If you're very angry with your partner, is love for him be diminished or gone?
By dragonangel
@dragonangel (551)
November 10, 2010 10:18pm CST
Hello friends! I am wondering how it is with you when it comes to you and your partners having some arguments.In my case, i notice everytime we have an argument, i could feel that my love for him is decreased in a way like I don't want to see him or I don't want to talk to him or even hear his voice.I would feel that love is diminished actually though when we can be able to patch things up then I could see feelings of love resurfacing again.How about you in low times with your partner, how would you feel?
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@harry89 (2330)
• India
11 Nov 10
Actually if you get angry on your partner does not diminish your relationship. But it can really depend on the reason why you are angry with your partner, if it is just a little thing then it won't mattepr but if it is due to a big reason then the relationship may get on the verge of breaking up too. So it depends on the reason. Happy mylotting.
Regards,
harry, :-)
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@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
Hi, I don't mean it's the relationship that diminishes but it's the feelings.But you see ,once the feelings is shaken , tendency is the relationship also might be distorted a bit.And you're right, it depends on how serious the cause is.It may be less and still be mended or it might be too deep that could break it.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie.
It's normal to feel that way when angry, but do try too keep that feelings at bay.
I know it's not easy to just get along each day, but both of you need to make that effort to not argue about things.
And i can bet you it is such small little things that it's not really worth arguing about?
But on the other hand, you should see me when i am pissed at mine.
TATA.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
So it's really unimaginable huh?You know what sometimes it's just tiresome or boring to give someone a big piece of our good mind and then only get disappointing things as a return.ughhh
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
Yeah, sometimeseven minute details coould be a reason for argument which is wrong.I guess tolerance level has to be increased.Oh! I wonder how you are once your under the spell of anger.TATA
@picjim (3002)
• India
11 Nov 10
One gets angry and at times infuriated.But spare a thought for our partner maybe something in us troubles them also.I feel its best we not give in to these momentary impulses.In low times i would feel angry but i will train myself in such a way that i do not let it effect me too much.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
I'll take that from you, we shouldn't give in to our momentary impulses of anger.No wonder people usually advises us not to make decision when you're under anger, becuase mostly it will turn out wrong.
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
It's just natural to have arguments sometimes. I have experiences like that with my husband too. But to say that love diminishes is wrong. Maybe we feel some kind of negative emotions when we argue with our partner but it should not be a reason to say that our love diminishes. As husbands and wives, we need to settle things and don't let the sun goes down on us until we patch things up. Love must always be above everything and as we overcome our relationship will get stronger.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
That's a good advice from you hanni.It's really important to have our focus on love right and the intention to make it even more stronger.Yeah,I agree, problems do come up from time to time but there are also solutions for it and it's not breaking up but mending things together.
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
That's the only way you feel because you are angry or you have a negative feeling, that's why you thought the love is diminishing. But analyzing in general, of course not. Love can't diminish that easy with just an argument unless it is happening for a long time that you think you just have to give up. The anger will subsides and when it subsides, the love will also be there.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
Yes, once the anger subsides,love comes to the surface again.For all we know, it is just hiding somewhere,overlapped by other feelings.
@X16111984 (32)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
for me its not. love is always there. maybe the respect will be affected
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Anger is an emotion we feel for different reasons at different times in our lives. Even in anger, love for a partner should not disappeaar. If love can fade away with anger, it may not have been love after all.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
I agree with you , our anger has it's own duration and it depends on the gravity of the cause of it.Say for instance of it's really really serious then it will take a longer time compared to the trifle ones.And also, the effort of the one who causes anger plays an important role here too.The more the effort, the great possiblities of forgiveness can be seen.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 10
Hi Dragon Angel
Well, to some extent I agree with you, but it also depends upon the type of arguments or type of discussion, If it is really a very serious matter then offcourse, I feel that I should not hear him more, but it is only for some time and again we come close to each other with more love.
This thing happens in every one life and I think this is good sign if you both love each other and have arguments on different matters because this thing help you to understand each other and to love each other.
But you know the charm of love when you have good argumentation after that anger and then reunion in the evening or at night, that one is really charming and beautiful love...:)
Have a good day...
@Bannybanzie (1397)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
I think it's just normal to have that "diminished love" especially when you're angry. But it would always be good to keep in mind the good traits of each other and love each other more after the hard times.
Of course, there are cases in which people just cannot forgive their love ones and hatred is what they feel. Happy are those who find partners that would always be loving them, but sad are those who have been lied to many times.
If we got someone who loves us no matter what, let's take care of them the best we can!
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
your indeed right.we need to focus on the positive side of the person also.In this way we'll be prevented to despise the person much.It's like a sort of balancing so to say right. And if the pisotive out weighs the negative , then forgiveness is best be given them ...
@joysantos (131)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
I feel the same way sometimes. When we are arguing, I feel that my love for him is getting little. But as we learn to talk and patch things up, the love become more stronger.
@dragonangel (551)
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11 Nov 10
exactly, when things are talked over and come to be given solution and both are acting together to work things out then it will be much much better.
@wg2010 (38)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Sometimes love is diminished, or lost altogether. But sometimes it just seems that way, until you kiss and make up. I think that true love can withstand the worst argument. If you really love someone, whatever they do or did, can be forgotten and forgiven.
