good position in a company (to think that there are single ladies in that training session) Ok,as i've wrote above,i seek legal advice for postings my pictures in web. The lawyer send him notice and he asks apologized and promised to delete the pictures and get off my way. He asks to talk with me for the last time and i granted his wish. There i hear him saying,he really likes me and he is sorry for all the things he has done. Now the last time i heard from him is,he has a girlfriend (heard from one of co-trainees and we also have a website where i and him are both members of that group..it's a business club group) With your case,just avoid him and if he still persist make legal action then. I know it's hard to deal with person that feel too much confident that we like them too (ugh! such a headache) Be careful also,but don't make him feel you are afraid. Have a great weekend

It may be a different story when you're a guy, but if I was a girl I would tell the guy straight up and be frank that I'm really not interested and if that does not work. There's always the "Ignore Mode" and if it still does not work and it gets a bit too annoying. Time to call the cops.

Hi rinfour! I would suggest that you talk to your friend. If he/she is really a friend, he/she would understand that you don't like the guy. As for the guy, tell him again that you're not into him. If it still doesn't work, try changing your number.

...Hey there, First explain to your friend what has been going on with the guy one more time. Get her or him to understand that he is annoying you. You do not owe your friend the right to make you unhappy and upset with their friend's persistance. They would not engage in a relationahip with one of your friends if they did the same to them and they were not interested. Stand up for yourself. After you explain it to your friend, he or she, then tell the guy one more time how you feel, short message, don't over do it. After that do not answer anymore of his texts or whatever. Life is too short to put up with things that do not please us. If you lose your friend, they were not really a true friend. Friends don't want their friends to be miserable over what they want them to do. Being your own best friend means doing what is best for you, not everyone else. Take care.

say to her that you appreciate that she wanted you to meet that boy but that you are not into him. you cant choose your feelings and she should understand you and not be angry. isnt your fault if you feel nothing for him. tell her that you can be friends with him but not more. you dont feel any connection so will be not possible to have a relation with him. also tell him that you are sorry but want only to be friends. both will understand your feelings^^

Sit him down, and talk to him gently about your position, and why wouldn't work out. the approach and the tone you use would make understand, and sympatise with you. It is a predicament, let him know that. Goldenoc, you don't have a problem. you said you don't like this guy, then just tell him off? don't be deceived. that guy might not even love, he just wants to get into your pants and clear his head about the fantasy's he has about you.

for me, I think you should have a heart to heart conversation with your friend and you should speak out your feelings to your friend about it and maybe your friend would understand. And still if she does not get it, maybe you can get to your meaner side, tell her maybe your friend and the guy can date themselves. hehe. just kidding. Well, there are lots of issues been solved if two parties just talk about it. Hopefully it would turn out good for you.

Why is that your friend introduce you a guy who is like that? She thinks that your taste is like that? I suggest just to stop talking to them. Especially to that guy. Dont waste your time talking to them. But if that guy is her brother or relatives of course she will be mad at you. Rejecting those suitors is not a crime. And also saying NO to him. Just tell him that you rather be just friends or never.

I am in the exact same situation right now! If you really do not like him, the best thing to do would be to tell your common friend that although you appreciate her efforts in trying to set you up you with someone, you're really not interested in the guy. If you tell your common friend how you truly feel, I am sure she won't get mad. Tell the guy straight up that you don't like him as anything more than a friend. Be blunt. You might feel uncomfortable doing so, but sometimes you have to be blunt with guys because they don't get subtlty.

U just have to tell ur friend the reason y u dont wanna talk with him. And If she is really your friend, she will consider ur thoughts about that person. Dont be afraid that u will lose her...Just say her whats in ur heart!

If your friend who introduced you to this guy is single tell her if she likes him so much to date him yourself. Just because she introduced you to him doesnt mean you are obligated to like him. I cant stand when people spell simple words wrong. If people spell words wrong now and then its no big deal but if its the same spelling of the wrong word all the time it drives me nuts. I had a guy who did this and I finally said how the word was spelled and after that he didnt spell it wrong anymore. Some guys just dont get the picture they still think they have hope. Just come out and say look you seem like a nice guy but you texting me all the time is driving me nuts I'm not interested in you and I dont know how else to say that I'm sorry goodbye. LOL I think after that he will leave you alone.

YOUR CHOICE MATTERS. If you're annoyed then change your sim card or mobile phone number. admit you're friend that you don't like him. if you're friend can't understand that then it's better to not to talked to each other for a while. he/she should respect you're decisions in life and eventually, you will findsome whom i belieeve they can help you better.

explain to your friend that you're really not into this guy. Tell your friend that you can't force yourself to like this guy cause it will just end up hurting him. I hope your friend will understand that.

umm.. y don't u tal with him wtih honest and love.. and tell him to stop.. or there gonna be a fight xP u ust explain to him to stop & u don't like it..