Should parents responsible for their children's act or behavior

Parents play a major role in shaping their children's attitudes in life, behavior, etc. What the children see is what they adopt. If they don't know and don't feel being loved, they are less likely to show love to others. Many children who grew up from families that lack love though have money become rebellious. Everyone has the craving to be loved, and if not satisfied, they often make things that people should not do because they want attention. They want to be noticed. But the real thing is, they want to be loved. Parents nowadays forget this. They think that if they provide enough material things, their children would be happy. Everyone needs support not just financially, but moreover, emotionally. I don't believe though that every one who turns out to be bad, the parents should be blamed. Sometimes, no matter how much parents have shown love, there are still children who do not appreciate that. Environment plays a major role here like the school and peers. But if a child was raised well, given support in all aspects of his life, he would be less likely to be a problem of anyone someday.

Hi Kingparker, In a case like you describe my first thought is that this mother is doing whatever it takes to provide for and raise her children. If the kid is old enough to go to jail then he is old enough to be responsible for his own actions. And what about the father here? It could be some of the mom's fault as to why the kid ended up like he did but it would be unfair to draw the conclusion that either parent is to blame without knowing their full story. Kids raised in homes with both parents being fully involved in their lives still get into big trouble.

Legally, parents are responsible for their children until age 18, right? So she fits the bill. However, 17-year old kids are old enough to monitor their behavior responsibly too, if he knows what's good for him. You've raised an interesting dilemma facing many families, particularly single-parent ones (are they?), today. In my opinion, the mother and her son need to take some serious talk time, so they could iron out their problem(s). In her desire to provide for her family, she has had to sacrifice time that should be spent with her son and give him proper guidance. Perhaps if he's made to understand the financial position his family is in, he'll "grow up" and try to even help his mother out by taking a part-time job after school hours.

It is hard to judge it. But anyway, parents are still responsible for their children's behaviors. As long as they haven't reached the age to be adults, the children can't really be responisble for themselves. I can understand that this is a tough situation for this mom. And I am really sorry for her. But sometimes ignoring children will lead them to go to a wrong way. If she has to work, at least she should try to talk or teach her child whenever she has time. Or she shall find someone to take care of her child when she goes to work. I love China

I think it's not only the mom but both parents are responsible for their child's behavior. I'm not saying that the mom should stop working. But the moment the baby was born, the mom could have showered the baby with affection to make the baby feel secure. As the child slowly grow up even if the mom is not there most of the time, the guidance can still be afforded even with just a touch of a hand or a simple kiss on the cheek. Children who rebel against their parents are just seeking their attention.

i think the parents shouldnt be responsible because sometimes kids are just who they are kids and they sometimes dont care about consequences for their actions. I think there is a fine line between letting your kids get away with stuff or just putting your foot down. i have four children and do not have any major problems out of any of them, even my twelve year old that is adhd. That being said If a parent is not around alot kids tend to do things they shouldnt. Parent sometimes are partially responsible for their kids actions but sometimes they are just not so good kids.

His mum should try her best to control him, but it will probably be hard to do that now hes used to doing it instead of sorting it out when it first became an issue. I do understand that he probably is doing it to get attention that his mum can't give if shes busy working to earn money for them both to live. I do think she should try to take abit of time to spend time with him to try to get him to understand that if he carrys on like that hes not going to have a good life for himself. I know it would be hard, but she needs to be able to spend time with her kids too.

if a kid does not behave... it's the fault of the parents but they should not be held fully accountable for it the kid should be punished if only to straighten them up early in life

It is really difficult to say who will be responsible for this.However,as a son,I think we children should know how hard our parents works everyday.And then a decision to do better ourselves should step into our heart.For we are a family,we should have mutual love so that we can feel warm in it.If we just discuss who's responsiblity it is,don't you think we are a little selfish?Why not think about ourselves?What do we do for our family?

Its the parent's responsibility for their kid's behavior. As the character the kid gives others reflects the kind of parenting the kid has or the kind of parents he has. The parent should know how to balance things and have quality time with their kids as well without sacrificing work. The parents does not need to get rich, just enough for the family to live. Other parents work to get rich and others work just to live.