do/would u deal with ur children strictly?

i think i'm a bit of both. my son has learning problems, which doesnt help my cause. i want him to learn some respect for his elders, as it's a thing a lot of children are not learning these days. it may seem unfair to the kids at the time but then later down the track they will realise that we did cause we care.

Give them a bit of slack. Sometimes, when the parents is too strict with the children, it will have a reverse effect. The children might become rebellious as a result. I think the best way would be to adopt a consultative yet firm approach.

It is possible to be strict and loving. There are certain rules that are important for safety, and you should be strict and enforce those rules with appropriate discipline (being strict does not mean that you have to spank or hit your children!) It is important that your children know that it is not them you don't like, but their behaviour. In fact, if you didn't love them very much, then you wouldn't care if they stayed out all night, because you would't miss them if something bad happened to them. The fact that you make safety rules is proof that you love them more than anything. I think it is too strict to have rules "just because." There are many different personalities and situations, and the rules your parents had for you, or the ones your child's friends' parents have for their children, might not be a good fit for your child. A loving parent will always think before making rules, and realize that rules need to change as a child gets older.