Is It Wrong To Want New Things?

When I was your age, I still wanted "stuff", and I had a pretty decent job, so I'd just go out and buy it. Last year, I completed a home inventory, I'd started in the 70's. After looking at that inventory, I knew I had too much "stuff" for one person. Now I'm retired and in my 60's and I'm unloading "stuff". "Stuff" just seems to be like a noose around one's neck. I've been selling "stuff", giving "stuff" away...and I still have too much "stuff". Now, other things are just way more important. I'm betting something like that may happen to you too. But is it wrong to want things? No. I just think, later, you'll find it doesn't matter. I bet your home is beautiful just the way it is...filled with love...not necessarily the pictures on the wall.

One thing I learned from a book titled "The Secret" is that the universe is abundant. Meaning it has unlimited resources. It's a good thing that you want what you want. Focus on that if you really want them because if you do so, all of your actions will be directed to that thought. As to feeling good about wanting those stuff, you have all the right to do so! You deserve it! No one should feel bad about wanting something especially when what they want makes them feel good (of course, there are also limitations to these). Be positive! Feel good about yourself, fill yourself with positivity and it will show and attract positivity from other people as well. Have a nice day!

It is never wrong to want about new things. Our human minds are programmed in sucha way that we always keep looking for new things read as greener pastures. You must hv heard of the adage called Variety is the spice of life. So never ever have this thought in your mind that It is wrong to want new things.

I think as a society we are "trained" and programmed to want things. It starts at a very young age when we are first asked to "do our best" and we will grow up with a good job, more money etc. etc. etc. As a Zen practitioner, I have learned a lot about how unsettling it is to desire things. Buddha said on his enlightenment that the "source of all misery was desire". I think this is quite correct too. In Zen meditation, I focus my mind on my breathing and exclude other thoughts to the best of my abilities. Sometimes thoughts of plans come into my mind - that is a form of desire to change things from the way they are. In Zen we train our minds to connect with reality. And reality can be only this moment, this here and now - and it is then immediately gone. When we desire our mind is getting stuck usually in the past with things we have seen and desired. We now project this on to the future and teach our minds how to be dissatisfied with our lot here and now. As we keep doing this, we train ourselves even more in the art of discontment. Through practice of Zen meditation I have learned and am continuing to learn how to be here now, and there a strong sense of Self in this. A strong sense of contenment. But it takes a lifetime to really get centred and contented in true reality. I am not saying that owning nice things is wrong. What I am saying is that desiring them causes discomfort. And the amazing thing is that when I manage to stop all desire, those things I want just appear in my life, but the stoppage of such desire must be absolutely genuine. There is no forcing this state of mind. It just happens as a product of regular meditation. _Derek

There are lots of things that I want too and have wanted for a long time, but have not been able to afford. (one day) I think it is normal for us to desire things that we do not have. This is why it is so easy for most of us to fall into the debt trap. We see something that we want and it is too easy to just pull out the credit card and pay for it. We think, it's OK, I will pay it off the credit card next week, but then something else comes along that needs paying more urgently and the debt gets forgotten about. We then get stuck just managing the interest payments on the debt and cannot get out of the hole that we have dug for ourselves....just because we wanted something new!

I think we all enjoy having new things. Sometimes we are financially unable to buy new things eery time we want them. i don't see anything wrong with wanting new things and trying your best to attain them.

You are not wrong to dream about new things, but you may be setting yourself up for frustration. I know I am. I wish you could have some luck to get yourself all comfy. I do know that you have to have dreams, though, or you are going nowhere. So dream and learn, and perhaps your new job or whatever is waiting for you just around the corner.

The simple solution is to stop reading about stuff, stop watching about stuff and then you may not dream about stuff .... Seriously though there is nothing wrong with wanting stuff, it happens to me all the time especially when I look at members of my family who claim to be tight for money yet are having work done of their houses and still going on holiday. It get's to me when it can take me all year to be able to scrape up the money to buy something which isn't a neccesity. But here is an upshot of this and it's a small positive that can be found when you are in this circumstance. I would bet a percentage of those things you would like to make your home better are not essentials in fact some maybe a total waste of money which you would buy on the spur of the moment and then reside in a cupboard never used. So not having the money to spend does mean you don't waste it on non essentials. It's actually frightening where you can waste the money and as such I have what is called a 30 day list. If I see something or read about something that I would love and could possibly afford without major saving I write it on the list. Then 30 days later I revisit the list and a lot of things that I thought I wanted I end up scribbling off as they were just a spur of the moment desire. This list has certainly helped me save money on spur of the moment decisions like a different desk lamp (most recent addition), which I can use to put towards those bigger things I really do want.

