Why have you deleted me????
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
Philippines
November 14, 2010 9:25am CST
I was confronted by my "so-called" friend that after 5 months of not hearing from me, asked me now that why I have deleted her on FB. The last time we ever communicated was when I was asking her to meet me since we have been friends from College.
The problem is even how hard I tried to reach a lot of my friends, they don't even intend to reply back, not online but you can also add sending sms.
This is what I replied to her "I just accepted the fact that no matterhow hard I reach out to my "so-called" friends they just ignore me and does not even have the time to reply back. I have deleted a bunch of them here on FB call it tacky but I guess I am just a nobodyto people I once remembered as FRIENDS...if I offended you, I'm sorry.. i was already hurt, long time back..
Have you deleted a friend on any social site, did they confronted you? What is your response to them?
14 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Nov 10
Hi Strawberrychocodahi,
I rarely delete any one from my friends list and that happens when they just dont respond to anything from me. Once I delete them, they never have come back but in case they did, I would be happy to add them back and send them an IM that "Please dont stay away from me... I fear Loneliness".
Hope that helps,
Cheers,
theSids.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
hi there thesids, well I did my best to communicate with her but I just cannot understand that after so many months, she asked me why I deleted her when she can obviously answer that to herself.
She has been a sister to me and we were best buddies in College. I came back to my country and wanted to meet her but she always has an alibi. I knew that she had new circle of friends as I keep seeing her sending messages to them, but she never even bother about me.
I just accepted that there are friends to keep and there are friends to let go, if and only if they are really worth to be called friends. Thanks for dropping by!
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Nov 10
Oh! Now I understand the situation better.
Yes, I agree with you that there are friends to let go and friends to keep. Maybe the distance part came into the play and affected your relation. But then, this is life and you have to move on...
Cheers,
theSids.
@maelourne (2)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
hi, my question is why is it that you will delete youre friends on you're list when infact they are youre friends maybe not the closes friends of yours but consider a friends, anyway i haven't deleted friends on my list, eventhough he/she can remember me or not, if he/she will respond to my mails or not, for me what is important i know how and what she is doing is fine with me, gaining friends is not on asking in return, but gaining friends and having the full understanding what youre friends is up to, chill and relax you will be surprised one day they will long to see you....
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Well thansk for your response Maelourne, actually I have posted there the reasons why and for me I guess the effort I did to communicate with my closest friends for so long didn't pay much because I still am ignored.
I will just have to take my "chill pill" and relax about it, but as I have said, I already deleted a bunch of hypocrites, sorry for the term, but indeed I cannot find any.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
I have never deleted anybody from a social networking site but I have refused a lot of invitations though. I'm not as active in facebook now as I was before because I don't want to be associated with my past friends that don't even considered me as their true friends anymore. I just don't want to seem rude to them by deleting their names, so I just don't open my account as often as before.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Well I have done that same thing but not on FB but on Friendster. By the time FB was famous, I signed up there are referred other friends to come and join me there. Well, sad thing I thought that being cold on that other social site would improve my communication to another site. But still some can be as warm as they are, and some can really be as plastic as they are.
@supermaster (70)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 10
yap i have ever deleted my friends once when he speak nonsense about me posting on my status for many times..... so just kiss goodbye with him
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
oppsie daisy! posted angry words at you?? oh my what have you done my friend?
@arkhan099 (110)
• Pakistan
15 Nov 10
yes i have , i waited for a response,sent a couple of messages but faced the same result , NO RESPONSE soooooo i sent them an angry email asking for a reason for their disappearance yet still no reply,i had to delete them i had no reason to keep them alive in my group of friends,people change is hat we all here no? so i guess their happy with their life so be it, i'm happy with mine.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
woohhooo, you even did sent them an angry email? and yet no response at all. Well they must have been avoiding you too,wonder what have you done to caused this. Just move on if they still don't want your friendship.
@dosemeup (30)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 10
I think it is only normal to delete people from your contact lists when they ignore you. What would you do in real life? The same.
If these people then confront you, then they do not understand that friendship is a two way street.
Sometimes people are so immersed in contemplating themselves that they mentally create a list of expendable friends they use as a social help when nothing else is available. It is sad to say but a lot of people actually run their own fan club.
