As one's husband ,am i competent enough ?
By mrpoker0112
@mrpoker0112 (243)
China
November 8, 2010 1:47pm CST
i am one's husband aged 26,i got married with my lover one year ago.in March this year i came to shanghai from a desire to make money .afterwards my wife also came here ,cause she said she missed me so much.we both got each job ,in those former days i have worked hard in the very position .maybe in May i was tired of that job.of course it's also because of its low pay.i left for another ,but unfortunately for a certain reason i dropped it for a second time and so i was free in the latter days ,one day i took up one part-time job ,exactly one time part-time one.it's when i was told that someone can make the entire money from the internet .then i showed more interest and spent full time on the internet .since i had known little about it ,i just chose GPTR sites as a start ,i had no idea and i tried my best to make it .never knowing or thinking that such sites may all scams.on its way i paid all my time and energy and eventually i suffered greatly .i thought i could have taken all the time lost in making more money in one position in reality .
it's so cruel ,but it's so real ,to me ,to someone another ,maybe .
now i have to accept it and admit that it's not the scam itself but me ,it's me who have taken an active action in it without making any investigation .
it's all my fault.but it's useless .thinking now my wife has gone back home to get ready for birth giving .i just can't give her more money .
even though my wife made no complaints ,i knew she was so aggrirved ,i regret and feel so sorry .
i thought i should have known that i must take responsibility for my acts ,cause i am one's husband and i have the right and obligation to support my wife ,my future son ,my family.to provide a better life for my wife .it has been the period when i am young enough and stay single and when it's enough and ok if i make the only money for me to eat meals and get fun .it's not the period when i can take the risk of time wasting.
i am not so mature but it's my excuse.maybe it all can mature me .
to my wife ,i owe too much
the whole fault ,i must make up in future .
dear,as your husband ,i proves so competent ,but trust me and i will make change ..
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8 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
8 Nov 10
mrpoker dont think so bad about yourself :( is normal that you fell in internet. bcs many people offer a lot of money and in end they dont give it. me also im working online only. i dont have a husband and i didnt bet any money to it. this site i guess is trustworthy bcs a guy told me to dont share the site with many people or we would get paid less. but i see you really need the money so if you want i message you the site :) you can earn 10 dollars per day if work hard :) and can work in this site at same time so maybe a bit more^^ if want i message you. you dont need to pay any and it doesnt have referrals either :)
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
8 Nov 10
sweetloveforever,yeah,love is first and being forever !
i write it to tell how i feel sorry for my wife ,cause i wasted so much time but gained nothing.thinking my wife was still on the go at work ,i can't forgive myself.
glad to hear of that ,thank you for your comfort .
does the site stand for members in China ?
could i join under you ?
and i would appreciate if i could make friends with you .
so many thanks !
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
8 Nov 10
yes it works in china^^ sure i can share with you but dont share with no one ok?^^ bcs person that told me told me to dont share with many people. or they can start to pay less to its members^^ so dont share with no one ok?^^ im sharing with you bcs you need money to help your wife. i will send you by message ok?^^ sure we can be friends 
im cat nice meeting you^^
im cat nice meeting you^^@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
8 Nov 10
ok ,i promise,
thanks for your share .ok ,i am looking forward to your message.
best wishes for you ,and for me .
the day is dawning here in Shanghai ,new and clear !
@Drumman (305)
• United States
9 Nov 10
Hey friend, don't get your hopes down. You're young and I assume your wife is pretty young too. Marriages are tough in the beginning. Young couples usually don't make a lot of money. You're not alone in your situation. You've learned a good lesson. It's hard to make a lot of money on the internet with all the scams going around. Lesson learned, right? Now you can focus your attention on something else. You still have a lot of time left to provide for your family.
@Drumman (305)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I respect your desire to provide for your family and not just take the easy way out with a divorce. Don't get me wrong, sometimes divorce is the right thing, but not usually. Keep fighting man, you're efforts will be rewarded when you are aged and have healthy children, grandchildren, and a wife who loves you.