Not necessarily wrong, but definitely not making you any happier. The reason I think we should be content with what we have is because if we speed all our time wanting more than we'll just be miserable with what we have. Your Mom's friend probably thought that if she could just get a few more new things than she could be happy, but once those things were old they lost their sparkle and she started wanting new things again. It's a cycle. New things are nice, and maybe one day you can get your house to look like a dream house, but for the time being you should learn to be content.

According to Rhonda Byrne author of The Secret the law of attraction will put you in line with the stuff you want. Only condition is that you need to act as long you already have it and don't doubt getting it. It's like ordering from a catalog you know you're going to get it so what's the point of doubting that. Whether it works... I have no clue but I can tell you that every self-help guru out there tells you to be thankful for what you already have. It makes you value things more.

You are perfectly normal. I always find things I would like to have for the house (and for me, sometimes), but we hardly ever have the money to get anything. We are on a fixed income, and can barely make ends meet, but we did manage to have a little this year by refinancing our home equity loan. The problem is, there is way too much we would like to do for the amount of money there is. We did buy a new washer and dryer, since our old ones were barely working, and we figure these will last as long as we need them. And, we replaced the tile in the kitchen. Hubby would love a new cooktop and frig, but that just can't be done. The only reason we have a flat screen TV is because it was a gift from our son. However, I did splurge on myself. I have been wearing the same winter coat for the last 15 years, and we figured it was about time for a new one. I found a beautiful leather coat on sale at 60% off, and I just couldn't resist. That is my Christmas present. I want to get hubby a new desk chair, and that will be his present, and we are done. Money is all gone.

It's not wrong to want something new. You're not being greedy at all. It's just that in life we tend to want something that can please us. This want can drive us to do things like earning and this is a good motivation. It's not wrong to want sometimes but it's wrong to want something too much. But in your situation, there's perfectly nothing wrong with that.

its not wrong to want new things but make it as an inspiration. strive harder, work harder so youll buy the things you want. but dont over react on buying stuffs just because you want them, think first if you also need them.

It is not wrong to think or dream of those things. What would be wrong is when you insist on having those things yet you don't have money yet to buy. Don't get it,by all means.It is such a good feeling to have what you are dreaming when you work hard for it, right? But definitely, there's nothing wrong dreaming. That's even good because it shows that you have plans. :-) have a good day!

no,not if it's not an all the time/really doesn't need it thing. i'm usually the last in my family to get something new partially because i'm the only responsible one and pay actual bills first. but i get mad occasionally and want something new for me. like s*it without holes in it.

I'm afraid I am guilty of wanting nice things around me. but it is getting a bit out of hand. I am not in debt but I do have a lot of possessions. I love unusual handbags but I do rummage in boot fairs and charity shops and have got some really lovely bags. I love collecting fairies and dragons too , but my latest 'thing' is mermaids and dolphin ornaments in the bathroom. They have to be a bit out of the ordinary, but goodness me , I have so many ornaments, what with the dragons, fairies, cats of course, the list is endless and I cannot get rid of them. I have teddies given to me by my old ladies when i worked for age concern and I just cannot get rid of them for sentimental reasons!!I just had to buy a square red china dinner set, which is beautiful but just sits in the cupboard. I bought some lovely purple and cream curtains for my living room earlier this year,--- yep still in the wrappers. I had to laugh at your mums friend as I have so many black jackets and black trousers. One year I was desperate to get a white jacket and found a really lovely one, truly hardly worn and pristine white, in a charity shop for £3.00. but I have owned it for about 3 or 4 years and worn it twice. Just call me the hoarder. but like you I love my house to look nice !! if its possible buy your lovely things, but shop around. Look in charity shops, hit the boot fairs. It is possible to get some bargains.

It is wrong to watch too much on TV and read too much on magazines . Before I used to cut out pictures on the magazine and paste it on my notebook so that I can remember to buy that item. But I get frustrated because it was not happening quickly so I have skipped on reading commercial magazines and done on watching television. I think more of saving money and spending it wisely since we really needed to budget our expenses. To buy a new item or appliances is not on my menu yet, maybe if I am done with paying some dues. But I will still not going to be magnetized to buy some stuffs at home, it was really a burden actually, but I let it go already.