Oh not again!
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
United States
November 10, 2010 9:53pm CST
I am watching a train wreck. It is the wreck of my brother in law and his wife's marriage. This is the second time they have been married to each other. There where other marriages in between. They have been spinning out of control and now it has become violent and nasty. He is my husbands brother and we are not happy with the things he is doing. She is no peach, but what he is doing is bad, real bad. We are at a loss as to what to say or d. We do not want to be involved but at the same time we have real concerns for the children involved. They are smack in the middle f this living hell and we just feel so horrible for them. The cps have been called twice this week on them and there is talk of the kids being removed form their parents. We are the only family in the state and would of coarse take them even if it would double the amount of kids in my home. Oh what to do what to do?
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@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
11 Nov 10
My God. Only you know what you can do. Stay level headed and make sure those kids are removed from them. Get involved, get in the middle. Even if that means a fight. Stay in contact with your police department if you do take those kids in. They will give you great advice even if it is to lay low when you are caring for their kids. Let community resources, even teacher know the children are in need so therefore you are too. I hope this helps!
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
11 Nov 10
They like us home school, so she is the teacher. The police know all too well what is going on.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Sorry but I can't let this go. I can't imagine they are learning much when they have an abusive environment at both home and school! After all their home is also their school. I am always amazed that even the smartest of people do stupid things! Can a counseling program while in your home be considered Social Studies? No joke!
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
14 Nov 10
According to the State it is not bad enough to remove the kids as non of them have been physically hurt. I have issues with that, but he walked out and has not returned so far now it's ok...for now.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Nov 10
iT'S SO SAD FOR THE CHILDREN TO BE LIVING IN SUCH A MESS. The adults need to shape up or get out. I admire u for saying u will take the kids. They surely do need to be removed from such a bad situation.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
12 Nov 10
it is very sad for children to have to be raised in that crap. Shame on the parents!!!
hi 2004, granparents can be a pain to, lol.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
11 Nov 10
They have not removed the kids yet but I am hoping they do so in this stat so that pone of my nephew isn't given back to his mother (different relationship) back in NJ. She is off the wall and we have already sent her a letter asking her to sign off custody to us so that if they take him away we get him not her. Last time around she did this. Then her parents got involved and the courts agreed to let her have visitation, mediated but visitation. They all need to have their productive organs sterilized. We have offered to take them but at the moment they are all to into using the kids as pawns in their fighting.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
11 Nov 10
There are spme relationships that are just too volatile to work out. Those involved in these relationships just can't see it. Opinions of others seem to make it worse. The relationship is beyond repair before anything can be resolved.@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
12 Nov 10
You would think they would have figured that out during the first time they divorced each other.
@strawberryboy (27)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
I know I'm not in any position nor in any age to give my opinion on this but like what I've heard on TV, they should start by identifying the problem first--financial, love, third parties,etc--and then start from there. That's the only thing that you guys can really work out on. And in the first place, why are they keeping up with the marriage? I know that they have thoughts of a complete family for their children but then in the long run, it would also be the children who would suffer.
I guess only time can tell. It's their relationship and I think the only way that you guys could help is to keep on doing what you guys are doing. Giving the family at problem, especially your sister, the support that she needs. For example, by taking care of their kids while they solve their personal problems together.
Be strong! Everything would turn out fine! :)
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
12 Nov 10
They are too broken to fix. It is all collateral damage to clean up.
