What should I do when meeting the following situation?
By koAebryant
@koAebryant (358)
China
November 11, 2010 7:43am CST
At the first of the term,I like a girl,until today I encourage myself to talk with her and ask her telephone number.But to my disappointment,she is not interested in me at all.Although I do not express my mind directly,I dare that she understands my purpose.
This afternoon,she does not accept my invitation to dinner with me.I am very sad for this thing.I do not know why she refused me.I don't know whether I should go for her.It is my impression that she do not like me.She even do not know my name.I am very sad.I want to jump off a building.
What should I do?continue or not?
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9 responses
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
11 Nov 10
For 1, no man or woman is worth jumping off a building for. there are plenty of fish in the sea. I would consider it her loss and move on. just my thoughts!!...there is someone for everyone you just need to wait for her...remember all good things come to those who wait :)...please dont do anything because someone out there is waiting for you also!!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
11 Nov 10
No! Don't Jump! Question, she doesn't even know your name? Why? you never just said hello to her in passing?She doesn't really know you. I think that is why she said no. Any girl won't just go out on a date with a total stranger! I think she said no Not because you are not attractive or anything like that. It is because she doesn't even know you. You tried and she said no. I don't think you should try again. I'm so sorry. The next time you see a woman you would like to date, get to know her or better let her get to see you are a nice guy First. Then ask her out.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Nov 10
Would you believe me if I told you to the woman who will love you will find you beautiful Just the way you are? It is true! Just be yourself, your kind , considerate self. Just start slowly, Just say hello the first time and then hello how is everything going? And then after getting on a speaking terms , then ask her out for coffee or tea. something causal. Then see what happens. It Does take courage to start to talk to a beauty . Go for it! I wish you luck. I'll be here for you.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
12 Nov 10
Very thank you!Your response is very reasonable.I will try again.But I do not have enough confident to go for her because I am not enough handsome.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
11 Nov 10
Ouch! I am so sorry. Yeah, one of my guy friends admitted to me that he liked this girl the other day, but to my disappointment and his, she didn't love him back. I asked her what she felt about him before he said anything, and she told me that she wasn't interested in him, and I told her that if he talks to her and says anything to her, just tell him as nicely as you can that you are not interested in him, and tell him that there will be plenty of other women out there for him, but that you are just not the one. It really sucks when things like this happen, but don't give up on love. Like I said, there are plenty of other women out there, just because she isn't the one for you, doesn't mean that the one for you isn't out there. She might be right under your nose, and you don't even know it. Also, she may have refused you because she might have a boyfriend already, or she doesn't know you well enough to have any feelings toward you. Also, some women are just really guarded. They wouldn't know that love hit them in the face if it did.
I had this one friend who shoved off most of the guys that she was with except for my brother (because my brother was just that kind of guy, there was a reason we called my brother "Tony Stark"), but after my brother fell in love with the girl of his dreams, and then passed away, my friend fell for my brother's friend. They are a perfect match for each other, and now they are seriously dating. She is dating a guy that she knew since high school, but if it wasn't for my brother, she would have never really gotten to know him.
This girl could have a shield on or she could just be really guarded. You might not be the first guy she turned down, you probably won't be the last. She wouldn't know love if it hit her in the face.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
12 Nov 10
I will accept your advice.I do not know when my love come.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
12 Nov 10
I was 22 years old when the love of my life came around, and at times, I still have my doubts, but right now, things are pretty good. Again, your true love is out there, you may have to wait awhile.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
I think you're the only one who can answer that question.
Well you see, if you really love a person you will do eveything just so that person would recognize you. You do not need to rush things and you don't have to be disappointed about yourself regarding this. In some cases, if a person really loves another person he/she will be willing to let go of that person just so that the person whom he/she really loves will be happy.
But if you really like her and you're really eager to with her just try to do everything to impress her. You see, some girls like to be with a guy who's full of determination and courage. Asking her to dinner is not the only way to impress her, try giving her flowers or chocolates, these often works.:)
@tummalapalli (251)
• India
11 Nov 10
Never think of silly things like jumping off a building and other things for a girl who doesn't even know your name... Think of the parents that brought you up till now with a lot of love.... By the way.... There is no necessity to leave her... You can just continue with her... But first make friends with her... Let her know you better and may be then you should invite her for something....
@crackx (628)
• Belgium
11 Nov 10
It's hard for us to tell, since we can't reall have seen the expression on her face, or on which way she has refused to go to your place. But as far that I can see from this text only, is that she might just not really be into you. But this is just because she doesn't know you yet, even though she doesn't seem to be mattered by it as much.
I say she might just not be worth it to you, not to her in any way. As you usual get to know the person better before you start a relationship. And I can notice that you do want this, you might have an idea what she is like (and if not, it could be the time to get to know her better). I'd say you could give her another chance to make up for the last invitations of yours. If she says no to that, than she probably isn't interested and you shouldn't continue on going for her. So I'd say go for something small, and if she accepts that, than you start knowing her, and she gets to know you. Her interest in you might become bigger than it is now, as well the same for you to her.
Something as going to the movies is probably one of the smallest things, you don't have to pay for her if you know in advance she won't accept that. Cause that would give her the impression that you want to go faster and she isn't really thinking about that yet. But if you noticed that she was excited to go to the movies than you can. You got to feel the situation there.
She can interprate going to the movies in many ways, so it isn't very close to her inner self, how she is inside I mean by this.
Jumping off a building won't do you nor any person near to you any good. I very well know why you think like that, but consider what happens if you do. There is no way back, if you really would do this. (but I don't go further in this subject, since it will invite others to make this a religious discussion.)
I'd say once more, and than drop it, how hard it might be.
Good luck to you,
all the best.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
12 Nov 10
Thank you for encouraging me!I will continue to go for her until she refuses me directly!
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
12 Nov 10
Jumping off a building is most definitely not the answer! No one is worth that especially if there is another girl waiting just around the corner who may be the right one for you. We’ve all been through situations like this I’m sure. I recall really liking a guy at school who didn’t know or cared that I existed! I was deeply hurt by the rejection but I didn’t jump off a building although I sure felt like it! Well I am glad I delayed that decision because if I hadn’t I would not have eventually met my husband who is the right one for me! Hang in there koAebryant, it is tough but worth hanging on because as I said, you never know who you might meet soon!
@pankajgarg (797)
• India
11 Nov 10
well girls according to my experience possesses a magic of knowing our feeling just by looking at us. she might not be interested in you or she may have other things as priority. so do not even consider jumping as an option. be cool have a fresh start. so do not ask her for a dinner or date next time. just try to be good friends......
@naturalbella889 (135)
•
13 Nov 10
please don't jump off a building or do something to hurt not only yourself but your loved ones. Not being with that girl is not the end of the world. Again you don't know why she's not into you. It could be her, she's not ready or she has issues in her life that does not allow for a relationship.