will you get married to please your parents?

yeah, the better way to let your mother feel good is to find another good guy that is better than this guy. you know, your mother has undertaken too much in this famlily and she wish you a nice future. That her considerate care is just too much for you to breath. so you need to chat with your mother and let her know that you are good, and you will find a suitable guy.That guy is not suitable for me. you are not happy being together.

Hi sophia, we are at the opposite situation, because when my mother known I have a boyfriend, he don't like him. Told me to break him up, but I did not follow her. Now we are married and happy together. My answer to your question, just follow your heart because you are the one to get married not your mother.

you do not have to marry him. don't do it. though marriage can be cultural. some countries allow the parents to decide on who to marry. is this the case in your country? if it isnt, then do not do it. it is your life and no one has to dictate on you who to marry. if love is there then it is okay.

why u should ask ur self u will be happy to ur decision to go back to him and suffer the consequence mybe he will think to u that u beg for this come back their a lot of men better thn him. then tell ur moms that u r responsible to let go to him coz u r one women to be love and to love someone new

Personally, because I'm young, my parents would not want me to marry just yet. But in your situation, there must be a good reason why your mom acted that way. Maybe, she thinks that the guy is good guy that would take care of you when she leave you, and that she thinks you are ready to "settle down". Situation varies. Well, in yours, I don't why you dislike the guy but there sure is a reason why your mom liked him that much. You should weigh things out, consider the pros and cons (not just for you or for your mom but for both of you, this may take time), then a make a decision that is very less likely for you to regret someday. After you've made a decision, talk to your mom in a calm nature and tell her why did you choose that. Listen also to what she will say. After you've explained to her things out, you two should have a good decision to come up. Hope you solve this matter soon!

I think you should start by talking to her about why she feels so strongly about it - has she listened to your reasons behind your breakup? But overall, don't make the decision to go back to your ex if it's only for your mom's sake - it's a life changing decision that effects you much moreso than her, and she should be able to accept that, even if she's not happy with it.

I cannot believe your mom! Does she not care about your feelings at all? So what happens if you get married and you're unhappy? What about wedding? Acting like you're happy, like this is the happiest day in your life. And if you feel like you're not compatible, there will be alot of arguments which will affect your kids. There is nothing good that could come out of getting back with this guy. You need to tell her it's your life and if she says things like What was wrong with him, tell her. You know why he didn 't suit you. Another thing, if you end up with him, unhappy, think of how much you'll resent her, especially if you meet someone you really want, but can't b ecause you're already married - to someone you don't want.

I think you need to sit her down and have a serious discussion with her about her behaviour. She is being irrational, childish and selfish. Who you marry is up to you, you're the one who's going to have to deal with living with the person, not your mother. She has no right to tell you what to do.

Wow I cannot imagine your mother acting like that. I can see her being sad that the relationship didnt work out but threatening to kill herself because you dont want him back? Wow that is crazy!! Sounds like she has some serious issues. Do not marry the guy just becuase your mother wants you to. Its not up to her. Its your life.. its YOU who has to put up with him for the rest of your life so its YOU who has to want to marry him. I was engaged to my boyfriend but I changed my mind. He started treating me bad and I just realized that I didnt want to get married to him. My mother and sister told me if I didnt marry him I would never find anyone else to put up with me. Since I already had boughten my wedding dress and my wedding invitations I went ahead with the wedding although I didnt want to. We were married for 6 years and then I called it quits. We should never have gotten married that was the worst mistake of my life!

It's always great to do what you want without the influence of others, even your parents. I've always wanted to do cartoons and animation but i was forced to take a different course and now i regret that choice a lot.

you should talk with her and tell that you dont love him anymore. and that marry him would make you unhappy. you dont love him anymore so why marry? if she loves you she will understand. for sure she wont want her daughter to be unhappy. have a honest conversation with her and she will see how you feel^^ she will understand your feelings. dont care for her threat just talk with her and dont marry the guy. you dont love him so dont make that mistake.

If you get married, chances are you're either going to get divorced or one of you will have an affair- both are consequences of the same results: unhappiness. If your mother is so upset, you need to explain to her that it wasn't working out. If she cannot accept that, then so be it, but don't risk your happiness just to please your mother in the moment. And if she's threatening to kill herself, it seems she has some severe dependency issues and is living vicariously through you. I would suggest therapy for something like that.

I think what you should is to talk your mom and explain to her why the two of you can't continue the relationship. In that way, your mom will understand. Let her know the disadvantages of marrying the guy. For me, i will not follow my mom just because he likes the guy for me. Let her understand that the same with her relationship wuth your father, first reason is that there should be love and respect. If no love, don't go for that. marriage should be lasting.

I think you already got very good responses from members and friends, personally I think that you ll have to live your life with that guy, if you both have already broken then how you can marry him, if for example, you got married and same situation happened again then what you ll do, you ll be divorced or some thing else could happen, so I think sit with your mom and tell her politely that what is the reason and why you dont want to be this guy, tell her what she ll do if you came back after some time, convince her. And if she still insist you then tell her your final decision that you are not going to marry because it is your life and you ll have to suffer, you mom has already gone through all her life and now it is your turn, if you want to make your life your way then convince her, a little hurting is much better than a big disaster in future...:) Have a happy mother...

no. although i'll consider my parents wish/hope that i'll settle down myself when the right time comes but if i have a single doubt in tying myself into a lifetime commitment, nope.. i'm sure they'll understand.

you need to talk with your mom, tell her why you don't love that guy any more, and you won't be happy if you get married with him. your mon insits on that guy because she thinks he is the best better half for you, if you let her understand that you are not happy with that guy, she will let you do the choice yourself. you can also try to find a better boy friend, then you mom won't worry about you.

In such a case, just do not act in haste... Do not shout or cry in front of her... if your mother who brought you up, thinks that the guy is very much perfect for you... Then there might be a perfect reason behind it.... But if you are sure that there isn't such a possibility then you can just discuss this thing with your mom in a pleasant way rather than shouting or crying or anything of such sort.... I am sure she will understand whatever you have to say... And also you can make that guy come to your place while you are discussing.... That helps in getting matter solved in a better manner... Without anyone getting hurt....

I am sorry to hear that your mother reacted that way. I am not in the same situation so I am unsure what to do but that is why I haven't brought my boyfriend home yet because we're at a point where we do love each other but there are a few ups and downs we have but we've been dating for four years (even though some are married after meeting after a year) but I want to know him more, have fun see how life would be if we're married but we do not live together but anyway I think you should talk to your mom and tell him how you feel. If she really threatens then maybe you could start all over and date him again and see how it goes.. mend the parts on why you two broke up and see if you can fix it if not let it be. Tell your mom you'll give it another shot and if it doesn't work out then sorry but you're moving on.

Just explain to her that you don't love this guy and that you cannot be with someone that you do not love. Tell her why you broke up with him. Hell, if I were in your situation I might even make something up like he cheated on you or something if it makes it easier on her. You can play the victim then. I would never get married or have kids for my parents. I know my parents want that and I feel bad for them because they have 5 kids (I'm the youngest at 24) and none of us is even close to marriage yet. I would only marry for love. People who marry for anything else are just plain stupid.

Oh,oh? This has to do with your personal decision per se but why does your mom really like him?Is it b'coz of his good attitude, etc.I mean you should weigh things whether her liking has valid reasons but for me, it is you who should decide on the matter but hopefully soon your mom will understand.