Would you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend if your friends don't like them?
By theredquill
@theredquill (586)
Philippines
November 7, 2010 1:02am CST
Okay, so we can't all please everybody. Even if we think we have the best partner and relationship in the world, there might be times when some of our dearest and closest friends would not approve of our partners and relationships for a variety of reasons. If this happens, would you tell your partner that your friends don't like him or her?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Nov 10
Hi Theredquill,
No I wouldn't tell him. Why woudl I tell someone that I love something that has no other purpose but to hurt him. I would want my friends and my boyfriend to get along. It just makes life easier. So I would keep that to myself in hopes that soon they'd see him for the great guy that I know he is. Telling him that they don't like him would not only hurt him but probably make it really awkward for him to even be around them. Just another little word of advise from someone whose been there....If a majority of your friends and family don't like the guy, just keep your eyes wide open and move with caution. A lot of times (not always) outsiders can see in a person what we can't. There is a reason why they say that love is blind. It can be.
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
You have a very good point there, sid556. Sometimes the intensity of our emotions would keep us from seeing something negative that's lurking beneath the surface. I've been in that situation myself, and though I didn't tell my guy that my family disapproved of him, he found out anyway, and when he did, the "devil" in him came out. So that was it, I learned my lesson the hard way.
I would keep my intimate world from my friends world. I wouldn't see a need to hurt my partner by telling them they were not liked by my friends. That is something i would bear alone.@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
It's sometimes very unfortunate when some of us have to cope with disapproval from friends, but if it there's no basis for them to feel that way, I guess the best thing to do is just keep quiet and enjoy your time with your loved one.
@garychie (157)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
For me, I don't think my bf needs to know that my friend don't like him. I wouldn't care much as to what other people say about him for he matters most to me than other people. So, i will not tell him. Instead, I'll tell my friends to go on disliking my boyfriend since I have no control over my friends' feelings.
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@theredquill (586)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
It's tricky, isn't it? But like you said, your partner matters to you more than anyone else. If I were in the situation, I would just let my friends be. Who knows they might change their minds about your partner one day. Sometimes it just takes a matter of time.
