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try to calm down and breathe, if that happens a lot, maybe you can write to him and express what you feel in writing. Sometimes it works better than a face to face confrontation. If it does not work maybe you can ask a relative to help you deal with your kid. If he is still in the puberty stage that behavior is still normal. In Psychology that stage is the rebellious stage wherein they want to feel independent, they wanted to feel authority. It will pass, just guide him along the way and don't push him hard with advices or opinions for it will only aggravate the situation. Find someone who is dear to your child, the person that he look high upon or whom he respects most and asks that person to guide your child and to show senses to your kid. I hope you will be in good term again soon.

The first time my son did this to me I told him, (hey, you did not say, Hey mom lets argue!) I will not speak to my children when they start yelling at me. But I'm a tough old buzzard. I'll always be here for you but........... Ground rules. It works! At least it does for me.

OMG..did you and I parent the exact same child!! I have the same problem with one of my sons. Anyone that knows me knows NOT to ask me for my opinion if you don't want the truth! I can't stand when someone wants your opinion, you give it, and they don't like the answer. I often tell my son, if you want a BS lie, then ask someone else, not me. I am talking about my middle son, my older son knows better. I think when they grow up a bit, they understand better. My oldest son is almost 22 and he knows that I have never steered him in the wrong direction and no only do I give my opinion, it is honest and I have usually been through the same thing he is questioning, so I know better. My middle son is just 15 and he still believes in the mentality that mom doesn't know better, I don't even think he realizes that yes, I was once 15 as well!! I think sometimes kids don't necessarily want your "honest" opinion, but with me, that is what you get!

Dear hardworkinggurl, I understand how painful it must be to you. I have no children of my own, but I am a teacher and I feel like I could say something about kids - even if they are already in the middle of growing up or have already reached this stage.Something I noticed in my experience is that everyone should be taught how to be independent and how happy and responsible they get once we permit it.And it really works for kids and adults.Ah, about your son...I know it might be hard for you, but once you know both of you are unhappy with this situation, you could help him out of it and everytime he gets with a what would you do question you could start by simply telling him this: "Honey, you know how different people can be, but I will share with you how I would deal with this situation. But only you can decide what is best for you." you will still be the best mom ever, because you'lllisten to him. But in fact, in the end, he must feel he was free to have a choice.It must seam silly, but the way we put words and the sound of our voices can influence a great deal the message and how it is going to reach the person you are trying to communicate with. Y understand you do not get stressed by the fact that he ends up agreeing with you, I understand you get stressed because he acts like you were almost giving him an order. I have a very funny movie to share with you. It is called My big fat greek weeding and it shows something really interesting about women getting what they want...it would be relaxing and instructive. My best wishes for you and you son always!

Dear hardworkinggurl, I understand how painful it must be to you. I have no children of my own, but I am a teacher and I feel like I could say something about kids - even if they are already in the middle of growing up or have already reached this stage. Something I noticed in my experience is that everyone should be taught how to be independent and how happy and responsible they get once we permit it. And it really works for kids and adults. Ah, about your son...I know it might be hard for you, but once you know both of you are unhappy with this situation, you could help him out of it and everytime he gets with a what would you do question you could start by simply telling him this: Honey, you know how different people can be, but I will share with you how i would deal with this situation. But only you can know what is best for you. you will still be the best mom ever, because you listen to him. But in fact, in the end, he must feel he was free to have a choice. It must seam silly, but the way we put words and the sound of our voices can influence a great deal the message and how it is going to reach the person you are trying to communicate with. Y understand you do not get stressed by the fact that he ends up agreeing with you, i understand he gets

how about giving him an answer in the form of a riddle. let him figure out the answer on his own. let your answers raise more questions, this will discourage him from doing what he does now.

I have had people like this come and go in my life. The thing is, he is part of you and will never go away, I hope. I would probably start handling the questions in a little different way. It may be that he just needs to try out his ideas, so I would start out, when he says, "What would you do?" and ask him "What are your choices?" then I would ask, "Which one feels right to you?" and "What is the worst thing that can happen if you make that choice?" It sounds as if he needs a sounding board, more than he needs you to solve the problem for him. He needs to be encouraged to trust his own decisions.

As a father of 4 I have some idea about raising kids. Your son would not be asking if he didn't want an answer! Your obligation is fulfilled as soon as you respond to his question. You should go no further than this. If he objects, then fine! You have done your part, now its up to him to accept your advise or reject it. Do not let his reaction to your answer get to you. It was kind and considerate of you to answer his question. Now just let it go, and quietly hang up. Once he realizes you won't listen to his objections he will be more considerate of his Mom.

i guess once you become a parent that goes with the package. what ever your child/children feels you feel it too. my son is only four but the other day he caught his finger at the door that made him cry out loud and i felt bad too. reading your discussion made me see how you and your child are close, you build a relationship that made your child call you and not calling his friends. sounds like your child is confused in some way that only the right words can make your child okay. since you are the parent i as sure a lot out there will understand why you feel wreck. you are in a complicated situation roght now but you really need to be strong for your child.

Yup, raising children. Rewarding, frustrating, we love them, so we can't kill them. I say go take a nice, hot bath!

In some 'milder' way I think I am experiencing the same thing with my 10-year old. And I hate the thought of what will happen when he grows up a bit. Where we'll have the same discussion over and over again. And the same arguments. We have the same zodiac sign, and both of us can't stand to be mistaken. I'm sure we'll have screaming matches down the road.

Hi Hard worker I think this is the same problem with all those mothers whom kids are intelligent. I think he is like you, want answer of question around him, this is sign of an intelligent child, God has chosen you to take care of this great gift, so this mean you have high responsibilities on your shoulders, he ll ask you different type of questions, it is child nature and this is up to you to answer in best possible way, he may or may not agree, but you know as he is kid, he can only think up to a certain point while you have experience of life, the same thing in different wordings can be different for you but it is not for him, so with kid you should also have to be a kid, you need to keep your self at that level when you are talking to him and I think this is the best possible way to tell and teach him. Dont ever think that he is intentionally doing this kind of things, he is kid and it is his nature, so, be kind to him, God ll always help you...:) Have a nice day....Keep smiling, it ll improve your face value...:)

What you have to do is not talk to him, I mean talk to him but make sure you let him feel that you are upset with him. Don't answer him right away make believe you did not hear him when he first talks to you and when he asks you again then you say you did not hear him and he is going to run after you, you'll see.

Let the person you are teaching come to grips with talking postively and not interupting or yelling all the time. He should try and listen to what you have to say, and if he doesn't try to make him listen. Basically, whatever actions he has in speech, you too should have. If he yells out a loud, give him a copy of what he sounds like. And interruptions to your speech should not be tolerated. Giving tolerance for things that are wrong, will only spoil him and make your calls with him more aggravating. In the end try to relay your cause to him, and make sure he understands where you're coming from. If it is rather hard or annoying, try it once and see how it goes. Practive makes perfect!