When your bf/partner does not seem to make an effort anymore?

I think you better deal with your work adjustment first before dealing with your boyfriend. I think you are feeling all the negative things because of the stress and you think negatively about your boyfriend, too. I think your boyfriend is just not giving in to your stress. Maybe he is a bit distant to you but I think he just wants you to focus on your work and not too much on your relationship with him. Just deal with things one at a time. Then after things are OK with it, try talking again to your boyfriend. This time with a clearer mind and not too emotional. Be OK!

Not sure if your relationship is going to fail, but maybe your boyfriend needs his space or he may have been having a few issues himself and he really needs time to himself. You may want to give him his space or even try talking to him again. If he doesn't seem to want to talk, then you may want to give him his space and maybe talk to him later on or maybe he'll just come to you on his own. Let him know that you care and that you are there to talk if he needs someone to talk to. If nothing changes after giving him space then your relationship might be doomed to fail. Don't give up on it yet though, there may be nothing wrong and he's just having a few issues of his own at the moment.

so sorry dear. it does sound like its not going to get better. have you had any long talks with him about the situation? he needs to talk with you to see if something is bothering him hes not letting you know about. but i fear it doesnt sound good for the relationship. so sorry. i hope something works out for you.

Oh chiyosan I am sorry you are going through this especially at a time where work seems to be weighing you down. I would suggest to speak to him, but it sounds like you do, to no avail. I would say that when every you are ready to decide whether or not this person is for you that it is at that time you tell him exactly how you feel but remember if you are not ready to leave him then it would be best to hold off. What I mean is that apparently you have told him but he seems to think that you will always be there, so if you are truly at your wits end then remember that if you say to him you cannot take and want to leave him that you truly mean it. As saying so and not doing so will certainly have him take further for granted. Oh I remember my ex husband was this way until one day I no longer could take it. I would suggest you try really hard to concentrate on the work adjustment further so that at least you have work security. I do hope your boyfriend come around as I understand how hard it is to be going through both.

I know how you feel,and it really is hurting. I hope your bf would see his mistakes on you before it's too late. If things wouldn't be okay with you and him,I think you better leave him. To lighten the pain that you're going through right now. Say he have his own personal issues,but that's no reason for him not to give you some comfort and attention. That's why he's your bf,to be at your side specially when you're going through a rough time. But then,it's up to you,to understand him or to think or yourself.

u should keep that realtionship on hold untill it get cleared and there is a saying u ahve ro raise ur voic to b herd its the fact of life

I think so or maybe he is seeing another or just busy. I mean, I do not want to jump into conclusion, but I think those signs you mentioned are enough to lead into those I mentioned above. In a relationship, it is not healthy that one party is only making the relationship work. It has to be mutual. I guess, why not ask for a space and make him realize that he is actually taking you for granted. If he realize it and misses you, then plans to woo you, then perhaps he just had no time or bored. On the other hand, if after that space and he does not realize something and plans not to woo you and as if he likes a break up, then that means he is no longer committing himself in the relationship. Just prepare yourself my friend. Have courage and strength.

This maybe harsh to say but i think your boyfriend does not love you the way he loves you before. Just remember that you are lucky you have found out the real score sooner and not later.

It can be discouraging to your relaationship when it seems your partner doesn't want to make the effort with you anymore. You start to second guess yourself and think that is your fault. It is wise to know where you stand in your relationship. if there is an issue, reolve it so you can continue and grow in your relationship together.

maybe you two need to really talk and work it out. ask him what really happened or if there is something bothering him. i also experienced that with my ex bf. he wasn't doing any effort anymore. just coming to our place, staying there or just sleep in our living room... my cousins were already asking me what's wrong with him why he's not talking to me. he just answered me that he's tired and he's more relaxed in our house than theirs.. i was like.. okay... can't really say anything at that time.. he said that he's doing nothing because it seems like we've known each other for so long.. he doesn't do anything to make me feel special because he was so relaxed and comfortable with our relationship [5 years]. just talk to him.. ask him what's wrong.. it could be that he just needs space or he feels you're too stressed to talk to.. calm down and relax girl.. remember how to be sweet to him and ask him

Well, yes maybe, or your boyfriend got some issues of his own thats why he is preoccupied, anyway, love is a two way relationship , its giving and receiving,love,care,understanding.... give your boyfriends a time..maybe you need to ask, maybe your boyfriend needs you too though he can't tell you straight cause he knows you got a problem...:-)