High school bullies, what would you do to the bullies now that you are older?

Chances are you will never see them again or you may become their boss someday. If you take revenge then you are no better than them. Better to show them that you are a better person.

It is funny how we can think back, but at the time we did not think it was funny. Amazing how the bullies back then thought they were cool and did all sorts of things to other people just get some laughs, unknowing how this would affect a person later in life. I do think a bit on how the bullies behaved towards me back in the day and although it is a bit upsetting still, what I try to do is remember that while they were acting this way, I knew at some point they would encounter someone yet bigger and bigger bully, so all I can think is that they either changed their ways or someone beat their ways out of them.

bullies caused me to drop out of highschool; the garbage I had to put up with was nonstop. now, I would line up the bullies and execute them with an ak-47. overkill indeed,but efficient.

when i was a kid and in school, i wasn't a bully but i was short tempered. i didn't bully around but i remember beating up my pals if they upset me or we had a quarrel. i don't know, maybe i wasn't good at quarreling verbally (i still am not). so i used to let my actions do the talking. they were kinda scared of me - not that i demanded of it. that was when i was around in the 4th, 5th, 6th standard. but later on i quit that habit as i became more matured and sensible. so the second half of my schooling was a quiet one compared to my violent nature in the first half. i hardly even quarreled later on and was one of the coolest guys. i was happy that way. i had nothing but nice relationship with everyone. that was much better than the hot-headed, short-tempered, violent me. so, no bullying!

Having been severely bullied at school, your question has really given me cause to reflect. As an adult - and student teacher - I have come to the realisation that bullying is an epidemic that runs much deeper than a simple bout of naughtiness. For instance, as an adult I learned that one of the bullies who targetted me in secondary school was severely beaten by his father. And, while I don't condone what he did to me, I do understand - in hindsight - that his behaviour at school was an outlet for what he was going through at home. So, with that in mind, I would want to get to the root cause of the behaviour. Punishing a bully is not going to work if they have been bullied themselves; if they have no positive influence; or their anger is the consequence of deep emotional and psychological anguish. I do not believe that children are inherently bad; but bullying is an issue that is a lot more difficult to tackle once they have grown up. If it is handled at its earliest stages then the cycle of violence can stop. I realise that this does little to relieve the distress of the victin; however, I feel that the bullying will cease with greater speed and ease if more adults ask the bully why they behave the way that they do; instead of simply telling them not to.

It happened years ago already, so i think better let go of it. For sure, that bully is now matured enough to do it again. What happened to you is that you file those bullying thing for years. Release it and you'll see that you will be able to smile with that bully and who knows, that would be the start that he will remember those days and apologize. Be happy. :-) have a good day!

I think, if that happens to me i'll just don't mind him. Now that you are already grown up, there's no point on arguing with this guy. You are just wasting your time if you are going to take revenge. It is not good to take revenge on him. Just don't mind him and forgive him. Your current situation is different from the past. I mean just forgive him for being harsh to you, maybe he is just an immature guy before.

Well, I am not that sort of bully. I am not into action but words. I guess I have receive my punishment and now I asked for forgiveness. Anyway, if someone who alwyas bump into me I would like to smack them right to their face so they will remember who I am. Not such a weak girl.

nothing i'm far too old to be associated with them anymore plus they probably won't talk to me cause some of them received a whupping from me back in the day hahaha

I really think that bullies just need to go up against someone like them, get their block knocked off and put them back in their place, especially when they are older. There is only so much counseling and the like can do as they get older.

I was a transferee during my third year of high school. Of course not having friends or even acquaintances at school back then was a sure lure for bullying. I was the odd one out simply because I didn't belong to a specific crowd. I had a few shares of bullying the first few months. There were no saviors or people who protected me. The process of finding friends was a long process because I was extremely shy (and again, different). Well a teacher noticed my talent for fiction writing and I immediately got a writing stint at our school paper. I thought, finally, finally I'd belong to something worthwhile. Most of the staff were friendly, but a few kept on bullying me because apparently I got the writer's spot someone from the "popular crowd" was working for the past two years. So I got heckled, I got tripped, I got called names and all that jazz. Luckily I was not that sensitive. I won a contest for our school and that helped. Few months later, I got civil with the crowd. I got my own set of friends and the whole high school ordeal was bearable. If I was the one who bullied you, I wouldn't admit to your face that I was insecure of you. Lol.