BLAST SHIELDS UP!!!! And some teenagers are really dumb...

The crap of being a teenager. Love really sits in the wrong place at that age. Tell Dearra, no better yet, give her the spatula. If they throw paper at her again. She can whack the hell out of them. no need for the teacher to do that then. DON'T YOU THINK? TATA.

As for the teenage girls boyfriend asking her to do that he obviously has no respect for her or the other girls privacy, she is best rid of him and quickly. Shows what kind of a person he could be when or if he grows up. As for the 2 boys picking on the girl in science, this happens a lot, they find a target and cause problems, it will carry on unless something is done and so i hope she does speak out and this gets sorted quickly, otherwise they will just continue to do what they are doing.

Wow! So she has a " Don't F@ck with me!" stare? I must have one too. A guy in highschool was bothering me and i gave him one look and I never saw he again. I always thought I should have said something , but my mom said my eyes must said plenty. As for the teen, it is sad that she thinks she Has to do this to keep the guy.

Its good that your daughters have been brought up to value themselves more than the Dear Abby girl and that they are never going to be caught up in such a position. There are always a couple of kids who never get caught for anything. Sometimes they are just too sly &, other times, the teacher just doesnt want to confront them for whatever reason.

Bravo for you and your terrific girls. If more parents discussed things like this with their children, maybe more children would be like your Dearra. When we moved into a new neighborhood, my son was being harrassed by two boys and a girl from the same family. He wouldn't tell me anything about what was going on. I found out when the mother called me at work to complain about my beastly son hitting her pure as the driven snow boy. She demanded he be horsewhipped! I told her I would call her back AFTER talking to David. When I got home and asked him what had happened, he told me they had been tossing his books and papers all over the place every day after school or punching him in the arm, even after he asked them to stop. That day they went too far. One of them got on all fours behind David while the other pushed him backward. He fell, hitting asphalt since they were walking home from the bus. David had had enough. He leaped up, hit the bigger boy with his fist. At the time, the fist contained a small metal car and it cut the boy above his eye. He and his siblings went home boohooing to Mama. Well, I did call the woman back and let her know, in no uncertain terms, if she couldn't make her own children behave, that she shouldn't come to me when mine has had enough of their bullying. I let her know they had torn up an apple tree David planted and that they broke into our travel trailer. She knew nothing of what they were doing because after she worked all week, she did not want them bothering her at home. From that day on, the children were David's best friends. They spent almost every Saturday at our house playing Monopoly because their Mama didn't want them in hers. The older boy was best man at my son's wedding. Go, Dearra! Tell them to cut it out and tell them in a voice they can understand means business. You go, girl!

Hi, Dawny, don't you think that maybe one of those boys just likes Dearra. This harassment could be a sign of some kind of love. I still remember three boys from my class who chased me one day from the school to my home. I was so scared, my father saw this accidentally and yelled from the window :))

That would be a felony, if he were caught with such pictures. It is his phone, after all and the pictures would be taken without permission. Dearra does have a good head on her shoulders and she also has a good mom backing her up. The paper wad bit is just another form of bullying, unless of course it is a form of flirting. A million years ago when I was a bus driver we had to undergo "harassment training we learned that flirtation is actually harassment, if the person being flirted with perceives it that way.

terrible how much some other kids get away with. she sounds like my oldest daughter tho that wasnt to be messed with. when she got her mad up people stepped aside and if they didnt they saw why the others did.

WoW! What a girl! Your daughters are sensible and have learned good values. They will be be fine in later life. She is brave to confront the obnoxious boys. Tell her that when she sees them passing by she is to look at their private parts and laugh and giggle with her girl friends. That might work. A male once told me that a girl did this to him when he was a teen and it took him years to get over it Alternatively she can whisper to these hormonal idiots that she has a connection with certain people in JA and she only has to make a phone call to summon up a yardie or a member of the Shower Posse. Yep - she has to do whatever it takes

Teenagers!! Is Dearra your daughter? It does sound as if she has a good head on her shoulders...hopefully all of this will be resolved soon. As for the other girl whose boyfriend wants her to take pictures, someone needs to tell her the trouble she could get into with the school system and even court system for taking revealing photos of the other girls without their permission and then distributing them, because this is what she will be considered doing.

Hey, she is definitely a smart girl to realize that the teenage girl's boyfriend doesn't really care about her. I remember the years when I was a teenager and I remember the array of emotions that I went through during that time. It really is a difficult time in one's life. However, knowing that she does have that good head on her shoulders is going to be a great benefit to her in the long run. So, did the boys pick on her again?

That girl obviously is considering it if she's writing to Abby..My God..I'd have never done that for a boy..that kid is a total perv! Tell her to give those boys "the look."

Dearra has got it figured out. Go, Dearra! Now, let's see if she can get the two boys under control by herself. If not, it may be time to step in and help. But let's see how she does on her own.

Good for her! Hope it all works out in her favour! You must be proud that she is a sensible young women with a good head on her shoulders and knows what is right from wrong!

Wouldn't you think that parents would wise up and educate their kids as to what is really going on. Forget dumb teens...some parents are totally dumb.

i read that in the paper.i couldn't believe that girl actually had to write dear abby about it.her boy is a junior perv in training.and the lil bast*rd will probably upload those poor girls pix somewhere. if she has a cell,tell her to just film them doing it. sometimes the only way to get a school to act is to shove it right in their face. back in pre-columbine days,my school's only answer to any harrassment was "you must be doing something to encourge it" or "he has to do something first". needless to say,my school was run by a-holes.

How awful that this girl writing to Dear Abby even has to THINK about her decision! What does that say about this girl's self esteem - she has NONE. My daughter is also too shy to speak up in school. She didn't want to go to the teacher but didn't want to continue being picked on either. So I told her to stand up at her desk and very loudly tell the boy "stop it". One day she finally did and the teacher took notice and the problem stopped. She did have a more serious problem with 3 boys at school back in 7th grade where she had to take a more stronger approach. She went to the teacher before class started and told him what was going on and then told him that she wanted him to talk to these boys and make them stop. She had practiced her speech the night before and the teacher called me to let me know how proud he was of the way she handled herself regarding this situation and that he had talked to the boys and hoped there wouldn't be any more problems. There weren't! Good luck to your daughter, I hope she gets through to those boys in her science class that they're messing with the wrong girl! It's very important to be strong, especially during their teenage years.

Thats bad thats shes even considering it. Young girls really can be so dumb. If she takes pictures of the girls in the gym changing room without them noticing and the guy shows anyone and its found that shes the one who took the pictures she can get expelled or sued. Its just a really stupid idea. I hope she tells the guy that he can go to h3ll if hes going to treat her like that. As for your daughter I'm glad that shes brave enough to stand up for herself!

I know I was pretty stupid too when I was young. So a prank like this sounds like something I would think of when I was in school. Except of course I'd have to have a girlfriend in the first place. And that would be a stretch because I know I was pretty dorky then. Maybe they just like her. Isn't that supposed to be the reason why boys tease a particular girl?

Good for her. I hope that is the end of it. I remember bullying alive and well back in the 60s. People had one basic concept of it... Boys will be boys and sometimes girls are mean too. It helps children sharpen their skills (teeth). It was basically ignored and therefore fueled, giving us what we have to deal with today! I had to raise my kids next door to a bully, the neighbor's daughter! Her mother had the "kids will be kids", lazy, stupid, parenting attitude. That led to a life of crime. She learned to respect nothing