Falling in love with more than 1 person?
By tradiokana
@tradiokana (10)
South Africa
November 9, 2010 4:43am CST
Is this even possible? In some African cultures, we are faced with Polygamy problems. For example, our president (South Africa) has more than 3 wives and I oftent wonder if he really is in love with all of them and how does he ensure that they are all emotionally satisfied?
More and more marriages are failing lately due to adultery, and some people will claim that they are still in love with their spouses even though they have also fallen in love outside their marriages.
I know for a fact that I would feel cheated if I felt I'm sharing my man with someone else, but I find there are a lot of woem who are happy to be sharing?
Is it possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time? Would you be happy to share your partner with someone else?
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24 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
9 Nov 10
Yes, it's possible to fall in love with more than one person at the same time. While whether they feel happy about sharing their man with others, it depends on each individual. To some, loving a person means making them happy so they are more than glad to share. However most of us won't be that generous to share but our feelings tend to sway at some moment of time. I myself experienced the same situation and it's not a nice feeling at all especially when one has to make a choice between them.
@tradiokana (10)
• South Africa
9 Nov 10
But now it bring us to the issue of intimacy, being in love often leads to intimacy - so if a person is in love with many people, can they be intimate with them?
It's possible to love more that 1 person (like we do with our families & friends) but being IN love with more than 1 person? Hmmmmm
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@dante_off (607)
• India
9 Nov 10
Thats a big NO, an absolute NO.
You cannot love two persons, is what I believe. Ya this may happen that you love someone and you may be physically attracted to someone else. Today people just have a misconception that attraction is Love, and they never see it in a spiritual way as it is meant to be seen.
And about sharing your partner, its gross man I can never think about it.
I am kind of: A one woman man...
~cheerio~
@tradiokana (10)
• South Africa
10 Nov 10
One of the rare male species :) There aren't a lot like you
@piya84 (2581)
• India
9 Nov 10
I think falling in love with more people at a time is not possible but one can fee attraction,lust towards more than one person and some people get confuse between love lust attraction so they claim they are in love with different people at the same time.well i am not sure just guessing.
@tradiokana (10)
• South Africa
9 Nov 10
I happen to agree with you - I think people get confused by lust and mistake it for love
@strongsz (161)
• China
14 Nov 10
Hi
My opinion on this problem is so odd.I think it is possible to fall in love with more than one people.However I would not be happy to share my partner with someone else.Maybe it is because of our traditon.In our culture,monogamy is controling our thinking but not our emotion.
Have a nice day.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
10 Nov 10
I think there are also other countries where males are allowed more than one wife. In countries where only one wife is allowed the majority of males have lovers and even families outside the marriage. I believe its the males nature to be that way. I do believe its possible to love more than one at a time. Personally i would not like sharing the male. I would want exclusive attention.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Nov 10
No I definitely would not be happy sharing my partner! I have wondered before what it would be like to be in love with more than one person and whether it is possible which I guess it is. I can appreciate that one could care for more than one person but I also believe that a choice should eventually be made and if that cannot be done then one should walk away from both parties. I am not an advocate for sharing love partners...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Well, I don't if the feeling is real. Because to love two or more people is not unusual.
I think the other one is real and other is lust. I don't believe that people can in love with two people. That what I mean a greed relationship
@jessica831 (11)
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10 Nov 10
I am not a fan of polygamy. I see it as more of a lust relationship than love. I have always believed that a person cannot be in love with two people at one time. When you think about it, if you are in love with person A and then fall in love with person B you should pick person B because if you were ever really in love with person A you couldn't even think about being with anyone else.
For me, if I even think about relations with anyone other than the man I'm in love with i get physically ill. I also have severe jealously problems, so sharing my love is completely out of the question for fear of losing him.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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10 Nov 10
adultery is a major cause of divorces, my ex committed adultery which is part of the reason we divorced. I could only ever love one woman at a time, i guess if i was not in love then id be happy to have 3 women, i can't say 3 wives as id marry for love.
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
11 Nov 10
i think it is possible to love more that one person at a time i have before. but i would never share my girl with anyone else and even though i have been shared before i didn't like it i don't want to have to make more than one person happy all the time its to much work.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
10 Nov 10
I think it is entirely possible to be in love with more than one person. If your heart is big enough to love all your family and all your friends, wouldn't it stand to reason that you could also be IN love with more than one person? I think it would be challenging. You would have to be a very generous person and not prone to jealousy. I wouldn't be able to share my partner with someone else.
@argytrans (225)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I ever felt falling in love with more than one person, but it does not affect the time I will get married later. I would definitely choose the right one for me that is my soulmate.
@sharryCD (121)
• China
10 Nov 10
Hi friend, i think it is possible for people to fall in love with more than one people. It often happens in our daily life. For most people, it is very normal to love more than one in their life. But i think love and marriage are two differnt things. We can not marry somebody just because we love him/her. Love is emotional feeling while marriage means more, responsibility, obligation and relations between two families. So my view is although we can fall in love with more than one person, we cannot marry more than one person, at least at the same time. :)
@annawen86 (545)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 10
i will never share my partner with anybody else. if a man could do such thing like that. then, woman can do it too. it's not fair that only man who can do everything that he like, but woman cant.
i love monogami. and i will never agree with polygami. the man, will never be fair to the women. he cant give the same portion of love to his wives. if some man said that they can, well it is a big LIE.
and if they say they love both, well, it is a selfishness. i bet, when one of his wife has affair with other man, he will be mad like a crazy man. he doenst want to share his women to other man, but he insist to his first wife to share money, place, heart with other women. isnt it fair?BIG NOOOOOOO.
@ktvn11 (62)
• Thailand
10 Nov 10
it is a good ideal that to love more than 1 person because you have more chance to select the suitable candidate for you. if you love one only person, you do not have chance to select others and can not find bad point or good point and you have to depend on him, whaterver he says, you have to agree, if he leaves you, you have to beg him for return. it is lost your value. Do you agree that ?