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
9 Nov 10
thank you ,it's me who have make things in a mess,my wife just hoped me to take a real job for money ,no large gain requested .i think i should lead a simly but stable life ,on this basic i may try another way to make more money.i need enough patience and i know ,the less my wife makes complaint about me ,the more i feel sorry .i love my wife so i make a change to make up .
best regards !
@youless (112497)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Nov 10
I read your story and I can understand your pressure. It is true that today everything's price is just keeping up. And the cost in Shanghai is high. I found it is not easy to reagard the online job as the real job at present. There are many scams online. Although Mylot is a honest website, but you can't earn so much from here. You can just do it for fun or improve your English only. I think there are still many good chances in Shanghai and you are still young. You shall find another job. Just try to handle the current situation and then wait for another good chance. I think your life will go well.
I love China
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
9 Nov 10
yeah ,it's pressure i am under ,it's the key ,it may have made me losing my way in life ,as you say.we can make extra money from the internet ,not the entire .it's unrealistic.i have suffered and i won't
thank you for your advice .
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
9 Nov 10
HI Mr.Poker,
Don't be so hard on yourself. At least you know what you have done wrong which means you can learn from it and not repeat the problem. Congratulations on your new son! He is all the motivation you need to go out and find a real job so that you can bring you wife and child back home. I have yet to meet anyone that makes a living on the internet that hasn't ivested a lot of time and money into training or that doesn't work for a real legitimate local company. Even the sites that are not scams pretty much just give you a little extra pocket money. Nothing can replace a real job. Good luck. I hope you have your wife and son back home very soon.
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
9 Nov 10
maybe it's just the motivation that brings me so much pressure.
he falide and suffered time and time agin , at last he can still succeed.peole tend to follow tha pattern,yeah,i just learn from it .
my wife and my future son now is at home .i just still stay at shanghai .i hope i can work for cash.when it's the spring festival ,the traditional one in china ,i will go home ,it's better with more money .
thank you for your suggestions .
best wishes !
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
9 Nov 10
i have never heard of that .mybe it works well only in paradise !
@tuamora (79)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I think you are a really great husband. You really sat down and thought about what you may have done wrong, and that takes a lot of courage. Now it is time to forgive yourself and no longer look at the past. Remember it is okay to make mistakes, it is that you can not live in that mistake. Go out find a job and take care of yor family. You cannot get back wasted time, but you can be a great father and a great husband. May God bless you dearly. I will be praying for you, the wonderful husband and Father.
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
9 Nov 10
i have not been the good husband and father ,but i do need to make a change to be a good one .i am sure to keep clam and remove the load in my mind.it's gone ,in no way to keep back,i trust that tomorrow is a promising day ,if i work hard .
thank you for your comfort .
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
Yes, taking responsibility is a challenge and as for you and your family, you should think more than twice before doing a decision, you should ask your better half's opinion about it.
Now that you have learned your lesson what is the solution that you have in mind to make it up for the losses. Time wasted cannot be turned back but if that is money, you can work again in the industry and support your family.
Earning online is not stable and it is hard work and effort. It will take time to see the fruits of your work. Nobody got rich quickly. So the bottom line is earn money online but only considering it extra or sideline job, not your main source of income.
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
8 Nov 10
yeah,the bottom line is earn money online but only considering ti extra or sideline job,not my main source of income .
the time is gone,but experence and lessons learned lie.
thank you for your comfort and encouragement.
sincerely ..
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
8 Nov 10
You need to do more research before accepting anything on line! I know many people who did the research after coming home from work. Then, and only then did they dive in to online earning. But they didn't do it by joining web sites. They got educated in online marketing. It does work!
@mrpoker0112 (243)
• China
8 Nov 10
i agree ..
i know some people do make the entire money from the internet ,it's certain that money-making on line will create its bright future .
as we all know ,money making isn't supposed to be physical work .of course first we should learn ,on its way we also need to use our brain.
i suffered ,i may giain experience instead ,so i didn't do things in vain
thank you for your advice .
