Do you listen to everything that your mother-in-law tells you?

i agree^^ you listened to her advices, you appreciated it but you also need to make your own decisions. its yours and your hubby house so is up for you both to decide how to do things^^ she just let her opinion to you. but is you that have to think and do what makes both of you happy. you dont need to follow everything she told. you are married now so also need make your own decisions that im sure will be the best for you and your hubby^^ she just wanted to advise you but you dont need to follow all she said. just see and do what you think you want and what you dont dont do^^ isnt a disrespect dont worry. you respected her bcs you appreciated her advices but is normal that you want be you also deciding things with your hubby together^^ the best for you both

I guess I'm kinda the same way as you. Sometimes it annoys me when people think that they are giving me much needed advice, that I didn't ask for. But, on the other hand, none of us knows everything. And, we don't have to do exactly what someone else tells us do. It's actually not to listen to others all of the time in order to be more in charge of our own destiny. But, it's ok to listen. If you are open to just receiving others, you might actually learn something. It's hard sometimes to just listen, though.

Solicited advice is the easiest to accept, but the unsolicited might just be what we NEED to hear the most!!! We don't always see what we are really doing. So, when friends & family offer me the unsolicited advice, I tend to sit down & think how it applies to me the most. Sometimes, it opens my eyes to new & better ways to deal with things I thought I was doing perfect!!! While growing up I was told "you can't teach an old dog new tricks". However, in growing up I've learned "it's NEVER too late to learn"!!! With your Mother-in-law you need to understand that in her eyes you've just stolen her baby & she just wants what she perceives as best for him. She means no harm!!! More than likely it will get better with time, but some M-I-L never let it go. Eventually, you may need to sit her down & remind her that you love her son as much as she does & you will NEVER do anything t harm him. Hopefully by then she will have backed off some. Good luck with your "new" family!!!!

My live in boyfriends mother lives in a different state than us, although she loves me as a daughter-in law, more like a daughter. I believe I am the only one that patiently sits on the phone with her while she explains her day from the moment she wakes up until she goes to bed.. Maybe because we do not live in the same state, and the others have her closer. But I do admire her as you do yours. I listen, agree and even sound perky but after the discussion I pretty much go by what I feel.