What is even sadder is seeing that a lot of people don't mind being treated this way.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Yes, you are right at that point, no one does understand specially if they were really not even close to the person. People can just add strangers on their FB. But for me I keep it personal only so I know who are really there for me.
@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
16 Nov 10
I have delted on-line friends from either scoical sites or e-mial and IM address books befroe. I have never got a negitive reaction. they are typlyclay persons I have no loger hear from or do not want to speak with so I did delete them. sometime I have heard form one or two and I will reinstate them. most of my contacts stay intact.
@SHEKHAR3009 (162)
• India
16 Nov 10
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@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Nov 10
Hi there...
I am a member to mylot, fb and orkut but i have less friends on fb and orkut as i mainly enjoy mylot. Yes, i have deleted some friends here in mylot. As i add them they post some links asking me to join as their referral. Then i check their accounts and find a few posts even 0 but hundreds of friend. I think they make friends to send links that's why i have deleted them but not more than 10. No they have not confronted me?
Have a nice day.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Hi there, well it is your decision if you join or not. But anyway I haven't deleted any on Mylot, only on FB.
@Devilova (5392)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 10
Yes I do and yes they do.
Maybe it can make it more clear about my feeling when get ignored.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2403162.aspx
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
But have you tried your very best to talk to the person. Well I did, a hundred of times, through phone, through sms, through social network site. I even ask to go see her because she was a sister to me.
I just cannot force myself if someone does not want me to be their friend, and now she asked me why I did deleted her on FB? I just told her that reply on my post and I will wait what is her response.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 10
Of course I will delete someone in the social network.
I have deleted two friends in mylot too.
I deleted one of them because I were not interested in all of his/er new discussions.
Most of his/her discussion were about the SPORTS.
The other one I deleted because she was very rude to my comments.
ha! ha! ha!
This is the right time for you to learn and be prepared to survive in this society.
Most of the times, I don't simply deny or delete someone in my list.
The more friends I have, the larger of my network is.
We can not survive alone in this society.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
Sorry to hear about the rude member. You have the right to do that also. Thanks for replying.
@yanyanyow (326)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
i have deleted some of my friends on facebook since they are really not my friend and they just intend to annoy me in so many ways but not a real friend of mine. maybe they are just too busy thats why they cant call you or reply back to your emails and msgs. i dont think its right to just forget a friend because of not being visible with you as long as you both been friends before, no matter what your still friends
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
It's nota matter of busy my dear. I was back in my country to meet my long time friends, these friends are like my sister and we have shared good memories together for so long.
But things changed when their status symbol changed. They get to meet new friends with the same lifestyle that they now apply and yet when I try my very best to meet that friend, she always has alibis. I keep on texting and she even changed her number. By the time I got her contact number she said that she didn't saved my number
I have felt so pity about forcing myself. And now that I moved on, she confronted me why did I deleted her? what for? what's the use when I get it clear already that she was in her new circle of friends and that she don't even have time to reply, talk is cheap in this generation, sending sms would cost only cents and online social networks are rampant.
I can understand if you cannot even send any communication if your in an isolated place or jungle. But I tried my very best even going to their house, but she even neglected me...what can I do??
@kailoklok (139)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
they deleted you because you do something that they not want to or something that they didn't like you
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
You didn't get me and you didn't read what I posted. I was the one who deleted a friend... and that friend confronted me.
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
I deleted one or two but it was because of a fight or let's say a talk that i really don't like. But i guess with your reason, you can just ignore them as well if they are not replying, but never deleted the. Or probably, they don't mean ignoring you, it's just you thinking of that. With so many friends in fb, most likely, many chats or invitations are being ignored. Me too, i was ignored by a friend but never deleted her. You could have just told them your sentiments, and talk things over. :-) have a nice day!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
15 Nov 10
I don't have so many friends on FB because I reserve it only for family, relatives and my closed friends so most of what is there were my first and second degree friends.
I don't know if you have experience talking in the air when no one replies back, that's what happened. I don't mean to be harsh but I have no reasons to keep people who don't want to communicate even if I try so hard.
