Does it means you gain weight,you don't want to have a family...?
By insulin
@insulin (2479)
Philippines
November 7, 2010 5:41am CST
I visited my friend yesterday and one of my friends friend also visited.I never know him but he told me he saw me before.He just suddenly approach me like "Oh My God" you gain weight,what happen to you?Are you desperate or something?So your not planning to have a family anymore?" I was shocked when he asked me that question as I know I'm not obese and just gain weight because I quit my job last year and just staying at home for a while.I never expect that a person thinks so narrow like that.I just answered back like "Of course I want to have family.He answered "You should lose weight,You look sexier than that.My other friend just told me to calm down and so I did but the question about the family is just ridiculous.I mean does it mean you gain weight you don't want to have family anymore?Any opinion about this type of people?I just can't understand it.
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29 responses
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
7 Nov 10
That is like on of the most rude things I have ever heard of anyone saying! What does weight have to do with having a family? I would have told him that I was glad he didn't find me sexy anymore because he's the last person I would want to be with... don't worry about him he is so shallow he probably won't ever be able to stay with anyone!
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
7 Nov 10
But even at that, you cannot judge someone when you meet them like that. You gotta know the person inside first. Then when you care about them you can help them make healthier choices - but that comes from being an example first too!
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
7 Nov 10
He had a big point! Having too much weight will definitely affect your sperm count if you are a man and it could grossly interfere with both the very act of copulation because too fat people are either poor performers or they simple have a lot of negative conditions that interfere with having babies. But am glad you responded to this man's very childish approach very maturely. He did not have any courtesy at all and if he he were to approach a Ugandan with such a ridiculous country, it is very likely that he would have gotten a a blow across his damn face!
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
7 Nov 10
Am 70kg and by Ugandan standards am not fat at all? What is wrong with this man...? Does 56kg make somebody look fat? How would anybody even suggest that a 56kg person is any where near fat person? So as you can see, this man has poor judgement and he is completely has no sense of courtesy!
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@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
I did not said I'm fat,I just simple gain 10 kilos of weight as I am 46 kilos before and now I'm in 56 so I think that will not affect any sperm count at all.I know that he got a point but my point also is,the approach is very awkard and totally not nice for first impression.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
The normal weight here in the Philippines as filipina women are small are around about 40 to 46 and most men here loves thin woman but sorry to say,I don't want to be thing as like that.Somehow people around me is ridiculous are before I'm thin,they keep teling I'm thin,now I gain weight,they keep telling lose weight.Isn't it crazy?
How tall are you?If your 5.7 feet then 70 kg is not fat at all even if your 5.4 feet.
How tall are you?If your 5.7 feet then 70 kg is not fat at all even if your 5.4 feet.
@mandy8611 (154)
• China
8 Nov 10
I think gain weight has nothing to do with have a family and if you are not obese,there is no need to lose weight. I don't know why that man would have this kind of thought. so strange. if your future husband or wife love you, he/she will not mind your shape.
@calpro (930)
• India
7 Nov 10
What does he mean by that annoying comments.I just don't see any relation between putting some weight and making a family.
It is better to ignore such kind of narrow minded people,they just try to comment somebody and make some happiness.
Leave the sadistic personality.
Just Ignore,
Be happy & smile.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
Yes your right,I don't even know what is he trying to say about the family and the weight but he explains me that if your fat,you will have difficulties to have a baby but I'm not sure if this is a positive of negative comment but just to be sure,I felt bad yesterday.
@KellieWilson (98)
• United States
8 Nov 10
How rude and insulting! How old is this guy? Sounds like an overgrown child to me who has no sense of what really matters in this world. I have been overweight and I have been thin and never did that change my ability to be in a relationship. Do not think twice about this jerk. Just make sure if you do lose weight to NEVER consider him a romantic option, because men like that come drooling around like dogs when you lose weight acting like they've always liked you! Lol, what a loser he must be.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
8 Nov 10
I know you are/were mad, but I laughed at this. What kind of "friend" is this? Not any friend I would want, that's for sure.
If you find the right person for you, your weight should not matter to them. They love you for you, not your dress size!
@34momma (13882)
• United States
8 Nov 10
OMG!!! this person is a pure A$$HOLE!!!!!!!!!! seriously who says stuff like that!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a jerk! you do't ever allow anyone to put there nonsense on you! putting on a few pounds doesn't mean you can't have a family.... i would have let this person have it! I would have cursed this person out! LOL
seriously who says stuff like that!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a jerk! you do't ever allow anyone to put there nonsense on you! putting on a few pounds doesn't mean you can't have a family.... i would have let this person have it! I would have cursed this person out! LOL
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
7 Nov 10
I think he was just being an @ss by saying that you can't get a man if you're fat. Just ignore him, that was a jerk thing to say.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Nov 10
I would have been devastated if someone made similar comments to me. That is just mean and nasty...what a horrid person and as well as that, I think your friend was mean too....telling you to calm down like that. She should have thrown that guy out of the house for speaking to you that way.
Of course, if the guy is perfect in every way then maybe you should take notice of him but my guess is that he is fat, ugly and has a small willy, no girlfriend and comes too soon.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
10 Nov 10
This person sounds like a shallow fool and you have no idea how much I despise that kind of attitude! Was he saying that if you have gained weight you will no longer be attractive and therefore will not attract a man? That kind of thinking is shallow, immature and I can tell what an insensitive jerk he is even though I have never met him! Your weight and appearance has nothing to do with who you are as a person and how lovable you are! My advice is lose this individual out from your circle of friends, enjoy life and be yourself and beautiful no matter what size you are!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
Those people are insensitive prick! They just want to annoy others without thinking at all. If it were me I'd throw back the insult without that person noticing it. I'm really good at it!. Next time think of a better response to throw that person off his/her feet! ;)
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
13 Nov 10
in my eyes ,he think of things in an abnormal way i can't also understand .it has nothing to do with a family to build ,to tell the truth ,i am unsatisfied with my figure and i desire to gain weight ,even though i often deliberately increase food intake ,it doesn't work ,haha ,now i drop it .
happy meal and happy day !
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
8 Nov 10
I would have been like, "you might want to remove that foot from your mouth before I take it and shove it up your a&&. There are two things you never say to a woman, your looking old and fat. Gees, this guy must of wasn't raised with manners in that department. Some one made a really good point, you can loose weight, but you can't get rid of ugly. With comments like that, he must be one ugly person.
Also, what does weight gain got to do with having kids. Why did your friend tell you to calm down, he should have told his friend to shut up and pull his foot out of his mouth. That's just my opinion. Not a good friend to let a friend be insulted.
@gunjanpri (603)
• India
8 Nov 10
Hey man! Who told you you cant have family just for putting on some extra kilos. It is really ridiculous. Of course you can have family and put on weight as much as you like. Happiness itself makes you a little heavier you know.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
For em they want you not too much fat because the guy want to a slim girl.
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
that's stupid thinking... maybe that person thinks that if your fat and gaining weight you cannot look for a decent partner... how narrow minded... i just hope it won't backfire to that person what he just told you... its not the appearance that matters whether you are thinking about raising a family or what!!
what a dumb question he asked you...
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
8 Nov 10
I think your friend has a wild imagination and rude. What the hell relation gain weight and not making family. Where did he got thats word anyway so out of reality and show how much knowledge he got.
Carry on your life sister don't bothers by his silly word, if he judge you like thats, he will judge by others by the same rude way.
