How do you deal with gossipmongers?

You hit the nail on the head of how I deal with this kind of person. I am the kind of person that will listen to what someone is saying, but I really never want to get involved in the conversation because of the fact that I'm not comfortable with a lot of gossip. I've seen in my life that gossip does nothing but hurt people and that is the reason that I don't like to take part in it. That is actually one of the main reasons that I don't really get out of the house too often because people are too full of drama.

heres the logic: i hate gossipmongers i myself is a gossipmonger therefore, i hate myself.hahaha!!

As much as possible I avoid mingling with people like this because I do not want to be part of their group. Besides, these people also have the tendency to gossip about each other,too. Avoiding them seems the best thing to do. I don't want to entertain gossips, and I don't want to be a part of it, too. However, if it can not be avoided that I am the target of such gossip (and if it is ruining my reputation) then, I surely will do something about it. Probably, call that person's attention or file a case against him/her. But, I am lenient in general that I'd really ignore any petty issues about me. Eventually, they will die down for sure...:)

hello bingskee! i had been a victim of vicious gossips caused by a supposed friend two years ago. It pained me so much that a friend did that to me. I didn't mind the gossip so much even if it hurt my reputation since i know who i am and my family and real true friends knows me. The best way to deal with this gossipmongers when you're the one they tell about someone is to to tell them upfront but in polite manner to not include you in such a nasty and downgrading act. It is also best to tell frankly that what they're doing is wrong and should they think it otherwise, they should tell it directly to the one concern. There are people who, even if you're quiet and did not join in the conversation, the fact that you were present during the telling, would include you as being part of the gossipmonger, so better stay out and avoid these kind of people. They have a disease that is very difficult to treat and could be contagious if you open yourself to it.

My way of dealing with gossipers are to just say simply that i really am not somebody to say something of that person especially if the gossip ruins people dignity and honor it somewhat cruel. I believe that loose lips sunks ships and those people who like to talk about other people are small people because big people talk about big things (life, news, adventure, sports, etc.)

Don't give way to gossip mongers as they will ruin your reputation and state of mind. To combating these people by actively making new friends who you can trust, and don't let gossip mongers get their way. Strictly confidential information shouldn't be handed out, and people may take advantage of this. Know what information you are giving out, and be aware of shady people. Never put trust in these people, and let your ignorance with them fade the friendship. Anything that hurts your mind should be avoided. These people will only go so long, until they are scolded back or reprimanded. Negativism can lead to bad life styles, and these people should be left alone.

I find this discussion interesting. I am one of those that hates gossipmongers. I know some and I just don't appreciate what they are doing. I am a very straightforward person I directly discouraged people who does these things especially when you know they are talking about they are closed to like their friends and worst best friends. I have been a victim of this too. When someone I thought was true to me was talking behind my back. I should say they should stop and focus more on productive and positive things than do that to anyone. That's just a waste of time, unless if thats your way of living.. But that is still incorrect.

I dealt with this as a child! I left them behind in the dust! It's hurtful and hateful. Bogs me down.

Ask them point blank "what have been saying about me"? That will embarrass them and will likely cause them to avoid you. The link below is a good article how one guy handle it: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2889408/my_first_day_on_the_job.html?cat=44